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LDRs as a first real relationship.

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(edited 12 years ago)

Erm, I wouldn't personally recommend it. My first relationship started online and was a long-distance one. I regret it in some ways because it stopped me from realising that there were more suitable guys out there. If you really like the guy then go for it, but don't have too many expectations.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

My first relationship was long distance. Horribly painful ut we're still together over 2 years later and going to be short distance in September :biggrin:

I didn't meet him on the internet though...

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Anonymous #3

That sounds the exact same situation to me.. are you me? lol.

I wanna hear feedback too, because this is my first relationship. i've met him twice though, and he's coming to stay for the weekend!! yay! it's difficult to see eachother though.. but if you want to both make it work, you'll find a way, as long as you trust eachother...

the thing with ldrs is that you have to trust that person implicitely, otherwise.. why bother?

Reply 4

noodles!

Thanks for the advice all, I reeallly hope it can work out.

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*Claire*

Is the relationship likely to stop being long distance in the future? Personally I wouldn't see the point in going thru all the complications if it was potentially always going to be like that. Its different if its for a year or something...

Reply 6

xatm092

And it depends what sort of relationship you want.

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8people

My mother and I have both had LDRs, one thing you have to bear in mind - sometimes the distance is what makes the relationship last.

You need a lot of trust and faith in each other, if one of you gets suspicious then it's going to be hell to change opinions and build trust up again. But saying that don't cake any crap either! My ex put me through hell over our two and a half relationship. Yet it was only after we split up he admitted he needed help. So perhaps it was better.

Be prepared for the times when you're sitting and all you can think is how much you miss the other person, how you wish you could be there just to talk and be near them. It's hard, after a while you get used to the situation and it gets easier. But if you start feeling actually lonely rather than missing them, maybe things aren't working out as it seems.

tbh, I personally don't differenciate between first relationships and other relationships. You're going to learn a lot from each relationship, generally a lot more from your first, true, you'll just be llearning a few things different than your friends may have learnt first time round :smile:

Reply 8

e_s_emsie

i didnt meet my boyfriend online - i met him in a club but he used to go to my school - it has been LD from the start as he is at uni 3 hours away. we've been going out 17 months now and then in september he finishes uni and im going instead - so still will be long distance! imo its been worth it - although it is difficult when you do see each other it is even more special :smile: