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confidence: ways of raising it

do anyone know ways of boosting ur confidence i.e. so you feel you can talk to girls in clubs or pubs, or just ability to talk to a complete stranger in the street

Reply 1

Reue

20

Alcohol. Works a treat.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

meet new people by doing things that interest eg joinin a sports club....

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

Anonymous

do anyone know ways of boosting ur confidence i.e. so you feel you can talk to girls in clubs or pubs, or just ability to talk to a complete stranger in the street

Yep. Just doing it. And realising there will always be people that aren't going to be interested, but by the law of averages you're more likely to find someone if you try than if you don't. Also, the more you do it the easier it'll get.

Reply 4

poetic_harriyot

Fake it. Stomach in, shoulders back, walk tall, tell yourself you're fab and eventually you'll believe it.

Reply 5

ice_cube

17

Reue

Alcohol. Works a treat.

Ditto. I did that for far too long. However I discovered if I could do it with alcohol I could do it without, and could.

Reply 6

Reue

20

Reue

Alcohol. Works a treat.

Apparently im a prick for that? (Rep recieved) Dont see why.. it was a perfectly valid suggestion and alot of people use alcohol as a way of getting confidence. Its fine as long as done in moderation.

Reply 7

EskimoJo

18

Haha! Really? You got neg repped for that? Never mind! (wasn't me).

Reply 8

n0b0dy

1

i agree with the joining clubs and taking part in activities suggestion.. u get to meet more people, so in a way improve ur communication skills which partly consists of confidence..

Reply 9

Fleece

15

Get a job in a bar.

Seriously - you'll get compliments, which naturally boosts your confidence, and it gives you vital experience in talking to people.

Go into work and think 'right, what shall I practice tonight...eye contact? flirting? general conversation?'

It's fun :biggrin:

Reply 10

Nix!

11

Fleece

Get a job in a bar.

Seriously - you'll get compliments, which naturally boosts your confidence, and it gives you vital experience in talking to people.

Go into work and think 'right, what shall I practice tonight...eye contact? flirting? general conversation?'

It's fun :biggrin:

Already do that myself. Flirt like a trooper but it's bloody annoying when you can't continue the conversation because of people whinging to get served.

Reply 11

Throwback

2

Number one rule is to feel good about yourself. If you are confident in yourself, you can then start to be confident towards others.

Reply 12

Anonymous #3

Fleece

Get a job in a bar.

Seriously - you'll get compliments, which naturally boosts your confidence, and it gives you vital experience in talking to people.

Go into work and think 'right, what shall I practice tonight...eye contact? flirting? general conversation?'

It's fun :biggrin:

I do not work in a bar, but I work as a waiter, so there is the same situation whereby there is the opportunity to stop and speak to people. However, I have never thought about stopping and 'practising' a certain skill, therefore I shall be tonight when I go into work lol general conversation this evening!! My confidence has gone up ten-fold since working there so it really does work. A bar would be somewhat better because you have longer to talk to people, but a restaurant is a similar situation!!

Reply 13

hixey101

I agree with working in a bar/restaurant that does work. Also just not caring what people think is very important I think, I used to get very paranoid about what people thought of me (and still do sometimes) but you do learn to work through it if you just conciously think that you dont care! Just go for it in other words.

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