Prom date dilemma!

Hey people,

Basically, a good friend of mine (guy A) asked me out to our prom..."as a friend" he says but I can't help but think that this could lead on to something more than that. He's a great guy but I really don't like him in that way. In fact I really like this other guy (guy B) but unfortunately he likes someone else- he even asked her out to the prom but she declined. Guy B knows I like him....well he found out last december so he mite probably think i'm over him and sometimes in a jokey way says that I fancy guy A when I don't. There is a chance that guy B could ask me out to the prom but it's not really that likely.

So me and guy A are sitting at the same table anyway at our prom and I was planning on going with a group of friends, him included if he wanted to...i don't think that many people bring dates anyway unless they are already in a relationship. Do you think i'm overreacting and should just go with him...or do i let him down gently?

Reply 1

SmilerNuts

15

just do what my friend did, he took this girl he didn't know that well and amde it clear nothing was going to happen and then when he got there he chatted up the girl he fancied and ended up going out with her. Proms are a great place to flirt and get together and you surely aren't expected to stick like glue to the person you take

Reply 2

pumpkin7

13

hehe prom dates.. i think about 2 people asked others to go with them to the prom. most of us just went in our friendship groups.

i think it's up to you. if you don't want to hurt his feelings, then i should tell him that you would like to go with your friends (including him..) rather than string him along, and get him thinking that this could possibly lead somewhere.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

thanks for your comments. Keep them coming :smile:

Reply 4

Vohamanah

16

May I ask how old you are? :s-smilie:

Not meaning to patronise or anything, its just that when I went to my leaving school prom (at 16) noone went with dates, but when I went to my then-boyfriend's leaving sixth form prom much more people had dates.

EDIT: 'Much more people'?! Hmmm...

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

18, it's our 6th form prom...but still not many go with dates.

Reply 6

Vohamanah

16

Well if you know not many people are going with dates, I'd say no to a 'prom date' with this guy A, but say you'll go as friends and buy him a drink when there and then you are free to say yes if the other guy B asks you to go. As long as you do it nicely so as not to offend person A it should be fine. And if B doesn't ask you out you can just go on your own if other people will be doing so.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks guys for your comments.
I would kinda feel bad turning down guy A though cos he has been quite unlucky with the ladies and i do care for him as a friend...urgh I'm still confused.

Reply 8

super'girl

hahaha i went to my year 11 prom
everyone had dates
including me :wink:

nicest guy in my year!
alot of my friends asked me, i said no - i do not want to go with a date, that was silly of me

Reply 9

AJ-1

pinkpinkuk

May I ask how old you are? :s-smilie:

Not meaning to patronise or anything, its just that when I went to my leaving school prom (at 16) noone went with dates, but when I went to my then-boyfriend's leaving sixth form prom much more people had dates.

EDIT: 'Much more people'?! Hmmm...

ye in year 11, i never went to prom with my prom date, i only saw her at prom, after my limo/friendship group went and did our own thing with our lot. But for my 6th form prom this year, i dont know yet if im going there with my new prom date, but i might be, we arent in a relationship. Either way 1 month till prom, need to get limos booked, and buy a suit stil lol

OP, i think you should go with Guy A, you dont have to do anything with him, like you said you dont like him, and at prob you could still be his date, and go chat to guy B etc, but just dont do it infront of guy A bcoz that might probably hurt him a lot if he likes you. And you dont want guy A to feel too hurt, he might b a bit upset either way thou. Youre in a bit of a pickle really

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

AJ

ye in year 11, i never went to prom with my prom date, i only saw her at prom, after my limo/friendship group went and did our own thing with our lot. But for my 6th form prom this year, i dont know yet if im going there with my new prom date, but i might be, we arent in a relationship. Either way 1 month till prom, need to get limos booked, and buy a suit stil lol

OP, i think you should go with Guy A, you dont have to do anything with him, like you said you dont like him, and at prob you could still be his date, and go chat to guy B etc, but just dont do it infront of guy A bcoz that might probably hurt him a lot if he likes you. And you dont want guy A to feel too hurt, he might b a bit upset either way thou. Youre in a bit of a pickle really

yep i am in a bit of a picklet :s-smilie:

Ahh all the planning aswell! I want to hire a limo with my friends and I still need to get my dress. I'm really looking forward to it though :biggrin:

Reply 11

*Katie*

1

Anonymous

yep i am in a bit of a picklet :s-smilie:

Ahh all the planning aswell! I want to hire a limo with my friends and I still need to get my dress. I'm really looking forward to it though :biggrin:

I think it'll look a little presumptuous if you say you'll go with date A "as friends", as he's already asked you as friends (even if you don't believe it). So I would go with date A, and if date B or even a date C catches your fancy, then you won't feel guilty about going off with them - he said it was just as friends!
Just my thoughts.

Reply 12

*Claire*

1

If none of ur friends are going with dates then just play it casual & say yeah we'll all go together.

I was at a girls school which meant it was up to us to invite dates which was a gd role reversal! Altho as I had a bf it wasnt a problem

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

*Claire*

If none of ur friends are going with dates then just play it casual & say yeah we'll all go together.

I was at a girls school which meant it was up to us to invite dates which was a gd role reversal! Altho as I had a bf it wasnt a problem

Yeah i have a friend who goes to an all girls school and she's stressing about finding a date!

Thanks guys for your comments so far...I think i'm leaning towards telling him that I would rather go as a group of friends :s-smilie:

Prom date dilemma!

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