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Sex question.

Hey.

I've been with my before for just over a year and a half now and lately we've both been really tired so have just been going straight to sleep instead of having sex. But the times when I really wanna have it, he's too tired. I'm just worried maybe somethings wrong in the relationship if we're not having enough sex.

How many times a week du reckon is "normal" or enough for a good healthy sex life in a relationship?
Reply 1
theres a thread just like this its called 2 year relationship advice or something.
but ultimatly theres no normal. relationships arent based soley on sex and so whatever the two of you are happy with
Reply 2
No I know, just I know that some guys tend to cheat on their gfs if they're not getting it at home. Or thats apparantly what they do.
Reply 3
some will yes. but if its such an issue you think he would do that speak to him about it and see what he thinks
Thing is, if it's your bf who doesn't want to have sex with you and you do want to have sex and he's too tired, then he's hardly going to go and cheat on you - because he could just have sex with you - don't worry about it, there could be a million reasons. Is he doing a lot of work/assignments or anything?
Anonymous
No I know, just I know that some guys tend to cheat on their gfs if they're not getting it at home. Or thats apparantly what they do.

BIG generalisation there.
Reply 6
She said "some guys", not "all guys".
I never realised there was such a thing as too tired for sex?
I always thought that was just an excuse people made :s-smilie:
Reply 8
Surely if you're practically falling asleep, you're too tired for sex?
Jelkin
Surely if you're practically falling asleep, you're too tired for sex?

Read the OP more carefully. Every time she wants sex, he is too tired. So, either this is a ‘cover up’ or the OP wants sex at inappropriate times. This probably isn’t the full story.
Reply 10
I was actually referring to the post above mine.
Reply 11
You could try having sex in the morning. Testosterone (responsible for your sex drive) is always at its highest in the morning and neither of you can possibly be tired after a good night's sleep.

As for how much sex is normal, it is entirely up to you. If you're happy with how much you're having, it's normal. It sounds like you and your partner need to find ways to better coordinate your sex drives. Experiment until you find the right balance! Best of luck.
LipGloss
You could try having sex in the morning. Testosterone (responsible for your sex drive) is always at its highest in the morning and neither of you can possibly be tired after a good night's sleep.


Always a good tip - keeps you in good spirits for the rest of the day as well, trust me.
louisedotcom
I never realised there was such a thing as too tired for sex?
I always thought that was just an excuse people made :s-smilie:


No you can be to tired for sex.

Ive been going out with my gf for three years and whilst my sex drive is higher than hers we still manage it about twice a week