Difficulty starting relationship, its already been a year!

I've liked this guy for over a year and pretty sure that he likes me too because he gets very shy around me. However I am shy too! When I get the courage to ask him to go out or just texting to say hey, sometimes he doesnt reply or says no :frown:

But then other times he's really keen to meet up. A few months ago things started to look good. He walked me home from a party and we hugged and swaped numbers. Since then we've met twice but that was ages ago. I dont know what to do. At times he's interested at others he isnt, or he's too shy. I dont know if he wants me to take control and move it along, or whether I should wait for him and just text him occasiuonally until he is ready???? I like him very much and have for a year and am sure that he has too. I really want this to work out and Im sure that we could be very happy together. I just dont understand him.

Reply 1

dh00001

make a move. you wont know till you do

Reply 2

josie_bear2003

Seriously, make a move. Some guys need it spelt out for them. There was this guy I liked for about 2 years, he was giving me all the right signals but we were both too shy to say anything, and coz we were also good friends by that point it was too hard to say something in case it ruined the friendship. He eventually started seeing a girl from work - she asked him out, made all the moves etc - so it proves that he just wasn't one to do anything for himself! She's a nice girl tho, so no hard feelings there, but it just goes to show that if you don't do anything you may miss your chance.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thanks for your responses. How should I approach the subject? I will be meeting him for the first time in a few months soon. Should I mention it on this first occasion, or should I wait until after that - again I dont want to scare him off. Maybe I could suggest meeting for coffee as I'd like to have a chat - or will that just scare him? hmmmm

Please help

no meet him and tell him. hint at it rather than saying it out right if its easier but being male hell probably miss the point :p:

Reply 6

Flank Runner

grab, hug, plant one on him and hope for the best, i'll doubt he misses the point if you do this

Reply 7

crankycaz

Just go for it, ask him out somewhere. Then later, after the date, maybe text him and tell him how nice it (hopefully!) was, and that you really like him and ask if he'd like to go out with you more. If he does go on a date, don't be all gushy and like thank god we're finally going out, you know. Don't scare the poor bugger, but just let him know you're keen for more later.

I made all the moves with my ex, and we lasted almost 2 years, so no regrets. :smile: