I STILL fancy him

I still fancy the same guy I have fancied since I was 13 and I am 17 now! I know that makes it sound like I have no life but in those years I have had several boyfriends, been on lots of dates and had lots of interesting things happen to me. The thing is, nobody comes close to him! We have had lots of phases together...friends, casually dating, lovers, enemies and totally estranged. Through all of that I have loved him. At the moment we barely talk but I still think about him a lot. It is not like I think of nothing else though, I've gone through that stage! The thing is though, before I go to uni I want one last chance to see what can happen. This year I am going to Glastonbury Festival and so is he. What shall I do to try to show him I am THE ONE. Telling him is not an option as it would creep him out. I need a fail proof plan...help? xx

Reply 1

Nix!

11

1) It's not love, it's lust. Thinking about someone a lot does not equate to love.

2) Don't bother if you're going to university soon because if something did happen - it would complicate things and chances are you or both of you will get hurt.

3) University is just around the corner. Once you're there you grow... a lot. I'm not saying you won't recognise who you were, but rather you'll simply change. I'd be willing to put money, albeit hypothetically on the fact that at university you will all but forget about this particular object of affection.

I'm just curious - do you spend lots of time together or is it more of a school-girl crush?

Reply 2

Purple

18

Instead of telling him everything, just say you like him and would like to go out on a date?

Reply 3

Clarence

14

I had that for a while but then got over it. I think i'll still have the odd pang when I see him.

Reply 4

Bedshaped

14

i reckon i have this.

but im over it.

...

:biggrin:

Reply 5

theredsox

15

I have that :smile:

Except I went and told him and then he pretended I'd never said anything.
Good sign? I don't think so.

Reply 6

Ben Dover the Lollipop Man

14

Anonymous

I still fancy the same guy I have fancied since I was 13 and I am 17 now! I know that makes it sound like I have no life but in those years I have had several boyfriends, been on lots of dates and had lots of interesting things happen to me. The thing is, nobody comes close to him! We have had lots of phases together...friends, casually dating, lovers, enemies and totally estranged. Through all of that I have loved him. At the moment we barely talk but I still think about him a lot. It is not like I think of nothing else though, I've gone through that stage! The thing is though, before I go to uni I want one last chance to see what can happen. This year I am going to Glastonbury Festival and so is he. What shall I do to try to show him I am THE ONE. Telling him is not an option as it would creep him out. I need a fail proof plan...help? xx

You're attached to him. If you see him again before university, then when are you ever will get over him? Be strict with yourself, everytime you think about him, do something else to take your mind off him. Easier said than done. But you have to be strong. I was like that beofre but now I'm over it. Was he your frist? that maybe why, but still you have to keep yourself occupied so you have no time for him.

Reply 7

Don Vito

theredsox

I have that :smile:

Except I went and told him and then he pretended I'd never said anything.
Good sign? I don't think so.

Ouch. Is he a shy person? Or, you mightve just caught him by surprise or something?

Reply 8

Nix!

11

theredsox

I have that :smile:

Except I went and told him and then he pretended I'd never said anything.
Good sign? I don't think so.

Actually the above poster does have a point. A girl told me she really liked me around this time last year but I didn't say anything. I guess it was a mixture between the fact of being a little shocked and she was blind drunk at the time so I concluded she probably didn't remember. Don't always take it as a bad sign, although I can understand why you did.

Reply 9

theredsox

15

He was both shy and caught by surprise, yes, but I'm still not holding out much hope :smile:

Reply 10

Wild Thing

11

I have that... :o:

Reply 11

Unique Brunette

Nix!

1) It's not love, it's lust. Thinking about someone a lot does not equate to love.

2) Don't bother if you're going to university soon because if something did happen - it would complicate things and chances are you or both of you will get hurt.

3) University is just around the corner. Once you're there you grow... a lot. I'm not saying you won't recognise who you were, but rather you'll simply change. I'd be willing to put money, albeit hypothetically on the fact that at university you will all but forget about this particular object of affection.

I'm just curious - do you spend lots of time together or is it more of a school-girl crush?

maybe difficult but true

good luck

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

I had this, I liked a boy at school for years. We became really good friends and sometimes would talk on the phone and msn well into the night and see each other all the time, then other times we didn't really talk at all. we went through phases. I've dated other people but, we finally got together at the end of last year and are still together. It was bit weird at first being such close friends. We are also going to uni together next year..if i get the grades lol

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

I have this...and I only have two weeks left at school with him. :frown:

I'm really going to miss him - we barely talk, but just being in the same room as him makes me happy. Oh dear.

I'm not really sure what you can do, but I guess these things do wear off when you start university. You'll both be different people in a few years; you will get over him.

Well, that's what I'm telling myself. :s-smilie:

Reply 14

noonespecial

Me and my ex-gf went out for a year on and off but we always had chemistry from about a year and a bit before that, but when we broke up it was really messy and took forever. She broke up with me to go out with someone else and they're totally attached dispite the fact we're all off to uni in September but there's a chance I might be going to the same uni as her, and if I am then I know this is dumb but she means a hell of a lot to me and I'd want to try again. (after lots of partying though)

I know at uni everything will change for the both of us, but I know I'll never forget her, and if she's at the same uni I want her to feel the same way, but after our bad breakup now I think that stuff is too messed up and she won't ever feel like that, it's reallly annoying! :frown:

Reply 15

ru88erduckee

the uni thing is debatable, i started in sept and i'm a really busy, sociable person but i still think about him alot. we broke up 4 yrs ago btw! worse thing is that hes also gunna be coming to the same uni this september, lol i don't know whether to laugh or cry!! xx

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