Huuuuuuuuuugeeeeeee Lie To Parents!

Basically, I did the stupidest thing I could ever do. For a number of years, I've known the love of my life, and I met him off the internet. When it came to last year, we decided to start a relationship, with him living in London and me in Leicester. I start University, and I love him so so much with all my heart.

But, I told my Mum, and she presumed I'd met him at my University, and this was 7 months ago, that I said yes I had me him at my uni. (I lied because I didn't want to explain the internet part). Well, here's a huggeee catch. When it comes to the holidays, I am always visiting him, because he (don't blame him) won't visit my parents..until I tell them the truth.

So my parents are starting to ask me over and over when they will meet him. It's also so tricky, because I'm not at university when they think, instead I am visiting him.

I don't know how to tell them, that actually he doesn't go to my university, because it's been 8 months now since I've been with him. And actually, I just don't want to tell them he lives in London and I'm in Leicester because I'm sure they'll feel so so betrayed that I lied.

When it gets to the holidays, it's hard work trying to visit him because they wonder why it's me constantly going to London. (They obviously know he lives in London when it's the holidays but they just don't know he lives there and goes to college!!!!!!)

How do I ease the pain of telling them???? MMMm

Reply 1

Sarky

18

You just need to bite the bullet and do it. It won't be nice and they'll be pissed and upset. But the sooner you do that the sooner its out in the open.

Reply 2

castroneves

1

No easy way out of that one fraid, tell them and be done with it.

Reply 3

Vampyrcorn

14

This is quite mean but you could try to turn it round on them. Tell them "I had to lie! you would have been so judgemental about it, and I had no choice. It's not my fault I can't talk to you because you're so old fashioned and you just dont understand me!" etc.

so they may not get angry and be more understanding. but like i said, it's not a very nice way of going about doing it.

Reply 4

louisedotcom

13

To be honest you dont have to tell them anything, If your old enough to be at uni, your old enough to have privacy in your relationships.
If you dont want to tell them the truth then dont.

Otherwise just tell them, and dont act like its a big deal, loads of people meet on ther internet these days :smile:

and if they ask why you lied, say that they just assumed you met him at uni, and at the time yoyu wenrt sure where the relationship was heading so just left it at that. Now that its got more serious, you wanted to let them know the truth.

Reply 5

LipGloss

Just say he moved to London with his family?

Reply 6

Angrybanana

11

Doesn't matter where you met him does it, just come clean and say "ok, we met on the net i just didnt want to tell you until i thought it was serious." It's not like it's on the scale of you telling them it's a man or something when it's really a lesbian relationship. That would be tricky...

Reply 7

Carl

14

Just be honest and tell them. Explain that you thought they'd think it was weird, but if your b/f is a nice guy then I'm sure your parents will forgive you.

Reply 8

username47781

20

Agreed honesty is the best policy. I'm sure since you have known each other a while, they will accept that.

Reply 9

TheBellJar

1

THE DISHONEST OPTION:
You could tell your bf you've told them and he comes over, meets the parents, they fall in love with him and in the kitchen over dinner, you just slip the news to your mum and work your self up , on the verge of tears and she tells you not to worry as it's all turned out well in the end :biggrin:

...she casually tells your dad later and you all laugh about it in the end.
It is covering up one lie with another though but it works!

Reply 10

ice_cube

17

Alternatively, bring your boyfriend to meet your parents and tell them together, if they really like him. If they do, then they wont care either way, and if they dont like him well it cant get much worse. Either do it formally, or "So how did you guys meet?" " Well actually mum theres an interesting story there..."

Reply 11

shinytoy

18

i think he is the problem. why cant he just pretend to have met you at uni ? once you mom has met him and they see he isnt a weird psycho they probably will be ok with you dating him, and they wont see it as much of a prob that you guys met online

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

Angrybanana

It's not like it's on the scale of you telling them it's a man or something when it's really a lesbian relationship. That would be tricky...

Hmm that's the position i'm in kinda, like met on the net....she's a girl, i'm a girl....gutted. Good luck OP, i feel your pain, only multiplied by 10 :p:

Reply 13

Rainy

16

shinytoy

i think he is the problem. why cant he just pretend to have met you at uni ? once you mom has met him and they see he isnt a weird psycho they probably will be ok with you dating him, and they wont see it as much of a prob that you guys met online

For someone so caught up on religion, I'd have thought you'd appreciate the value of honesty.

It's easier to lie than to live with an uncomfortable truth, but you have to be honest with both the guy and your family if you want any kind of future. I've lied in a relationship in the past; I've never regretted anything so much - I'm scared of ever doing it again. Bite the bullet, show strength with your boyfriend, and show your parents the respect they deserve.

Reply 14

salgueira

Why is he insisting that you tell your parents? You could tell him that telling them is more difficult than maintaining a minor lie about how you met him.

Huuuuuuuuuugeeeeeee Lie To Parents!

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