Feeling so hopeless

I'll try to keep this short but basically i feel really depressed/stressed firstly because i don't know which uni to pick and have to decide by tomorrow as my mum has to send the student loan form off before she goes away in the eve, secondly because i'm having major problems with my bf and he is treating me awfully, thirdly my mums just told me my auntie has cancer and only a few days to live (i had absoloutly no idea she was even in hospital cos my parents don't tell me anything) and lastly general exam stress.... i just feel like giving up and everything seems to be getting worse and worse.... :frown:

Reply 1

Reue

1. Give us the options, we can help :wink:

2. Dump him.
3. Go and spend some time with her while you can.
4. EVERYONE has to do exams. You just gotta get them over with.

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

Reue

1. Give us the options, we can help :wink:

between manchester (classics) and nottingham (english and american studies) and i was leaning towards manchester because i like the place alot better but my friend said that she really wants me to come to notts and got upset when i said i think i'm going to put manchester as firm...
2. Dump him.
I really like him though :frown:

3. Go and spend some time with her while you can.
Am hopefully seeing her tomorrow but it's just made stuff seem alot worse.
4. EVERYONE has to do exams. You just gotta get them over with.
Very true, thanks.

Reply 3

Yellowmarshmellow

Anyone?

Reply 4

Vohamanah

Oh no sounds like you are having a terrible time of it :hugs:

Firstly tell your boyfirend to lay off you, you are under too much pressure at the moment so he has to be nice. Then sit down and think where you want to go to uni. From what you've said I'd go for Manchester. Theres no point going to a uni you don't really want to go to on account of a friend getting ***** about it. You are going to see your Auntie tomorrow so just make sure you make the most of every moment and let her know that you love her. Its a big shock for you :frown:

Don't let exam stress take over. Have you told the school about your Auntie? They may be able to help with exams. It certainly a mitigating factor. Try and keep calm and work through all these problems.

Reply 5

Anthony Arundel

Well, firstly, you must throw your friend out of the university equation. Don't base your choice on the fact she/he wants you to join her/him there. Go, at all costs, to the place you'd rather be, either because that's your gut instinct or because you've reasoned it'll be the best place for you. I had this worry about joining a friend at his university last year, and doing that would have been a huge mistake, I think.

About the boyfriend, I can't really help there. I don't know specifically what the problems are. I wouldn't just dump 'im - that's not very helpful advice, really. What I would do is put him and his idiocy on hold until you've got these more pressing concerns out of the way, as it sounds like he's just causing problems at the moment. When you've made your decision, seen your aunt, and whatnot, then talk with him (and, if you choose to do so, dump him, by all means, if you can't get through to him.)

On the exam front, I'd have to agree with Reue ... but don't fret about them too much. That won't help. Just make sure your revision's all in good shape, and don't let them get on top of you. :smile: