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I need advice!

Ok i know this is really pathetic but i really need some impartial advice...
Theres this guy i met a few weeks ago who i like :smile:

he says he likes me too but iv only known him for a few weeks and he wants a relationship... do you think this is way too soon? My mates say that it doesn't matter bcuz having a relationship means you get to know each other well (and plus we've met up loads and i know him pretty well (ish))

Im confused... :confused:

Reply 1

charlord

1

chucky123

Ok i know this is really pathetic but i really need some impartial advice...
Theres this guy i met a few weeks ago who i like :smile:

he says he likes me too but iv only known him for a few weeks and he wants a relationship... do you think this is way too soon? My mates say that it doesn't matter bcuz having a relationship means you get to know each other well (and plus we've met up loads and i know him pretty well (ish))

Im confused... :confused:

why dont you 'see each other' more relaxed

Reply 2

kirbz

10

Yeah I think its better to go into the "seeing" stage before a proper relationship is reached. Get to know each other even more.

Reply 3

chucky123

OP

charlord

why dont you 'see each other' more relaxed

but when people "see each other" surely thats the same thing as having a relationship... you're still exclusive to each other and theres still some seriousness...

Reply 4

Fly By

8

chucky123

Ok i know this is really pathetic but i really need some impartial advice...
Theres this guy i met a few weeks ago who i like :smile:

he says he likes me too but iv only known him for a few weeks and he wants a relationship... do you think this is way too soon? My mates say that it doesn't matter bcuz having a relationship means you get to know each other well (and plus we've met up loads and i know him pretty well (ish))

Im confused... :confused:

hey don't take things too seriously, you can be close but that doesn't mean you have to be "in a relationship". cause whats the difference anyway? if you like him and he likes you and you two are spending enough time together, neither of you are gonna ask someone else are you?

Reply 5

tis_me_lord

14

chucky123

Ok i know this is really pathetic but i really need some impartial advice...
Theres this guy i met a few weeks ago who i like he says he likes me too but iv only known him for a few weeks and he wants a relationship... do you think this is way too soon? My mates say that it doesn't matter bcuz having a relationship means you get to know each other well (and plus we've met up loads and i know him pretty well (ish))

Sorry but what's the problem? You haven't known him long, as opposed to what? There's no rule saying you must know eachother for years before you can go out. Go for it.

Reply 6

chucky123

OP

Fly By

hey don't take things too seriously, you can be close but that doesn't mean you have to be "in a relationship". cause whats the difference anyway? if you like him and he likes you and you two are spending enough time together, neither of you are gonna ask someone else are you?

hmm the thing is that he's asked me out... i said we should be friends for a while but hes still quite intense... its like we're having a relationship but not officially if that makes sense... do you think if i said "yes" to being his gf its v serious or do some people see that as just another way of getting to know someone?

Reply 7

Zapsta

What the hell do you mean? "He wants a relationship"? That's one of the most retarded things anyone's ever said. You're just using ambiguity to prevent yourself from having to make a decision.

Reply 8

chucky123

OP

Zapsta

What the hell do you mean? "He wants a relationship"? That's one of the most retarded things anyone's ever said. You're just using ambiguity to prevent yourself from having to make a decision.

How is "he wants a relationship" ambiguous??! Id say it was a pretty straight forward sentence...

Reply 9

Zapsta

chucky123

How is "he wants a relationship" ambiguous??! Id say it was a pretty straight forward sentence...

No, it's not.

Reply 10

chucky123

OP

Zapsta

No, it's not.

no its not ambiguous or no its not straight forward... explain! :smile:

Reply 11

Zapsta

chucky123

no its not ambiguous or no its not straight forward... explain! :smile:

It's not straight foward - "a relationship" can mean so many different things.

Reply 12

chucky123

OP

Zapsta

It's not straight foward - "a relationship" can mean so many different things.

yea but in the context of what im saying i thought it was self explanitory that when i say "relationship" i meant gf/bf

Reply 13

Zapsta

chucky123

yea but in the context of what im saying i thought it was self explanitory that when i say "relationship" i meant gf/bf

Yeah... thanks for your help.

Reply 14

chucky123

OP

Zapsta

Yeah... thanks for your help.

lol im even more confused now then when i started :tongue:

Reply 15

Juwel

18

It's really not a confusing situation. If you want a relationship, go for it. If not, don't.

Reply 16

material breach

12

ZJuwelH

It's really not a confusing situation. If you want a relationship, go for it. If not, don't.

and he really like you he will be ok with you saying that you want to keep it informal

Reply 17

chucky123

OP

yea thanks guys i think im gonna go for it! :biggrin:

sorry for posting such an irritating thread though :tongue:

x x

Reply 18

Flicker

13

chucky123

Ok i know this is really pathetic but i really need some impartial advice...
Theres this guy i met a few weeks ago who i like :smile:

he says he likes me too but iv only known him for a few weeks and he wants a relationship... do you think this is way too soon? My mates say that it doesn't matter bcuz having a relationship means you get to know each other well (and plus we've met up loads and i know him pretty well (ish))

Im confused... :confused:

i started going out with my boyfriend 6 days after meeting him, after meeting up twice. we'll have been going out a year next week :smile:

my boyfriend before that was my best friend before we went out and it was cool because we already got on, but my current relationship has had an extra edge becuse we've been getting to know each other all the time. we just knew it was right and both got on and haven't looked back really, and he's been at uni this year, 150 miles away!

i'd say go for it, what have you got to lose? you'll get to know him better when you go out and it'll be exciting for both of you, and fun! good luck!

Reply 19

Pollo Loco

7

allisandro

i started going out with my boyfriend 6 days after meeting him, after meeting up twice. we'll have been going out a year next week :smile:

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I've got the same sort of think. I met the girl i'm goin out with now a month ago and we've been seein each other for 3 weeks. Sometimes it's just like that, you've just met someone and it just clicks, even though you don't know that much about each other. I think it's more fun like that, i like surprises, pleasant ones of course. I like exploring too.

I need advice!

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