How do you cope with people not liking you?

I have some good friends but I'm such a paranoid person that the thought of someone disliking me really upsets me. My boyfriend's female friend, for example, really doesn't seem to have taken to me at all. She's friendly to me but I can tell it's fake when I compare the way she acts with me to how she is around other people. There's a few other people who I know for a fact dislike me, and I can't do anything about it, but how do I deal with it? I know that there's rarely a person who is loved by absolutely EVERYONE, but I hate the thought of being disliked. :frown:

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Reply 1

Reue

I get drunk... then i instantly become the most popular, funny, smart and good looking person ever! (Least thats what i believe at the time :wink:

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Reply 2

ph9

just let it be i suppose. let it exist as just another mere fact of life and don't occupy your mind with it. put it alongside other things in life you know, like how soup is best eaten with a spoon.

Reply 3

toth8

Oh boo hoo. Look NO ONE on this Earth HAS to like you. You DON'T HAVE to like ANYBODY else. It's that simple. Stop being so childlike and have confidence in yourself.

Reply 4

username47781

toth8

Oh boo hoo. Look NO ONE on this Earth HAS to like you. You DON'T HAVE to like ANYBODY else. It's that simple. Stop being so childlike and have confidence in yourself.

Harsh, but true really. You cannot expect every single person to like you, it just doesn't work out like that.

Reply 5

PhilMc

The last time someone didn't like me they got headbutted.

Not even by me. :p:

Reply 6

sus_clarke

Sounds like the girl is just jealous to me! :p:

Think about it does it really matter wot these people who dislike you think? Do their opinions really matter that much at the end of the day if they dont like you thats their problem :biggrin:

Reply 7

Lucia.

you can't get on with everyone...

But OP I know what you mean. If someone doesn't like me I always think it's my fault :redface:

Reply 8

featheredblack

dont worry yourself by it. now he is your bf, be proud and if she chooses to be off with you then it is only his loss for being aquainted with her! never think you have to be good enough for someone else, because when you do, you lower yourself to other peoples standards, then they will walk all over you.

Be less paranoid.

"How do you cope with people not liking you?"

I ignore them.

Reply 11

Logan

REMEMBER THIS!

"We are not born to please everybody"

some people will like you some wont, some will hate you some wont. As long as you know you are living your life rightly then dont let that bother you, hating other people is a waste of time... so those people have wasted their time not liking you. Be neutral. Keep your chin up, no matter what

Reply 12

Thud

"How do you cope with people not liking you?"

I smile and say "well **** you because I don't like you either, least I got the guts to tell you".

seriously, who cares if they like you or not?

Reply 13

tmille3

u shudnt be paranoid, who cares if some ppl dont like you, igleast there are others that do. and if some1 dont like u just tell em to go ******* themselves have some confidence. just ignore them and rember theyre are ppl that dnt lyk them aswell. it all balances out lol

Reply 14

silverbolt

no one likes everyone you can clash with people for no reason other than your personalities are just that different

OP i learnt a long time ago that trying to make everyone like will just make YOU miserable.

how do i deal with it?
just fine my ideal is this if you like me fine, if you dont i dont care.

Reply 15

Citation

Those kind of people are are liability and should be removed if required.

Reply 16

AntiLearner

It's not an important issue. I used to think it was and wasted a lot of time trying to change my image but now I am comfortable with myself because I don't care what anyone thinks of me. I stick with people who I like, who are good for me to be around. If there's anyone who doesn't like me around, well that's their problem but they'll have nothing to do with me anymore. Just ignore/remove them from your life! Remind yourself you've got more important things going on.

Reply 17

acore

I just blow it off, take it in my stride...unless its someone i really care about (e.g. a good friend) where id enlist the help of my other friends :P

Reply 18

Juwel

Easy as pie. If for whatever reason they're not cool with how you want to be, that's their problem (not yours!) and you don't need such people in your life, so ignore and get on with it.