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help!

Ok, so I went out with a few friends of mine and they introduced me to two guys called Sam and Max. I had met Max one time before and really fancied him although he had a girlfriend at the time (does not anymore). However, I just got a funny feeling that Sam liked me. You know when you just have an inkling? I could be wrong but he did keep looking at me and made an effort to make conversation. Thing is, Sam is not my usual type at all and so I overlooked him a bit. We did end up having a really nice conversation (though nothing flirty) and he got my number. A week later I was in a bar with my friend and got a text from Sam saying that he was with Max and wondered if we wanted to meet up. We did and I ended up kissing Max (the guy I liked at the start). This has happened a few times since.

Since then I have started talking to Sam and we just seem to get on really really well. The other day we decided to go to a party together (we were meeting Max there) but his car was in the garage for an hour so we had to hang out together for a bit. During that time I realised I had made a terrible mistake getting with Max all those times. Sam and I just had this really good connection and I really regret that I didn't realise from the start. Thing is, I think now I have got with his friend he won't be interested. Also, I am starting to doubt my initial inkling that he liked me. I mean he always texts and stuff. I have no idea what to do! Help?

Reply 1

username47781

So you are actually going out with Max then? Well it seems clear you are not happy and have no feelings for Max, so it's not fair on him if you stay him. I'm guessing also he is friends with Sam, so I don't think he would be happy if you went off with Sam even if you ditched Max first.

However I would say if you do fancy Sam then I would at least end it with Max first before you even think of doing anything with Sam.

Reply 2

Louise88

If you aren't in any kind of relationship with Max, but are only seeing each other casually like at parties and such, then it's alright to like other people, just sounds like a bit of fun. If you really like Sam, then go for it and see what happens. It's possible that he might be slightly put off by the fact that you got together with his friend a couple of times but you will never know unless you try.