Had a lesbian crush when I was 18, not been attracted to a girl since. Am I straight?

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Back when I was 18 I had my one and only crush on a girl at uni for about a year. I never acted on it as she soon got a boyfriend (who was really ugly btw). I've kissed about 4 girls between the age of 20 and 22 but I've never been sexually, or romantically attracted to one since and now I'm in my mid 20s. Would you say that I am straight? I certainly feel I am now.
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There probably aren't any girls that you are attracted to right now. When you do you will like her. So you're not straight, since you've experienced lesbian feelings before.
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Well it's very difficult to know as only you know your true feelings but if you're sexually and romantically attracted to guys and don't have these feelings for girls, I would guess that you're straight, maybe bicurious? At the end of the day don't feel forced to label yourself, love who you like
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Back when I was 18 I had my one and only crush on a girl at uni for about a year. I never acted on it as she soon got a boyfriend (who was really ugly btw). I've kissed about 4 girls between the age of 20 and 22 but I've never been sexually, or romantically attracted to one since and now I'm in my mid 20s. Would you say that I am straight? I certainly feel I am now.
I had similar feelings to you; you can get a crush on your own gender and as long as you aren't sexually attracted to them you aren't a lesbian I don't think. That being said; sexuality is on a continuum anyway. You are probably straight or slightly Bi
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I don't think having a crush on someone of the same gender means you aren't straight. If you had an intimate relationship with them, that would be another matter of course but there's nothing wrong with a crush.

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Anonymous #1
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There probably aren't any girls that you are attracted to right now. When you do you will like her. So you're not straight, since you've experienced lesbian feelings before.
Yeah exactly that's what I thought. Though I have 0 lesbian feelings now and I haven't for at least 6 years.
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(Original post by Blondie987)
Well it's very difficult to know as only you know your true feelings but if you're sexually and romantically attracted to guys and don't have these feelings for girls, I would guess that you're straight, maybe bicurious? At the end of the day don't feel forced to label yourself, love who you like
Yes it's possible that I was going through a bicurious phase, although I tend not to say that out aloud as it's not very politically correct and can offend some people. I now have absolutely 0 desire to be with a woman in any sexual or romantic way and could never envision a relationship with a woman whether casual, short term or long term.
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Hmm that's interesting about sexuality being on a continuum I never thought about that.
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Don't worry about it that's the key thing. Tell people what they want to hear for their understanding of where you're at now which is heterosexual. Unless you're close enough with them that you'd chat openly about stuff like how you kissed a girl in the past then there's really no need to mention anything other than where you're at presently.
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Yes it's possible that I was going through a bicurious phase, although I tend not to say that out aloud as it's not very politically correct and can offend some people. I now have absolutely 0 desire to be with a woman in any sexual or romantic way and could never envision a relationship with a woman whether casual, short term or long term.
Then I would say you're probably straight, I'm gay and yet growing up I was boy mad lol but now I don't look twice at guys so sexuality is confusing haha
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It was only a crush.
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