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dropping out just before AS exams due to depression

How do I go about it? Tbh I know that I'm " ruining " my life and whatever, I just want advice if you want to criticise just keep it to yourself okay, I'm feeling really too fragile at the moment to take ANY kind of negative criticism.Hopefully I'll have a doctor's appointment on Monday and then I can talk to my head of sixth form? :frown:

Please help

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Reply 1

Purple

If you know you are "ruining" the rest of your life then why do it? The way you have put that post makes it seem like you are going to regret it and you will have just wasted a year.

Your exams are in a month then you will have a whole summer to relax and think about what you want to do.

Reply 2

sauce

I know,it sounds like it's easy in theory. I know I'll regret it but I can't mentally take carrying on at school anymore. I'll probably start a college course in September and do something I know I love(Child care). I may be "intelligent" but I don't wanna end up in a job I hate. Sixth form makes me miserable.

Reply 3

ph9

yeah please don't do it. it's far too into the year to give up now. no matter how bad your grades are, you have retakes the following year and time to pick yourself up and work hard. that's what i did and i'm so glad i didn't drop out last year.

Reply 4

Kilgore Trout

Talking to your head of sixth form is the first place to start (is s/he nice?). Talking to/telling your parents is also something you need to do.

If you feel that this is the right course for you, then nobody call tell you you're ruining your life by doing it. A few years ago I attempted to leave, and my head of sixth form told me I would essentially be ruining my life by doing it. Then by her and my parents pressuring me, I stayed. And failed all of my A levels.

You can always (as I will be doing) do A levels as night classes, or just as an older student. Or not, if you so wish.

Either way, you've got a photo of mr Rhind-Tutt in your sig, so logically you can't be doomed to total failure.

Reply 5

goodmen

if you want to drop out just stop going

Reply 6

sauce

That's not fair on the teachers really though is it?Just dropping out and not saying anything and also so near to the exams? I have a drama exam (practical) this Tuesday/Wednesday. I think i'm going to do that(so It's not unfair on the people that I'm with) and then just quit sixth form :frown:

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Kilgore Trout-my head of sixth form is lovely,he'll try and advise me not to but I'll just tell him how depressed I am and this is making me wrose and I'm sure he'll understand.

Should this work?

Reply 7

gRaDiUs

dont drop out, take a year out, enjoy yourself, go abroad for a year

if your ever in london, you are more than welcome to join me and some mates for a night out!

every1 feels like major crap at one time or another, put it this way, if you feel THAT bad, it can only get better from here! I have had awful times, and awesome times, lifes a rollercoaster, for every down, theres and up and you should always remember that. you are never truly alone, anywhere nor at anytime.

but my personal advice would be not to drop out. If indeed there are people against you, then thats exactly what they would want, it shows defeat. Battle on, show the bastards that grind you down that you are better than them as human beings. success will be the best revenge, and revenge is sweet - its also a dish best served cold, perhaps revenge coould be liked to some sort of creme brulee? or maybe a jelly of some kind?

beyond the point now tbh lol, basically, I find that the best way to overcome things like this is that there is always someone worse than you. dont get me wrong, not in a bad way, but like when i play football, rugby, etc and am exhausted to the point my legs wont move and my lungs burn or when i felt like crap after movin to a new school and not knowing anyone and failing my AS's, I just thought

'hey, there's someone out there, like in the 3rd world who's problems include disease, starvation, drought etc, how can I possibly know anything about having a bad life or feeling pain'

and it puts alot of stuff into perspective

well, thats just what i have to say on the matter, hope it helps to some degree

you seem genuine and sincere and you'll always have a friend in me :smile:

Reply 8

Kilgore Trout

It should work, but be prepared for him to get desperate and try anything to make you stay.

Reply 9

sauce

gRaDius,you have an amazing talent of writing things in such an interesting way and reading that has actually made me feel a bit refreshed. I think I realise dropping out now isn't the end of the world. I can take a long summer with my cousins,maybe go back to Italy with them for a while, earn some extra money and get a car and do all the things I wanted to do when school still was here. Maybe when doing these things this will give me an opportunity to ,dread the thought,miss school?

I just think dropping out at the moment is for the best, I don't want to go into my AS' in this state of mind and end up wasting all that time with failed exams.

Maybe College next year is a better option,new people,new start and all that.

Just gotta get this drama exam out of the way now :'( and tell my head of sixth form
Tips on approaching him about it anyone?

Reply 10

sauce

Kilgore Trout

It should work, but be prepared for him to get desperate and try anything to make you stay.

Yeah,for my friend that included offering her to drop two subjects and do work shadowing in a nursery just so she'd stay.I don't want that though, I just wanna leave.

Reply 11

ice_cube

If I were you, I would sit the exams but not worry about them too much, dont work your ass off and get all worked up. If you come out with a couple of Ds or Es, then at least you have something to make the year feel like less of a waste, it is always justifable to use medical reasons to explain the grades. Youve done all this work so far, it would probably make yourself feel better to have taken the exams, and then in September start what you really want to do.

Reply 12

sauce

I know, I know :frown:

thing making me feel even wrose is that I got two A's on my modules in January as well. I'm going to go the doctor's on Monday adn then talk to my Head of school on WEdnesday or Thursday.

Reply 13

ice_cube

In that case, even if you just turn up and have done no revision you will probably get Cs. Come August when everyone else is picking up their results you will really regret not having just sat the exams. By all means dont bother going back to class now, or in September, but you might as well make use of all the hard work you have already done.

Reply 14

Llamaaa

you can keep those As in the modules, don't do your exams this year, travel around in the summer etc, then pick up again in september and take the rest of your exams that year. You won't do well this year if you are so depressed, so I don't think you should stay and do those exams. If they turn out horribly you may lose confidence in your abilities too, so I'd say take a break, get better, and then you can properly think about what you want to do. Do you want to give sixth form another shot, or do you want to do something else. Don't put yourself through sixth form if it makes you miserable. Your health comes first.

Reply 15

gRaDiUs

Lilian

I know, I know :frown:

thing making me feel even wrose is that I got two A's on my modules in January as well. I'm going to go the doctor's on Monday adn then talk to my Head of school on WEdnesday or Thursday.

dont waste those A's, your obviously an intelligent girl, please dont waste that. There are people that would give their right nipple to even have the ability to get A's.

I thought about dropping out, i didnt in the end, and now i have 5 A's to my name and a cool gap year job. Fate works in wierd ways, sometimes negative but i garauntee you, the majority of times its positive. Don't give up on yourself, you deserve better than that.

and if i can do, any body most certainly can. dont fall into the trap of self pity, its a balck hole from which nothing can escape, you start feeling sorry for yourself which leads to you feeling worse and amplifying whats going wrong in life whilst neglecting whats going right which in turn leads to more self pity

sometimes, you just have to pick yourself up, dust yourself, pull your underwear down and moon all which pisses you off whilst flipping it the bird and shouting '******* you a**holes, I'm still here!'

offense is the best defence hun, focus on what makes you great, i'm sure you'll be surprised :wink:

Reply 16

sauce

The only reason I got those 2 A's is because one was general studies(say no more) and Pyschology I hate but yet am strangely good at . The one thing I liked apart from RS was English which I hate now due to how the teachers have become so bitchy and that I got an E when I read that ****ing book Spies 5 ****ing times!!!

I'm angry, it feels good.

But I think I should just not go sixth form after this drama exam adn explain that I'm going to the doctor due to my low mood and I don't want to sit the exams totally unmotivated and end up losing all the little confidence that remains.

I'm probably gunan edn up crying telling my head of sixth form and I hate that

T_T

Reply 17

Kilgore Trout

Easy there, Gradius. Depression's a bit more complicated than self pity.

Lilian, I think that's a good idea. But, just so you know, your head of sixth form will probably call your parents to talk to them, and your doctor will try to pressure you to tell your family about your depression. Just so you know.

You could try just going in for the two remaining General Studies exams. No revision, no stress since they mean nothing, and nice to pick up an A grade in August. It's not much, but it might do your ego some good.

Reply 18

gRaDiUs

granted, but self pity is not the way to go, strength and belief in yourself will overcome the majority of problems life throws at you, because with belief in yourself, you can do anything.

I was getting arrested, etc and was generally an awful kid in the year before before GCSE's cos I gave up hope in myself due to a tradegy in my family. I was telling myself, why bother? But in the end i realised that whilst i may not see it now, the benfits of bucking up and facing stuff head on and breaking out of a spiral of self pity will far outweigh the temporary feeling of protection you might experience from seclusion. I was predicted 3 C's and straight U's/ungraded for my other subjects if i was lucky at christmas, faced facts in february/march that my life was gonna be messed up if i continued like this, and here i am today, 2 years later 11 A*s and 2 A's for the better at GCSE and 5 A's at A-Level.

thats why i said, if I can do, then everybody can! just believe in yourself, belief is a powerful tool. just look around you at the world today