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From being a geek to being beautiful

I want a big change in my life, ever since secondary school to sixth I've always been labeled as being a "geek" or a "boff", maybe this was because I wear glasses and always have my hair tied back. I've never changed my self or gone for a drastic look just because of my low self esteem even though every second of the day I wish i did look different or have a bit of self esteem . However now, am sick of not getting noticed by anyone and i desperately want to change my self, but i just don't know whether i should take this step or not, or whether am ready for it. I know am beautiful, every time i look at my self in the mirror i see this beautiful face, but it saddens me that i don't have the confidence to display this attractive face in public. Please advice on what I should do, deep down I don't want to change my personality or looks for anyone i am doing it for my self only, i only want to change because i feel like this is the actual time I should.

Reply 1

Yoda

12

Put up a picture and I'll tell you if you really are beautiful.

Reply 2

*gingerbread*

1

Brilliantly helpful there Yoda! No seriously, if you have this innate belief that you are beautiful then you are more than ready to show it to the world. If you don't want to change yourself then don't, a change doesn't have to be superficial. Try doing something new, join a new sports team or something and go into it with a positive state of mind- maybe they will see you how you want to be seen, without the need for a drastic physical change. Sometimes you can bluff confidence, and if you get the kind of acceptance you want then it will naturally come later.

Just out of interest, how old are you?

Reply 3

swirl

Yoda

Put up a picture and I'll tell you if you really are beautiful.

... because your opinion is most definitely a universal fact.

Reply 4

pikaboo

13

Contact lenses, styled hair, flattering clothes, touch of makeup. Easy.

Reply 5

shona

10

Anonymous

I want a big change in my life, ever since secondary school to sixth I've always been labeled as being a "geek" or a "boff", maybe this was because I wear glasses and always have my hair tied back. I've never changed my self or gone for a drastic look just because of my low self esteem even though every second of the day I wish i did look different or have a bit of self esteem . However now, am sick of not getting noticed by anyone and i desperately want to change my self, but i just don't know whether i should take this step or not, or whether am ready for it. I know am beautiful, every time i look at my self in the mirror i see this beautiful face, but it saddens me that i don't have the confidence to display this attractive face in public. Please advice on what I should do, deep down I don't want to change my personality or looks for anyone i am doing it for my self only, i only want to change because i feel like this is the actual time I should.

Sounds to me like you're just not making the most of what you've got.

Certain styles of glasses can make you look geeky; others can make you look attractive. It's definitely worth investing in a pair of frames that flatter - depending on your face shape, chunky plastic ones or half rimless might work really well. They're quite cool.

Most girls look better when their hair isn't tied up - a tip I learned from my mum. But this only works if you look after your hair, so that when it's down, it looks shiny and healthy, and there's some sort of shape.

Making a few changes like better makeup, clothes which flatter, etc, can make you look outwardly that little bit better, which always boosts your confidence. There's not a lot of specific advice we can give without a picture, but then again, it's probably a good idea not to post one here as Yoda will probably say something horrid. :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Elements

13

You don't need make-up to be beautiful though; in fact I'd say that those that are really beautiful don't need make-up.

Reply 7

person 34

9

You're really up your own arse. No one can look "beautiful" with hair tied back, glasses, and no makeup - unless you believe the whole "everyone is beautiful" perspective on life, and sorry to disappoint, but they most definately are not. If you wanna look good, however, put on some make up let your hair down, and get some hot, sexy glasses that make you look like a dominatrix woman.

Reply 8

loopymeg

13

Elements

You don't need make-up to be beautiful though; in fact I'd say that those that are really beautiful don't need make-up.

Indeed. I'd go as far as saying that a lot of girls hide their beauty and make themselves look terrible by wearing make-up. 'Tis such a shame :frown:

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34 person

You're really up your own arse. No one can look "beautiful" with hair tied back, glasses, and no makeup - unless you believe the whole "everyone is beautiful" perspective on life, and sorry to disappoint, but they most definitely are not. If you wanna look good, however, put on some make up let your hair down, and get some hot, sexy glasses that make you look like a dominatrix woman.

Get a grip. Make-up is NOT essential to look good.

Reply 9

Elements

13

Anonymous

I want a big change in my life, ever since secondary school to sixth I've always been labeled as being a "geek" or a "boff", maybe this was because I wear glasses and always have my hair tied back. I've never changed my self or gone for a drastic look just because of my low self esteem even though every second of the day I wish i did look different or have a bit of self esteem . However now, am sick of not getting noticed by anyone and i desperately want to change my self, but i just don't know whether i should take this step or not, or whether am ready for it. I know am beautiful, every time i look at my self in the mirror i see this beautiful face, but it saddens me that i don't have the confidence to display this attractive face in public. Please advice on what I should do, deep down I don't want to change my personality or looks for anyone i am doing it for my self only, i only want to change because i feel like this is the actual time I should.

OMG OP, me too! :five:

I really know where you're coming from. Do you know what though, you are beautiful as you are now and you can see that when you look in the mirror or more importantly look inside yourself. You said that you wished that you either looked different or had a bit of self-esteem. Well with more self-esteem and feeling good about yourself, you'll feel more confident to show you r attractive face in public and be happy with who you are and how you like to express yourself. If you do things that make you happier and for yourself because you want to do them, you'll come out of your shell a bit and be able to show/reflect to the outside who you really are and the beauty within. :smile:

Reply 10

Tabris

16

I agree with Yoda, take a picture of yourself and post it.

But if you have enough confidence in yourself to declare that you're beautiful, then I don't see how you don't have the confidence to flaunt it. Just put yourself out there and you'll be alright.

Reply 11

Elements

13

34 person

You're really up your own arse. No one can look "beautiful" with hair tied back, glasses, and no makeup - unless you believe the whole "everyone is beautiful" perspective on life, and sorry to disappoint, but they most definitely are not. If you wanna look good, however, put on some make up let your hair down, and get some hot, sexy glasses that make you look like a dominatrix woman.

Or a superficial tart.

You are rather harsh on your own sex. Nevertheless, to reiterate, I don't agree with what you said.

Reply 12

~Sam~

15

34 person

No one can look "beautiful" with hair tied back, glasses, and no makeup

I don't agree with that, some people are naturally really pretty without having to make an effort.

Reply 13

person 34

9

loopymeg

Indeed. I'd go as far as saying that a lot of girls hide their beauty and make themselves look terrible by wearing make-up. 'Tis such a shame :frown:

EDIT:

Get a grip. Make-up is NOT essential to look good.

How naive are you? About 1 in a 100 girls look good without make up.

Reply 14

loopymeg

13

Elements

OMG OP, me too! :five:

I really know where you're coming from. Do you know what though, you are beautiful as you are now and you can see that when you look in the mirror or more importantly look inside yourself. You said that you wished that you either looked different or had a bit of self-esteem. Well with more self-esteem and feeling good about yourself, you'll feel more confident to show you r attractive face in public and be happy with who you are and how you like to express yourself. If you do things that make you happier and for yourself because you want to do them, you'll come out of your shell a bit and be able to show/reflect to the outside who you really are and the beauty within. :smile:

Nicely said :smile:

Reply 15

person 34

9

You people are ridiculos. When I say wear make up, I don't mean Jordon style. I mean a bit of foundation, mascara and blusher or something. Geez, it's like Frump city here.

Reply 16

ph9

10

34 person

You're really up your own arse. No one can look "beautiful" with hair tied back, glasses, and no makeup

oh dear.

Reply 17

loopymeg

13

34 person

How naive are you? About 1 in a 100 girls look good without make up.

I'm not naive at all, thanks. In fact after a large discussion with my course mates (all male), and some girly chats with people back home, I've come to the conclusion that most people prefer a natural face. Confidence with natural beauty has and will always be the winner.

So if you want to cover yourself with gunk and look like a multicoloured clown, then go ahead, but don't tell the OP that she looks bad without make-up.

Reply 18

person 34

9

Elements

Or a superficial tart.

You are rather harsh on your own sex. Nevertheless, to reiterate, I don't agree with what you said.

Girl are generally the better looking sex, that's a fact. Why? Because they wear make up. I'm not saying I want guys to wear make up, because thet would be weird, but think of the ratio of really good looking guys to really good looking girls, not really much of a competetion.

Reply 19

Elements

13

Tabris

I agree with Yoda, take a picture of yourself and post it.

But if you have enough confidence in yourself to declare that you're beautiful, then I don't see how you don't have the confidence to flaunt it. Just put yourself out there and you'll be alright.

Beauty is subjective; one person's idea and concept of beauty can be different to another's. With no disrespect intended to anyone here, I feel that I must say this: some men and women argue whether on the points of what each other and the opposite sex prefer be it thin girls, others curvy, others tall, others small, some with one style, some with another, some with make-up and dyes, some natural, some with hair down, others with hair up, some with glasses, some without. But all this doesn't matter. As it is all subjective anyway, you should change, style and express yourself for what you like and who you are; not what others think you should do or what they like. You are you and have to live as and for yourself, not for someone else's perception or choices.

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