Always trying to be what someone else wants me to be...

I feel slightly stupid posting this here, but recently I've found myself even more insecure than normal (impressive!) and finding it really difficult to be myself around people. Tbh I don't even know what being myself is like... it sounds ridiculously stupid but all my life I have lived for other people, i am very easily influenced by the people around me and am always trying to be who they want me to be, i.e. funny, fun etc. However some days (like today), I find myself very reserved and shy even around some of my relatively close friends.

I don't really know what to do, I so wish I'd taken a gap year when I could do some stuff completely seperate from the Uni/school life, with completely random people, and really find my own identity. Gawd this sounds so cheesy (sorry!).

I'm not really sure what I'm asking here, just some support from all of you kind people out there :smile:

Thanks.

Reply 1

Beetle

Hey don't feel stupid I think everyone feels like this from time to time. I'm not always in the mood to be loud and really social around my close friends and occasionally go all quiet, its no bad thing. Don't try to be what people want u 2 b cos you're never gna please everyone. I understand that thats very easy to say but not so easy to do tho...

That was my attempt at support, hope it helped lol!

Reply 2

coldplasma

16

You probably need to relax more, I usually get this kind of 'social anxiety' (that's the medical term for it) when I'm stressed out with exams, and/or worried about something.

Reply 3

toth8

3

Woah!

I feel slightly stupid posting this here, but recently I've found myself even more insecure than normal (impressive!) and finding it really difficult to be myself around people. Tbh I don't even know what being myself is like... it sounds ridiculously stupid but all my life I have lived for other people, i am very easily influenced by the people around me and am always trying to be who they want me to be, i.e. funny, fun etc. However some days (like today), I find myself very reserved and shy even around some of my relatively close friends.

I don't really know what to do, I so wish I'd taken a gap year when I could do some stuff completely seperate from the Uni/school life, with completely random people, and really find my own identity. Gawd this sounds so cheesy (sorry!).

I'm not really sure what I'm asking here, just some support from all of you kind people out there :smile:

Thanks.

then be yourself. **** it's not that hard.

Always trying to be what someone else wants me to be...

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