Difficulty getting over mugging

Hey everyone im just asking for some advice really. I was mugged at knifepoint last week on my uni campus. Immediatly the next morning i went abroard and had such a good time, it took me completley away from the situation. I came back to halls on Sunday night and as i live on campus im finding it quite difficult to get over it although im definatly getting there. Just stuff like i feel a bit panicky if im in a quiet spot and i hear someone behind me. Im kinda couped up with work at the moment so i havent been out at night yet and am only slowly getting back into my routine. Like its taken me three days to manage to go out and replace some of the things which were stolen. I have been to lectures and things though just hard going out alone when i dont need to. I dont really like talking to my friends about it as i feel they have had enough of listening to me moan, and its my problem to deal with. I just want some advice really of anything that would help me get back to normal really. I dont want councilling im not that bad! Thanks for any help!!

Reply 1

Laika

1

I went through a similar experience two years ago but it was less of a mugging and more of a....stabbing. For a while afterwards I would get panicky whilst alone at night and have to keep checking behind me and such. In time I got over it and now I feel a lot more confident because of the experience in a weird way.

Reply 2

blone_bomb

OP

Thank you. Its just nice to hear from somone in a similar situation whose come through the other side. Your stabbing sounds awful, but if you can get through something like that im sure il recover from something a lot less serious.

Reply 3

shane_watto

You are best to ensure you go around in groups where possible for a while whilst you get over the incident, it will come with time but you just have to be patient and not feel upset or embarassed about feeling worried. There are some bad people around but thankfully there is probably more nice people and things like this are generally one offs.

Reply 4

WokSz

17

^very true. Just don't be alone and try and not go to the place where you got mugged.

Reply 5

sidi

1

It's entirely natural to feel the way you do. Were the police involved? I only ask because they would be able to advise you on ways to protect yourself in future and make you feel more secure. I would carry a rape alarm for example. I know you don't want counselling but Victim Support have a helpline if you did want to talk to someone without bothering your friends.
www.victimsupport.org.uk

Reply 6

hertfordshireman

Did u go the police, if they had a knife, why and how did they get it in the campus (Virginia and the safety lapses?) ? and they could have used it. . Even if it seems extreme it does matter that a female was threatened with a knife, it could have been used.
Yes bad things happen like failing an module , having a headache etc but being threatened with being killed unless you give a person your possesion, so someone can get something of yours (so taking from you to them) for free is not just sh** happens IMO opinion. Imagine if the OP said "bad things happpen, im going to forget it" and the knifeman used it against many others , everyone would be in uproar.
It is not just a normal cae of someone taking something from someone else which is not thiers, also IMO it is certainly not a who cares situation. Imagine if everyone had that attitude of - "I was threatened with a knife" ... "Who cares", IMO that would be a sick society. IMO some aspects of society is bad enough already,but having that attitude of "Who cares" would be a stoping to new low.. when we hear of the police and authorities etc not responding and them something bad happens after they don't respond we are all in uproar and say why was nothing done earlier.

Reply 7

Angrybanana

11

Perhaps you should take up a martial arts class to ensure that if anything like that happened again you'd be able to protect yourself. The confidence you'd get from doing something like that will help you feel safe again when you go out. Some uni's run classes specifically to help women protect themselves.

Reply 8

blone_bomb

OP

Yep i did contact the police straight away and i have now given my statment etc. They were really great actually, and said they had never heard of a mugging before on the campus. The rape alarm thing is a really good idea actually as there was a security guard in a building near by who had no idea what had happened. Im might give the martial arts things ago aswell. Thanks for all your advice people, i jus thope i can get back to normality fairly soon.

Reply 9

Marianne

Angrybanana

Perhaps you should take up a martial arts class to ensure that if anything like that happened again you'd be able to protect yourself. The confidence you'd get from doing something like that will help you feel safe again when you go out. Some uni's run classes specifically to help women protect themselves.

That is EXACTLY what I was going to suggest. I do jiu jitsu and there are loads of knife (and bottle) defences we learn. I would never say I am invincible but it does make me feel more secure when I am walking along and I see someone coming towards me/running up behind me, especially if I am on my own in the dark.

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