Worried.

I'm going on a lads holiday to Magaluf in June, and I'm being pressured to lose my virginity while there. I've already told people that i don't want to lose my virginity to some random person, but they don't really listen.

Any suggestions as to what i should do/say?

Reply 1

Louise88

If they don't listen, they don't listen. There is absolutely nothing you can do about it. If you don't want to lose your virginity when on holiday, don't. It's up to you what you do and you shouldn't let people tell you what to do, or talk you round. Don't worry about it, it's not as if they can physically make you have sex with someone while you are away. Let them say what they want, cause at the end of the day, it's your decision.

Reply 2

username47781

20

Just ignore them, you do what you feel comfortable with.

Reply 3

hixey101

only do what you feel comfortable with mate

Reply 4

TheConfuddledOne

10

Anonymous

I'm going on a lads holiday to Magaluf in June, and I'm being pressured to lose my virginity while there. I've already told people that i don't want to lose my virginity to some random person, but they don't really listen.

Any suggestions as to what i should do/say?

Politely tell them to sod off!

It's your life, your business, your choice. Is their lives really that boring that they have nothing else to do but pressurise you? They should respect your views and stop putting their own ones onto you.

Reply 5

Phantom Phoenix

13

**** em!

I admire you - and I'm only a stranger, but still - for not conforming to pressure. Lose your virginity at the right time, to someone who feels right. You'll remember losing your virginity all your life...who wants to lose it to some skank in Magaluf? plus the STIs *shudder*.

Ignore your friends. If they're really your friends, they'll understand you want your first time to actually mean something. :smile:

Reply 6

hertfordshireman

Dont have a ONE NIGHT STAND if you dont feel confortable/want to, you will only regret it. Your "friends" should realise this. Rather than encourage you to actually give up your virginity to a GF who you would be in a serious relationship withand know; or even have no say in who you give up your virginity to and remain partial, they only want your first time to be be with a one night stand, as far as I see it. In other words to me they seriosuly Don't want you to give up your virginity to someone you love, care about and remember. Do your "friends" have Gf's themselves ? and how do they treat them if they do, if they do have gf's do the girls care about the boys attitude ?(of just pulling any old person for your first time) or are your friends on the pull with different girls(who may well be doing the same thing every week) each week and not in a relationship. Which if they keep doing ,is IMO a bit sad, either go on the pull for a SHORT time, have no relationship or have a serious relationship. To the OP if you read this again, I hope it makes sense as it is rather long.

Reply 7

Phantom Phoenix

13

thundridge

Dont have a ONE NIGHT STAND if u dont feel confortable/want to, you will only regret it. Your "friends" should realise this. Rather than encourage you to actually give up your virginity to a GF who you would be in a serious relationship with and know; or even have no say in who u give up your virginity to and reamin partial, they only want your first time to be be with a one night stand, as far as I see it. In other words to me they seriosuly Don't want you to give up your virginity to someone you love, care about and remember. Do your "friends" have Gf's themselves ? and how do they treat them if they do, if they do have gf's do the girls care about the boys attitude ?(of just pulling any old person for your first time) or are your friends on the pull with different girls(who may well be doing the same thing every week) each week and not in a relationship. Which if they keep doing ,is IMO a bit sad, either go on the pull for a SHORT time, have no relationship or have a seriosu relationship. To the OP if you read this again, I hope it makes sense as it is rather long. Sorry for the number of brackets, I nned thses though, as they are needed to be said in that part where they are placed, but if found in a sentence they would not make sense, so read the brackets separtely, which are mostly ,my views and opinions.

Hurrah! Morals! I'm repping you tomorrow.

Reply 8

toth8

3

Anonymous

I'm going on a lads holiday to Magaluf in June, and I'm being pressured to lose my virginity while there. I've already told people that i don't want to lose my virginity to some random person, but they don't really listen.

Any suggestions as to what i should do/say?

Grow some balls and ignore your friends. Sheesh... :rolleyes:

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

no one can make you sleep wit someone!!!

Reply 10

sweetface.

Stand up to peer pressure and say no! Don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with.

Reply 11

grace

15

how funny would it be if you got all geared up to have sex on holiday, your friends cheering you on, you feel like the big man and ... whoops.... no one wants to sleep with you. gutted.

hahaha sorry that thought just amused me.

but seriously, there's some advise to be had in that funny thought - you can't really plan when you're going to have sex with someone, as it takes TWO (or more) consenting people.

so there is absolutely no point in deciding either way whether you will or won't. personally, i say just go with the flow. if you meet someone and connect, do what feels right. if you don't, no harm done. That's how the best sexual encounters happen anyway.

Reply 12

beach surf babe

14

Tell them in simple terms where to go. What you do is up to you and no one should pressure you into doing anything you don't want to.

Reply 13

Barny

17

Why haven't you lost your virginity already if you're so keen to lose it on a lads holiday?

Reply 14

King Hippo

9

x.narb.x

Why haven't you lost your virginity already if you're so keen to lose it on a lads holiday?

Did you read his post? He isn't keen on losing it there. It's his mates who are encouraging him to.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

x.narb.x

Why haven't you lost your virginity already if you're so keen to lose it on a lads holiday?

I don't want to lose it yet, that's the point. I kinda forgot to mention that I'm gay, too, but I haven't come out yet.

No one would ever guess that I'm gay. Ever. I'm not really too worried about people finding that out, but it makes the situation worse.

Reply 16

sus_clarke

Reading through ur first comment i was gonna suggest that u wer eithier a sensitive soul or gay :rolleyes:

One of my mates from school was in the same situation i had no idea why he hadnt slept with a girl yet cuz he was really hot and i fancied him for about 3 years! :frown:

His excuse was that he was afraid of getting a girl pregnant! Well we look back and laugh at it now hes out in the open!

Maybe its time to come clean with your mates :confused:

Not meaning to pry but be proud of who u r and wot u like! Nothing to be ashamed of! Dosnt change who you r and probably causes u the most stress trying to hide it! Ur mates will prob be funny with you at first but, like my friends mates if they are mature they will realise that you r who u r!

Be loud and Proud! :biggrin:

Reply 17

Phantom Phoenix

13

Sadly, the kind of people who are telling him to lose his virginity to some slapper in Magaluf even though he doesn't want to are unlikely to be mature and sensitive enough to accept that. :frown:

Reply 18

sus_clarke

Phantom Phoenix

Sadly, the kind of people who are telling him to lose his virginity to some slapper in Magaluf even though he doesn't want to are unlikely to be mature and sensitive enough to accept that. :frown:

Valid point, or maybe they've sussed you out and r tryin to give ya a little push :biggrin:

Reply 19

slk999

15

definitely don't listen- even if its at the expense of friendships within the group. you're unlikely to still be mates with them aged 80 when you view your life and think, damn, i wish i'd waited- who WERE those people that forced to make me lose it. yet you'll remember that wife you have/had who you didn't wait for.

Worried.

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