Asking someone out.

I'm a girl and am going to ask a guy out. I have never EVER done this before and have never been asked before either. I've known this guy for a year or so although we dont meet up regularly. The point of what I want to say and ask is that I really like him and want to see more of him with a view to being more than friends. How on earth do I do this!? I've decided im going to invite him out for coffee, if its busy I'l suggest we go and sit on a bench somewhere as I dont want to embarass him infront of a coffee shop full of people. How do I get my message across. I'm shy and he's even more shy. Im scared that he isnt going to say anythign in response, or might be too scared to say yes. I really want to imply that I want to see him more as a partner than a friend but dont want to scare him off either. urgh its so difficult. Im sure he likes me because he gets very shy aorund me and not around his other friends. I foolishly emailed him how I feel a few months ago but didnt get a reply. He invited me out twice after and I didnt say anything about it which I think he was wanting me to do - so I want to do it now, before anyone else gets the courage to ask him out before me (although Im not aware of anyone else) Please help an inexperiened and confused girl!

Thanks

Reply 1

jumpinglunch

13

Just say this :h:

ey,do you want to go out for a coffee sometime.....just me and you.

and he will reply: yeah sure.

good luck.

Reply 2

ph9

10

tell him what you really want to say. don't plan your words. just ask him if he wants to go for a coffee, as you said, and when you're out, it sort of happens naturally. the eye glancing/flicking to lips/awkwardness and, basically, sexual tension and all of that hoo har. of course you'll have to go for it a little more than usual since you say he's very shy, but you don't have to be all over him. eventually during the 'date' (can i call it that? :biggrin:

), just tell him how you feel.

Reply 3

Meep!

9

Just don't get him out on a date and then say 'Will you go out with me?', sooo high school. Asking him out for coffee, flirting etc should get the point across...

Reply 4

shona

10

Anonymous

I'm a girl and am going to ask a guy out. I have never EVER done this before and have never been asked before either. I've known this guy for a year or so although we dont meet up regularly. The point of what I want to say and ask is that I really like him and want to see more of him with a view to being more than friends. How on earth do I do this!? I've decided im going to invite him out for coffee, if its busy I'l suggest we go and sit on a bench somewhere as I dont want to embarass him infront of a coffee shop full of people. How do I get my message across. I'm shy and he's even more shy. Im scared that he isnt going to say anythign in response, or might be too scared to say yes. I really want to imply that I want to see him more as a partner than a friend but dont want to scare him off either. urgh its so difficult. Im sure he likes me because he gets very shy aorund me and not around his other friends. I foolishly emailed him how I feel a few months ago but didnt get a reply. He invited me out twice after and I didnt say anything about it which I think he was wanting me to do - so I want to do it now, before anyone else gets the courage to ask him out before me (although Im not aware of anyone else) Please help an inexperiened and confused girl!

Thanks

Ask him casually if he wants to go for a coffee - you can phone/text/msn him, whatever you've comfortable with. Don't make it a big deal. He'll say yes.

Then, when you're out together in person and you catch a quiet moment when there aren't too many people around, tell him that you enjoy spending time with him just the two of you, and you'd like it if maybe you could do more of that.

It's really that simple. Good luck - it sounds as if there's something mutual there, so don't be scared. All the best, sweetheart. :smile:

Reply 5

gRaDiUs

hmmmm, all good ideas, or you could say 'hey baby, wanna take a spin in my well oiled love making mean machine?'

actually, i think the coffee idea is better

but let me know if my idea works! (garauntee it will on 99% of guys... why? BECAUSE WE'RE GUYS!)

i think its awesome actually that more girls are joinin the 21st century where a guy can be asked out by a girl - viva la revolution!

Reply 6

ph9

10

gradius, your sig :biggrin:

Reply 7

dans

12

Opps - wrong thread

Asking someone out.

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