Another Boyfriend Thread!! Guidance pls!

Hello

Well exactly a week ago today my boyfriend sed he seemed that we were unhappy as a couple and sed this month is going to be hard and sed he wants to split up! I cried uncontrollably 2.5 yrs we split up altho we had broken up before!!

However, he says he still wants to see me once a week and he sed i promise you i will. I am deeply in love with him and we had just nicely been on holiday together we were very much all touchy touchy and he came home last sat and he kissed me to say yay im backed he sed he missed me etc and he did ring me up everynite wen he wa on hol (i left a week earlier).

However, i sent him a txt on thurs sayin i miss him and repeated wot he se don sunday ssayin he loved me etc and i dont want shutting out etc and i invited him out to cinemas! he txted me bk suggesting monday??

I am so confused i still love him and i think he did not really want the split, but does meetin me up so soon imply tht he dint want it too? Also wen a guy cries dus he mean he dunt want it? im gunna try and fight him bk after my exams

I jus need consoling really!! and encouraging pls can i have thoughts!

xxx

Reply 1

spacecowgirl89

So what reason exactly did he give for breaking up with you?

P.S. :hugs:

don't cry over him, he's not worth it :smile:

Reply 2

Mrs_F

spacecowgirl89

P.S.

don't cry over him, he's not worth it :smile:

They never are, but it doesn't stop you wasting 100 million tears over them!

To the OP: When I split up with my ex, he suggested meeting up once a week and me being in love and thinking he was the best thing since sliced bread, agreed to it.
The relationship just continued to drag on for the sake of it, even though neither of us was happy with the situation.

You are best off just letting go. The sooner you do that, the sooner you will get over him and move on.

Always remember, what is meant to be will be. If you are meant to be together then fate will bring you back together.

Reply 3

spacecowgirl89

Miss_W

They never are, but it doesn't stop you wasting 100 million tears over them!

I know...too true. I found the best way to get over my ex was to ignore him completely. Out of sight - out of mind! You'll meet someone who's much better for you :smile:

I know it's seems unlikely right now, everyone kept telling me that when my ex broke up with me and I thought he was the only person in the world who was right for me- but hey, I was wrong - I'm with someone so much better now! :biggrin:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Awwww thank you!!!

His reason was that he felt i was unhappy! could it be that he is just stressed with prospect of exams and coursework that he thought clearing it up with me was only way to resolve!!

He also sed that he cud be making thebiggest mistake of his life! he sed lets be friends and see how it goes? It is hard to get rid of him completely he was my best m8 for 2 yrs b4 we went out! it hard not tlkin to him!!

Wot shud i do wen we go to cinemas tomo?

Reply 5

Mrs_F

spacecowgirl89

but hey, I was wrong - I'm with someone so much better now! :biggrin:

Yep, a lesson I learnt - always listen to yor mam. She was always right about relationships :p:

Reply 6

Mrs_F

Anonymous

Wot shud i do wen we go to cinemas tomo?

Just be yourself!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

but i do love him and it came all of a sudden! i dnt think he wanted it do u reckon he will be sad too? he did cry alot!

Reply 8

username47781

I would cut contact with him, least for a while.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

it is so hard to i have just tried ringing him and no answer!! he did txt me at beginning of week!! i dnt need this i got exams in a week! i jus feel like going to his house and knocking on his door!

Reply 10

username47781

I know it's hard but stop ringing him. Going to his house won't solve anything either, don't mean to be harsh, it seems obvious he does not want to talk to you.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

so y dus he txt me bk every now and then?

Reply 12

Mrs_F

Anonymous

so y dus he txt me bk every now and then?

Maybe because he also doesn't want to lose you as a friend.

Reply 13

hell_o

how weird i was just considering posting a thread so much like this, minus the length of time we'd been together. a week ago my bf broke up with me saying he couldn't handle a relationship and some other rubbish, even though a few weeks before he told me he loved me for the first time and a few days before he did it he told me he loved me etc, was planning stuff we were going to do soon etc and in the summer. then he breaks up with me and says, but i still want us to be friends and i'll come up and visit you etc (he lives 30 mins away). meh, i don't understand guys one bit.

Reply 14

hell_o

just actually read the full lot of posts. because you've got exams (like me too) you just need to think, right, this could work eventually, because i think that makes it less upsetting than thinking this is it, because at least he wants to stay in touch, but at the moment you've just got to focus on you, because if it doesn't work, you don't want to look back and see you screwed up your exams for someone who (maybe) wasn't worth it.