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I've stopped masturbating too (I'm a guy and my girlfriend has asked me to give up having orgasms in solidarity for Muslim girls and women who can't climax due to FGM). It's difficult for me, sometimes erections stop me sleeping or feel very uncomfortable, almost hurting. It'd be a lot harder for a girl. Female orgasms are a lot more powerful than ours, plus longer, and you have more of them. Also the female sex drive peaks just before periods due to extra hormones, and orgasms are a great cure for period pain.

For all these reasons I don't think it's possible for girls to give up masturbation, unless of course they're in relationships and can get their partners to get them off. If the OP's religion tells her she can't flick the bean I'm guessing she can't have a tame guy (or girl) flick it for her...

So that leaves just one option. Pretend to be as pure as driven snow, while actually wearing out the batteries on a drawer full of toys...
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Assalamu'alaikum,

I understand the problem you are going through. I hope you don't mind me advising you as I am an 18 year old teenager. I went through the same problem you had, and here are a few of the steps I took when I had this problem.

These urges arise from your nafs and your hormones/desires. These desires do not arrive from nowhere, they are always caused by something. This cause may be known to you, but may also be unknown. The first thing you need to do, is work out what this trigger is. It may be inappropriate thoughts coming to mind, it may be images, it may the lack of lowering your gaze, it may even be seeing yourself naked in the mirror or touching your vagina/parts of your body that are aroused by touch. Find this trigger, and get rid of it. Cleanse your mind and busy yourself with something. People who mansturbate will tell you that it takes a lot of time sometimes. Busy yourself with studying or even talking to friends.

Mansturbation is haraam in Islam, and things are haraam for a reason. They have psychological, as well as physical effects on you. You will start feeling pain, it may take you a lot to get aroused when you get married and it leads to more sins. You need to always remember that there are two angels by your side who see what you're doing. When I used to get the urges, I would imagine having friends beside me. I would imagine how I would feel if a religious person came and saw me doing the action. In the same way you wouldn't play with your vagina in front of others, you should be completely feel embarrassed about doing it in front of Allah (swt). Let the guilt stop you.

Even if you do not watch pornography, block all websites that have pornography or literature of erotic nature. A good way of doing so is by blocking it on your router settings or download softwares such as Qustodio which is free and can be download on PC's as well as phones and tablets. Block the stuff and think of them as filth. Its a battle of your mind against shaytaan.

I don't usually advise anyone to tell anyone about their sins, but with pornography and mansturbation, it can sometimes be difficult to do it alone. Find someone you trust who is religious and will not look down on you, and ask them to assist you. You can call them whenever you feel the urges and they can remind you, or even watch videos on youtube to take your mind of the feelings. Do not tell anyone else of this sin, as telling people will minimise the chance of you being forgiven for it.You need to train your mind to feel confident that it can do this. Thing of mansturbation as something filthy, you wouldn't want your brother or a male to see your vagina. It is a part that has been protected for yourself and for your spouse. These urges are normal, everyone will get it. But be strong about it. Try your best to never be alone unless you are changing. Keep your room door open or sit in the living room.

And finally, Make lots and lots of Dua. I can see your are sincere and you really want to stop this. Allah (swt) says 'I am here to forgive for the one who calls for my mercy'. Allah (swt) is waiting for you to turn back and he will rush towards you and help you. And watch, this is a personal promise from myself, you put your mind to it and be sincere, make due and Allah (swt) will bless you and make this easy for you.

YOU CAN DO THIS SIS!

If you wish to ask me any questions, feel free to do so. But do not in anyway uncover your identity. You are a noble muslim with dignity. Look after it.

Wassalamualaikum,
Your Brother in Islam
Hahahaha what?!?! Is this guy actually serious? Look, it's perfectly normal to feel like this and to masturbate. Just don't go overboard with it. Ignore what the previous guy said, its not going to make you more likely to cheat or sin. Regardless of religion, everyone has probably done it or at least been curious about it. You arent going to be less of a woman by doing it; in fact it should be more liberating for you as you are exploring and learning more about yourself and your sexuality (from a non-religious standpoint). You won't be as scared in the future with your partner because you will have some inclination of what feels good to you. Morons who tell you to "look after your dignity" are just prudish predators who just want to be controlling. Live your own life.
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I don't watch any websites when I masturbate. tbh if i tried decreasing the amount slowly i dont think ad be able to do that. I get impulses during the day that i feel i cannot control.



I dont believe that to be true, there are true strong muslims who can control their desires because they fear Allah. I say it is a disease of the mind because it is an addiction like smoking and doing drugs.



I should worry, i have seen online the side effects of masturbating and as a girl who wants to become practising i should stop.
I understand ur pain (im a male muslim with the same problem but am in my early/mid twenties 20s). best solution is marriage but if ur not ready for marriage, try taking up multiple hobbies (i was in 5 different socs at uni+ i did a healthcare degree which required me to be in uni 5 days a week and go placements in community environments and hospital). because ur a woman, the effects of masturbation cessation arent as bad as for men (with me, I went 40-odd days without ******* last year and developed small orange crystals in ejaculate, which cleared up after regular masturbation for a few days- women dont have to worry about this as they have periods which effectively resets their body on a cyclical basis whereas men can only get rid of excess via ejaculating)
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Just pray to God and ask him to forgive,
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I have confirmed my email address.
Your web site is poor.
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Masterbation is allowed in Islam.
Only some African countries do FGM
So no girls from India, Bangladesh, or Pakistan have FGM.
It means their clitoris are normal and they will orgasm normally.
I usually use my tongue.
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It's normal, healthy and natural. In fact, there's a lot of positives when it come's to masturbating. Most people that say they don't do it, actually do anyway. So enjoy it.
What positives?
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Orgasm sends neurohirmones to the brain which improve brain health.
Regular orgasms may decrease incidence of dementia.
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Hi i have same issue i dunno how to get over it. Pm me if you found a way.
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It is really disease and bad thing, try to stop it quickly,
You pry for Alla so you have to know that everything in world is under the control of Alla, just ask Alla to make it easy for you to stop it
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You need someone to talk to about it in person , a good friend , someone that will not judge you , it’s an addiction as any other addiction , talk to someone you trust , a friend , a family member , a doctor , it’s good to take it of your chest , it’s not only about religion , it’s just an addiction as you speak about it , so don’t be shy , you have a problem , face it as a problem , no prejudice , it’s just like a drug addiction , or a chronicle sickness . So don’t be shy to ask for help . You really need it , and for the ones that say if you are a strong believer you can do it !!! Well I see that have nothing to do with it , I am a Muslim my self . And it’s not easy to live in a very sexualised society without getting to some trouble . Yup . Good luck
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This **** is haram, famalam.
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Just wait for your arranged marriage to come through, it'll be good.
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Salaams sister I hope this message finds you well The first thing you need to do is that you have to discontent all the ways that you could be affected by porn for example anyways that you can get access to the internet if it is your phone then buy a iPhone because if you go to the settings and then go to the restrictions option then there you can block off the internet from your phone
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This **** is haram, famalam.
There is no need for a Muslim girl to stop MASTERBATION.
Mullah do not want women to enjoy sex.
It is there way to dominate women.
This is the reason that some African countries have in the rural uneducated areas Female Genital Mutillation, where they cut off the clitoris of young girls so that the girls can become their subordinates and have no pleasure in life.
FGM IS HARAM.
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Masturbation is Haraam in islam. Islam allows the husband to pleasure the wife after marriage, whether this is by sexual intercourse or by masturbation. The wife is allowed to please the husband by masturbating him, but not until after marriage. Self masturbating is not permissible

Please view - https://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/sho...5129290&page=2
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There is no need for a Muslim girl to stop MASTERBATION.
Mullah do not want women to enjoy sex.
It is there way to dominate women.
This is the reason that some African countries have in the rural uneducated areas Female Genital Mutillation, where they cut off the clitoris of young girls so that the girls can become their subordinates and have no pleasure in life.
FGM IS HARAM.
'Twas a joke, m8.
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Hi, I am 19 years old and i have probably been masturbating since i was 11. I really want to stop but don't know how because i'm like proper addicted to it. I want to stop because i cant pray if i do it. i masturbate like 4 times a day.

I don't want any people on this thread saying its okay to masturbate because to me its not, its a disease of the mind.
Ok. this one is simple, do you spend a lot of time alone at home?
well, maybe its time you went out and spent time with your friends more than that.
Believe me it helps. Don't waste you precious time because the regret after that is so huge.

Best of luck
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Hi. I am a Chrisitian man and I had the same problem. I solve the problem just taking a desition. Worship God is more important than masturbation. So Decide for God and pray insted masturbaiting. When you feel like
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I suggest you buy a book called ragamuffin gospel. I promise it’ll change your life, let alone your issues with sexuality.
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