When I was at school I never really had any proper friends because I was always labelled as 'the clever one'. Now I am at sixth form when I am in school I seem to have loads of friends but when it comes to having a social life out of school i don't have one. At the weekend most of my friends go to bars and clubs in the local area and because I don't look 18 they never ask me because they think that I will stop them getting in. Recently I read one of their text messages and it said " I don't think Opal will get in though, she just looks too young." I don't think they understand because yes I do want to go out but I really don't want to wear clothes and make-up that is no really me and that i don't feel comfortable in. What should I do?
Talk to your friends about it, not us. Tell them you don't think it's fair to have to put on an act with all the makeup and stuff just to be able to go out with them and if they don't respect that they're pretty lame friends. They should feel guilty then and invite you out - though your not missing much, going out sucks, stay at home and get addicted to the UKL forums!
Quite a lot of my friends are in their 40s andd 50s. people ddon't ask for ID when there are people much older than you. I am not saying you shouldd hang around with 40 year olds. I am friends with them because we have shared interests.
Don't do anything you don't want to do, when I was the only one underage in my group of friends I didn't want to go out when they asked me because I felt very self-concious that I wouldn't get in to places and then they'd either have to go back home or go in and leave me alone, so for a while I told them I couldn't, and whatever, but then I started reading *****y texts behind my back saying that they didn't want to include me anymore basically, in the end I just told them that I wasn't going to come out until I was 18, for their sake more than mine, one was fine with it, the other got in a bit of a huff, we arranged to go out for meals rather than bars a bit more and it's so much nicer, you can have nice girly chats! But I'm 18 now and everything seems to be going ok in that department. Talk to them, if they are really your friends they'll consider you and not be selfish about going out without you.