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Getting Grief About Smoking
I'd been smoking since I was 16 but gave up about a year ago but started again about 2 months ago. I am asthmatic which doesn't help but I still play sports and am reasonably fit and it doesn't seem to affect me that much. I wouldn't smoke all that much - normally 5 a day - maybe 10 if I'm out but that would be it.
My girlfriend gives me grief about it and I have other things to tell her about as I mentioned in another thread. She is really anti-smoking and I don't smoke around her.
Just wondering if you get grief or give grief about your gf/bf smoking or do you just accept it.
My girlfriend gives me grief about it and I have other things to tell her about as I mentioned in another thread. She is really anti-smoking and I don't smoke around her.
Just wondering if you get grief or give grief about your gf/bf smoking or do you just accept it.
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She gives you grief because she cares about you and your health...
tell her its your choice to smoke and your not looking to quit right now so she will have to stop nagging and deal with it.
smoking is a personal choice much like drinking and everyone should have their free choice about what they do and dont do without being moaned at for it.
she probably is concerned with your health but im sure you are aware of the risks associated with it, and as I say, it's your choice still at the end of the day.
I hate people that try and force their views on you about anything its so patronising dont you think!
smoking is a personal choice much like drinking and everyone should have their free choice about what they do and dont do without being moaned at for it.
she probably is concerned with your health but im sure you are aware of the risks associated with it, and as I say, it's your choice still at the end of the day.
I hate people that try and force their views on you about anything its so patronising dont you think!
If my boyfriend smoked, I would give him greif. Everyone knows what it does to people but i've lost my dad due to it, he died not long after my 12th birthday. I've went through my teen's without my father, and it's the worst thing that has ever happened to me. He smoked from the age of 14 and carried on until it eventually killed him.
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever. It's the most disgusting habit in the world and I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it. Your girlfriend gives you greif because she cares, it might be annoying but you and your health is important to her. It doesn't matter how much you smoke either, you are doing damage with every cigarette you smoke. At the end of the day, it's your decision, she is only trying to look out for you.
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever. It's the most disgusting habit in the world and I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it. Your girlfriend gives you greif because she cares, it might be annoying but you and your health is important to her. It doesn't matter how much you smoke either, you are doing damage with every cigarette you smoke. At the end of the day, it's your decision, she is only trying to look out for you.
She's perfectly within her rights to nag you. If you don't want to listen to it, don't be with her.
You're both as bad as each other though. You have a strong pro-smoking stance, and she has a strong anti-smoking stance, and neither are willing to back down.
For what it's worth though, I think that she is the one in the right as far as her beliefs go. Look at it from her point of view - she doesn't want you to die!....if she had a habit of playing chicken with trains wouldn't you try and stop her?
You're both as bad as each other though. You have a strong pro-smoking stance, and she has a strong anti-smoking stance, and neither are willing to back down.
For what it's worth though, I think that she is the one in the right as far as her beliefs go. Look at it from her point of view - she doesn't want you to die!....if she had a habit of playing chicken with trains wouldn't you try and stop her?
She's made her objection known, you've chosen not to listen to it - indeed, you've come to a very acceptable compromise of not smoking around her.
That's all you can do. If she keeps nagging, then she's probably one of those boring sanctimonious idiots. Personally I'd tell her to shut up or **** off myself.
That's all you can do. If she keeps nagging, then she's probably one of those boring sanctimonious idiots. Personally I'd tell her to shut up or **** off myself.
clonboy
I'd been smoking since I was 16 but gave up about a year ago but started again about 2 months ago. I am asthmatic which doesn't help but I still play sports and am reasonably fit and it doesn't seem to affect me that much. I wouldn't smoke all that much - normally 5 a day - maybe 10 if I'm out but that would be it.
My girlfriend gives me grief about it and I have other things to tell her about as I mentioned in another thread. She is really anti-smoking and I don't smoke around her.
Just wondering if you get grief or give grief about your gf/bf smoking or do you just accept it.
My girlfriend gives me grief about it and I have other things to tell her about as I mentioned in another thread. She is really anti-smoking and I don't smoke around her.
Just wondering if you get grief or give grief about your gf/bf smoking or do you just accept it.
While it's your body and you can do what you like with it, as we found out in a discussion on the backroom the other day, to many people this would be an instant break-up situation. Many of us would never date a smoker. Given that your gf is, she obviously doesn't feel as such, but I can't imagine her being anti-smoking stopping nagging you about it.
XenaGlamRocker
You're both as bad as each other though. You have a strong pro-smoking stance, and she has a strong anti-smoking stance, and neither are willing to back down
Nonsense. He doesn't have to have a 'stance' either way - it's just something he does. He doesn't try to force it, or his views, on anybody else. Indeed, he's been very accomodating by not smoking around her.
Lib North
Nonsense. He doesn't have to have a 'stance' either way - it's just something he does. He doesn't try to force it, or his views, on anybody else. Indeed, he's been very accomodating by not smoking around her.
she obviously cares about him - it's not about him not smoking around her - it's about her not wanting him to die.
Louise88
If my boyfriend smoked, I would give him greif. Everyone knows what it does to people but i've lost my dad due to it, he died not long after my 12th birthday. I've went through my teen's without my father, and it's the worst thing that has ever happened to me. He smoked from the age of 14 and carried on until it eventually killed him.
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever. It's the most disgusting habit in the world and I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it. Your girlfriend gives you greif because she cares, it might be annoying but you and your health is important to her. It doesn't matter how much you smoke either, you are doing damage with every cigarette you smoke. At the end of the day, it's your decision, she is only trying to look out for you.
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever. It's the most disgusting habit in the world and I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it. Your girlfriend gives you greif because she cares, it might be annoying but you and your health is important to her. It doesn't matter how much you smoke either, you are doing damage with every cigarette you smoke. At the end of the day, it's your decision, she is only trying to look out for you.
Really? More disgusting than heroin, cocaine or alcohol addiction?
XenaGlamRocker
she obviously cares about him - it's not about him not smoking around her - it's about her not wanting him to die.
If she can't accept the decisions he makes then it's her problem.
If one cannot respect the way someone else chooses to live his or her life, then one would be a giant horse's arse.
Lib North
If she can't accept the decisions he makes then it's her problem.
If one cannot respect the way someone else chooses to live his or her life, then one would be a giant horse's arse.
If one cannot respect the way someone else chooses to live his or her life, then one would be a giant horse's arse.
I admit she's silly for being with him in the first place whilst knowing he's a smoker.
My husband was a 40-a-day smoker when we met. When he asked me out I told him I wouldn't date a smoker because I couldn't bare the thought of him dying of lung cancer.
He promised he would stop and began to cut down. By 5 months later he had totally quit.
Having said that, he's now gone and piled weight on causing me to worry about his heart!
if it's not one bloody thing it's another.Images and Words
Really? More disgusting than heroin, cocaine or alcohol addiction?
Ever heard of an opinion?
All of them are disgusting, granted but I didn't watch alcohol, heroin or cocaine kill my father. It's something I feel strongly about after finding my father lying dead. It's my opinion that it's disgusting, I just feel more strongly due to my past. Is that alright with you?
Louise88
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever...I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it..
I wouldn't date a smoker, ever...I wouldn't put up with it, no matter who did it..
I completely agree. Having seen smokers on an intensive care unit and watching mucus being sucked out of their lungs...being kept alive only by that machine due to a life of smoking, absolutely disgusting. If my boyfriend decided to smoke then I'd stop going out with him, simple as. I know he feels the same way as me about it though, so it's all good.
Wow....self righteouness reigns absolutley here doesn't it?
XenaGlamRocker
I admit she's silly for being with him in the first place whilst knowing he's a smoker.
My husband was a 40-a-day smoker when we met. When he asked me out I told him I wouldn't date a smoker because I couldn't bare the thought of him dying of lung cancer.
He promised he would stop and began to cut down. By 5 months later he had totally quit.
Having said that, he's now gone and piled weight on causing me to worry about his heart! if it's not one bloody thing it's another.
My husband was a 40-a-day smoker when we met. When he asked me out I told him I wouldn't date a smoker because I couldn't bare the thought of him dying of lung cancer.
He promised he would stop and began to cut down. By 5 months later he had totally quit.
Having said that, he's now gone and piled weight on causing me to worry about his heart!
if it's not one bloody thing it's another.Crikey. Let go a bit. Que sera sera and all that.
Louise88
Ever heard of an opinion? All of them are disgusting, granted but I didn't watch alcohol, heroin or cocaine kill my father. It's something I feel strongly about after finding my father lying dead. It's my opinion that it's disgusting, I just feel more strongly due to my past. Is that alright with you?
All of them are disgusting, granted but I didn't watch alcohol, heroin or cocaine kill my father. It's something I feel strongly about after finding my father lying dead. It's my opinion that it's disgusting, I just feel more strongly due to my past. Is that alright with you?I'd still imagine that you'd think something like developing a habit for mass murder would be more revolting than a cigarette.
pikaboo
I wouldn't date a smoker because I'd think they must have been pretty unintelligent to ever start, really.
No offence, but there's a lot of people far more intelligent than you or I who have smoked or do smoke.
The most interesting people in the world don't tend to be overly worried about life or its consequences.
Anyway, don't you think it's a bit shallow to take one quite insignificant characteristic and attempt to rule out every having any sort of connection with any person who possesses it?
Lib North
No offence, but there's a lot of people far more intelligent than you or I who have smoked or do smoke.
The most interesting people in the world don't tend to be overly worried about life or its consequences.
No offence, but there's a lot of people far more intelligent than you or I who have smoked or do smoke.
The most interesting people in the world don't tend to be overly worried about life or its consequences.
I doubt choosing to smoke was among their most intelligent of moments...I agree there are some smart people among the smokers, but the vast majority are just wasters who do it to look cool and don't give a thought to their own health or anyone else's. That negative image is what makes me think of smokers as silly.
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