Homesickness

I don't know whether anyone else feels like this...but during the first term at uni i was not homesick at all- i spose because i was so busy and it was all new and exciting. At the start of last term though i came up and i cried the first night back...and this term i have been crying today, after being here for a few days. Its like im getting more and more homesick everytime i come back to uni. It sounds really pathetic, especially because im actually having a good time at uni...i just miss my family and friends from back home...i even miss my house. last term was better than my first term but i still felt a bit homesick. i feel like such an idiot for posting this, especially consdering some people hate uni and want to drop out, or dont have the opportunity to even go...but its really getting me down. Im counting down the weeks until i can go home again. i think the thought of exams isn't helping...but even if i had 10weeks of solid partying i'd still feel like this way, just not so intensely. my family will come up a couple of times to visit this term, but i still feel really upset. is it normal to be getting progressively more homesick, despite the fact that i enjoy uni?

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Anonymous #2

At least you have made it as far as moving out! Just the thought of moving out made me feel sick. Im trying to over come that fear but it just something i have to deal with. I live about 1 hour each way awayfrom uni and therefore i don't have social life to say. But it scares me the thought that i have to move out sometime. I mean i am 20 on 2 weeks.

Is that stupid?

I am thinking bout moving out but my firends either r living in a flat from this year n arnt moving or they live wiv their parents but in same city n will NOT move out!

So what sohuld i do?

Reply 2

josie_bear2003

It's not silly at all. I didn't have any probs with homesickness for much of my first year. I'm now in my third and have found that the pressure of the workload is what makes me want to be at home more. I'm like you tho, I still enjoy uni, it's just that when I'm sitting here doing my work with no one around coz my housemates are teaching students so their out all day, I'd rather be at home when my mum's always around to talk to. I think it's just the understanding that you get from your family that other people at uni just don't seem to see...there's plenty of people who don't even want to go home in the holidays - they obviously aren't close to their family. I'm now at a stage where I'm about to finish my degree and it hasn't come too soon - I can't wait! But it's not like I really want to go and spend a few months at home, it's coz I'm off to America for summer so I now want to get on with that bit of my life than sit around doing work all day long! Worst thing you can do is sit there and cry. Talk to friends about how you're feeling - you never know, they may feel the same. And can you not go home for a couple of days every few weeks? It makes all the difference. Longest I left it was 7 weeks and that was way too long for me!

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josie_bear2003

Anonymous

At least you have made it as far as moving out! Just the thought of moving out made me feel sick. Im trying to over come that fear but it just something i have to deal with. I live about 1 hour each way awayfrom uni and therefore i don't have social life to say. But it scares me the thought that i have to move out sometime. I mean i am 20 on 2 weeks.

Is that stupid?

I am thinking bout moving out but my firends either r living in a flat from this year n arnt moving or they live wiv their parents but in same city n will NOT move out!

So what sohuld i do?

You shouldn't feel pressured into moving out. I can't say I was enamoured about moving out to go to uni but what drove me was the fact that I could only do the course I really wanted to do at this particular uni. It's nearly 3 hours away from home (that was the closest!) but it still didn't stop me from going home when I wanted to. You're only an hour away, you can visit pretty much anytime you want. Having said that, if I was only an hour away I may be tempted to go home more often, so I can see your dilemma.

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Anonymous #1

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josie_bear2003

It's not silly at all. I didn't have any probs with homesickness for much of my first year. I'm now in my third and have found that the pressure of the workload is what makes me want to be at home more. I'm like you tho, I still enjoy uni, it's just that when I'm sitting here doing my work with no one around coz my housemates are teaching students so their out all day, I'd rather be at home when my mum's always around to talk to. I think it's just the understanding that you get from your family that other people at uni just don't seem to see...there's plenty of people who don't even want to go home in the holidays - they obviously aren't close to their family. I'm now at a stage where I'm about to finish my degree and it hasn't come too soon - I can't wait! But it's not like I really want to go and spend a few months at home, it's coz I'm off to America for summer so I now want to get on with that bit of my life than sit around doing work all day long! Worst thing you can do is sit there and cry. Talk to friends about how you're feeling - you never know, they may feel the same. And can you not go home for a couple of days every few weeks? It makes all the difference. Longest I left it was 7 weeks and that was way too long for me!

Thanks

I know what you mean about people who want to stay at uni over the holidays...I dont get that. I am happy here but my closest friends and my family are all at home, so naturally i want to be there. i went home for a couple of days last term but not sure whether i can this time cos of exams- i wont be able to make the most of being at home anyway if im stuck revising. thanks for the advice!

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