Argggh feel like my gf is too eager to impress.

Okay this might sound a little petty and stupid but its really annoying me. A while back I got a new phone and my gf also needed one, so about 2 weeks later she ends up buying the exact same phone. When i met my gf she had a pretty average girl sytle and i teeter towards the alternative side, however, increasingly, she'll buy clothes that i wear such as an arab scarf of the same shoes I have, and start saying she likes all the bands I do. And yes im aware how petty this sounds but its bugging me my gf isnt being herself and is imitating me a bit. Its not that I think im so individual of w/e, its just tht my gf is picking up on every little thing and doing it! What shall I do?

Reply 1

louisedotcom

13

Are you gay or is she starting to wear clothes/shoes made for men?

Some say imitation is a form of flattery so you could look at it that way.
Alternatively you could suggest to her that she obtains a personality of her own or the relationship probably wont work out.

Obviously say it in a nicer way than that though :smile:

She probably just thinks your really cool though.

Reply 2

sweetface.

Maybe she really looks up to you so she tries to copy everything about you. Also she may think you really cool too. This behavior is boarding on obsession about you, I would be a little worried if I where you. But you need to talk to her and tell her that what she's doing is really annoying you, tell her the truth. You could tell her that you liked how she was before, she might go back to her original self.

Reply 3

Don Vito

Sounds a bit harsh if you ask me. Maybe if you compliment her on the things that she doesn't copy off you, she'll take a little more pride in how she acts naturally, and won't feel the need to copy you to impress you? I'd be subtle about it though, so not to offend the girl who obviously thinks a lot of you.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

sweetface.

Maybe she really looks up to you so she tries to copy everything about you. Also she may think you really cool too. This behavior is boarding on obsession about you, I would be a little worried if I where you. But you need to talk to her and tell her that what she's doing is really annoying you, tell her the truth. You could tell her that you liked how she was before, she might go back to her original self.

lol it's not bordering on obession, and i did like her the way she was before. And I dunno i guess she subconsciously thinks it'll impress me if she likes all the same things I do but it's annoying frankly. I don't even know how to go about telling her without upsetting her, and she might not even realise shes doing it.

Reply 5

sweetface.

Anonymous

lol it's not bordering on obession, and i did like her the way she was before. And I dunno i guess she subconsciously thinks it'll impress me if she likes all the same things I do but it's annoying frankly. I don't even know how to go about telling her without upsetting her, and she might not even realise shes doing it.

Well when I implied that she might be obsessed, it is because it sounds like the slight undertones of obsession. I have studied psychology so I know what I am talking about. She might be doing it subconsciously, you could take her out to your local shopping center take her to Topshop or something and offer to buy her a girly outfit. But obviously, don't say girly tell her stuff like I think you would look really nice/sexy in this. Then maybe, just maybe you might see her dressing more girly again :smile:

EDIT: Maybe that will be a way of telling her, without talking to her about it? And without her getting upset about bringing the subject up with her.

Hope this helps you out...

Reply 6

Sziphix

2

Maybe your style has rubbed off on her; she might not have considered what you wear/do/listen to (hehe, it rhymes) before she started going out with you.

Reply 7

Unregistered

maybe she is just trying to understand you and learn more about you.

Argggh feel like my gf is too eager to impress.

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