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boyfriend checking out other people…

I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now and I really do not care if he looks at other women - doesn't phase. I look at other men as well, so this doesn't bother me…

However

What does bother me is that with him, it isn't just checking out other women, he oggles and stares at them when I'm with him in public and it's not simply a quick glance - it's a long LONG stare and it gets to the point where it has started to affect the communication in our relationship. For example: when we are out together and I'm talking to him and if he were to suddenly spot a hot girl, he will stop listening to me and will have no idea what I'm saying as he's oggling her. When I'm done talking expecting a reply, he'll still be checking out girl X, and I'll be standing there, looking like an idiot and feeling very little. I'll ask him if he's heard a word of what I've said to him and he'll say "no" and continue to checking out whoever he's oggling.

Now I've told him heaps of times that it bothers me when he does this and he has assured me he will try not to to do it, but it's been a good 6-7 months since the last time I told him to stop and he still does it. I've told him if I saw him doing it again - I'm going to point it out and make a big deal about it - and he'll say that would be the best way to get me to stop - but I don't want to be the sort of person who has to do that.

All of this has started to make me question if I'm pretty enough for him and if not, what I could do to make him notice me - and it's getting difficult.

I guess, I'd like to hear what people have to say/think about this. Do other people have partners who do the same, if so, how do you handle it?
*sighs* these threads are getting worse.

Hes being a knob, next time he does slap round the back of the head. Or return the favour, next time a hot guy walks past make a point of tilting your head/leaning over and staring at his butt.

he should get the message
Reply 2
I agree with the above post. Do the same as he is doing, he will hate it!
Reply 3
What a tool. Don't put up with that behaviour!
Reply 4
every time he does that smack him round the face or on the back, and if he does it too much grab his balls and yank. that wil tell him who wears the trousers.
sufiankane
every time he does that smack him round the face or on the back, and if he does it too much grab his balls and yank. that wil tell him who wears the trousers.


I totally agree!
Reply 6
thogh be advised do it too much and he turns into a robotic dog
Reply 7
* though he should be advised 'do it too much and you'll turn into a single-ton'
OMG how can u still ask : "what to do, to make him to notice me"???? I mean, have some respect for yourself and leave that jerk. He's not worth it. He's a total as_s_hole.
Sooner or later he will betray you and he won't even make a big deal of it, as he doesn't right now.
Leave him as soon as possible !
Cadre_Of_Storms
*sighs* these threads are getting worse.

Hes being a knob, next time he does slap round the back of the head. Or return the favour, next time a hot guy walks past make a point of tilting your head/leaning over and staring at his butt.

he should get the message


I know a certain girl who likes to slap a lot lol, she actually comes on tsr, lads look at girls its natural, they stare too but he shouldn't make it look so obvious lol, i know if i was with a certain girl, (she knows who she is :rolleyes: ) id only have my eyes on her. :p:
sufiankane
every time he does that smack him round the face or on the back, and if he does it too much grab his balls and yank. that wil tell him who wears the trousers.

Yes, because that will make him realise just how lucky he is and that the hot girl he is checking out is simply not as loving or as wonderful as his current girlfriend. :rolleyes:

Better plan is to copy his behaviour when a hot guy walks past. Give him a long stare, eye contact, a wink maybe... and all the time make sure you ignore the bf. Hopefully he'll be bemused and angry (at which point you find another hot guy to look at so that you have an excuse to ignore the rant). Then, when you're done, explain the situation to the boyfriend.

And... ta da!... no more staring. In theory.
I don't get it, you all give her advice in the same style. But why bother? He isnt worth it. He's a total jerk. He will never change, oh pardon he will! - for the worse.
Anonymous
I don't get it, you all give her advice in the same style. But why bother? He isnt worth it. He's a total jerk. He will never change, oh pardon he will! - for the worse.


Is he called william?
Reply 13
you have two options

a) leave him.
b) do the same to him.

if you choose b and it fails, go for a