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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
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haraam fam

just find some other hobby to take your mind off it and block all the websites

drop to once a day, then once every 3 days then once a week then once every 2 weeks until you wean off it
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Whatever they say, wherever you pray, most of the people there have masturbated in the past month, if not week or day.

Why do you say it's a disease of the mind?
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There's nothing wrong with it, it's natural and healthy, stop worrying
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haraam fam

just find some other hobby to take your mind off it and block all the websites

drop to once a day, then once every 3 days then once a week then once every 2 weeks until you wean off it
I don't watch any websites when I masturbate. tbh if i tried decreasing the amount slowly i dont think ad be able to do that. I get impulses during the day that i feel i cannot control.

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Whatever they say, wherever you pray, most of the people there have masturbated in the past month, if not week or day.

Why do you say it's a disease of the mind?
I dont believe that to be true, there are true strong muslims who can control their desires because they fear Allah. I say it is a disease of the mind because it is an addiction like smoking and doing drugs.

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There's nothing wrong with it, it's natural and healthy, stop worrying
I should worry, i have seen online the side effects of masturbating and as a girl who wants to become practising i should stop.
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I dont believe that to be true, there are true strong muslims who can control their desires because they fear Allah.
What people say in public they do and what they actually do in private are often two very different things. Ditto what they tell other people to do and what they do themselves.

I say it is a disease of the mind because it is an addiction like smoking and doing drugs.
No it isn't. There's no physical change in your body chemistry, for example.

I should worry, i have seen online the side effects of masturbating and as a girl who wants to become practising i should stop.
Masturbation simply is not harmful. Your body reacts the same whether it's you doing it or a husband, and no-one is telling you that you shouldn't be sexual with a husband.
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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
come off anon and PM me
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come off anon and PM me
I dont think thats wise lol
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Let's see how long you keep your hand out of your drawers next year
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I dont think thats wise lol
I've been in a similar situation pm me if u need to.

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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
Hey trust me, PM me please
I'll try my best to help you, I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm a girl too. I'll explain more if you PM
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I dont think thats wise lol
i'm a girl im not gonna tell anyone/ get aroused by u telling me about ur masturbation lol i understand and can attempt to help
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It's normal, healthy and natural. In fact, there's a lot of positives when it come's to masturbating. Most people that say they don't do it, actually do anyway. So enjoy it.
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I've been in a similar situation pm me if u need to.

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i'm a girl im not gonna tell anyone/ get aroused by u telling me about ur masturbation lol i understand and can attempt to help
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Hey trust me, PM me please
I'll try my best to help you, I completely understand where you are coming from, I'm a girl too. I'll explain more if you PM
Thanks for your kindness, I will pm you if i need to xx
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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
Assalamu'alaikum,

I understand the problem you are going through. I hope you don't mind me advising you as I am an 18 year old teenager. I went through the same problem you had, and here are a few of the steps I took when I had this problem.

These urges arise from your nafs and your hormones/desires. These desires do not arrive from nowhere, they are always caused by something. This cause may be known to you, but may also be unknown. The first thing you need to do, is work out what this trigger is. It may be inappropriate thoughts coming to mind, it may be images, it may the lack of lowering your gaze, it may even be seeing yourself naked in the mirror or touching your vagina/parts of your body that are aroused by touch. Find this trigger, and get rid of it. Cleanse your mind and busy yourself with something. People who mansturbate will tell you that it takes a lot of time sometimes. Busy yourself with studying or even talking to friends.

Mansturbation is haraam in Islam, and things are haraam for a reason. They have psychological, as well as physical effects on you. You will start feeling pain, it may take you a lot to get aroused when you get married and it leads to more sins. You need to always remember that there are two angels by your side who see what you're doing. When I used to get the urges, I would imagine having friends beside me. I would imagine how I would feel if a religious person came and saw me doing the action. In the same way you wouldn't play with your vagina in front of others, you should be completely feel embarrassed about doing it in front of Allah (swt). Let the guilt stop you.

Even if you do not watch pornography, block all websites that have pornography or literature of erotic nature. A good way of doing so is by blocking it on your router settings or download softwares such as Qustodio which is free and can be download on PC's as well as phones and tablets. Block the stuff and think of them as filth. Its a battle of your mind against shaytaan.

I don't usually advise anyone to tell anyone about their sins, but with pornography and mansturbation, it can sometimes be difficult to do it alone. Find someone you trust who is religious and will not look down on you, and ask them to assist you. You can call them whenever you feel the urges and they can remind you, or even watch videos on youtube to take your mind of the feelings. Do not tell anyone else of this sin, as telling people will minimise the chance of you being forgiven for it.You need to train your mind to feel confident that it can do this. Thing of mansturbation as something filthy, you wouldn't want your brother or a male to see your vagina. It is a part that has been protected for yourself and for your spouse. These urges are normal, everyone will get it. But be strong about it. Try your best to never be alone unless you are changing. Keep your room door open or sit in the living room.

And finally, Make lots and lots of Dua. I can see your are sincere and you really want to stop this. Allah (swt) says 'I am here to forgive for the one who calls for my mercy'. Allah (swt) is waiting for you to turn back and he will rush towards you and help you. And watch, this is a personal promise from myself, you put your mind to it and be sincere, make due and Allah (swt) will bless you and make this easy for you.

YOU CAN DO THIS SIS!

If you wish to ask me any questions, feel free to do so. But do not in anyway uncover your identity. You are a noble muslim with dignity. Look after it.

Wassalamualaikum,
Your Brother in Islam
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'Masturbation is haraam in Islam'.

Depends on which branch of Islam you believe in.
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Why have a clitoris at all...
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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
You could always stop praying...fair trade IMO
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Without sounding rude, but maybe you should start agreeing with facts (science) and you wouldn't feel so bad.
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. You will start feeling pain, it may take you a lot to get aroused when you get married and it leads to more sins.
Absolute rubbish. Totally made up.

Any scientific proof that it causes you to start feeling pain or trouble getting aroused?
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