i'm not one to complain...

...but does anyone else think this is bang out of order?

I work two jobs, full time at an accountancy firm during the day and some evenings/weekends I work in a bar. Tonight after I finish at the firm, I have to rush straight from one job to the next (I don’t drive). I won’t finish until about half past11.

Now my bf said he’d come pick me up from work when I’ve finished, but unfortunately had his windscreen smashed in this morning so now he can’t. so I asked if he’d come walk to meet me when I finish and he gets up in arms about this. Bear in mind that I live in a seriously rough chav estate kind of area (gotta love student housing) where people are regularly assaulted (two people have also been killed right down my road).

He asked why I even needed anyone to walk me home and I was like ‘erm, so I don’t get killed’ and he said ‘so you want me to get killed walking to pick you up?!’ --- let’s consider the facts here; he’s a 6’8, built rugby player. No one is going to mess with him, and he doesn’t have to walk through any remotely rough areas to get to the bar.

This has really upset me, because for starters, I feel like I’m being petty, and secondly, I’m actually really scared about having to walk home on my own through my area (I forgot my wallet so can’t even get a taxi).

To top it all off, I forgot to bring a coat/jacket to work so I’ll have to walk back at night in the tee shirt I have to wear to the bar :frown:

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Am I being a fooooooooooooool and any advice?

Fanks peeps.

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Reply 1

Angrybanana

Perhaps order a taxi to pick you up? It may be expensive, but your safety ought to come above that. DON'T walk home alone. Your bf may be big and tough looking, but my brother is the same, and chavs always pick on him for a fight for that reason.

Reply 2

hell_o

No I don't think you are, I definitely think you're right in asking him to walk you home considering you live in a rough area and to be honest I think he's being quite selfish. I think you should tell him that it's upset you and that you weren't being demanding or anything, simply wanting to be protected. I'm sorry but the comment ‘so you want me to get killed walking to pick you up?!’ from a 6'8 rugby player made me giggle :P silly man. Well I hope he does decide to walk you home so you get home safely.

Reply 3

grace

hallelujah someone agrees with me!

but like i said, i can't get a taxi because my wallet's at home :frown:

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my bf's pretty pissed off with me, so i don't think he'll be walking me home :frown:

Reply 4

hell_o

Why is he pissed off at you? You've done nothing wrong! I swear I really od not understand men and what goes on in their heads psh. Have you got a friend or colleague who could walk you home/lend you some money for a taxi?

Reply 5

foxiroxi

Borrow some money from a friend/co-worker to pay for taxi or do you live with someone who could pay taxi other end for you?

Reply 6

leona

Cant you pay the taxi man when you get home? Just pop inside to get your wallet, I'm sure you can do that.

Reply 7

Angrybanana

grace

hallelujah someone agrees with me!

but like i said, i can't get a taxi because my wallet's at home :frown:

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my bf's pretty pissed off with me, so i don't think he'll be walking me home :frown:

Oops, sorry didn't see that part :redface:

maybe your bf should pay, or at least lend you the money. It's a small price to pay for your gf's safety. If not, i agree with the person who said pop in and get your wallet at the end of the journey.

Reply 8

grace

my wallet doesn't have any cash on it, i'd need to use a cashpoint.

my housemates are stingy and won't fork up the money.

and i'm only quite new at the bar so i can't really ask anyone to borrow any :frown:

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my bf's pissed off (understandably) because some idiot smashed in his window so he's not been having a good day, but i've had a RUBBISH day (which involved my worn g-string ending up on my desk in the middle of the office for everyone to see - thanks to my bf - don't ask lol) and am anxious about getting home and just arrrrrrrrgh [rant/]

Reply 9

leona

oh i see. Yeah, sounds like a bit of a rubbish situation :frown:

Your boyfriend is being difficult, I would try and give you some advice like "talk to him, tell him your upset etc" but I figure you've probably alreadydone that. Plus when a guy gets in a strop its bloody hard to get them out of it, lol.
I'm sure things will work out fine tonight though :smile:

Reply 10

Flank Runner

no offense but your boyfriend sounds like an arse, even if he is having a rubbish day, doesn't mean he should take it out on you, if i knew a girl mate had to walk home from town at night i'd offer to walk her, just so she doesn't get attacked, tell him your genuinely afraid and would like him there, if he still doesn't come round inform your boss at the bar of your situation, if they have any kind of decency, they'll lend you the money to get a taxi, but don't walk home alone, cause god only knows what could happen

Reply 11

high priestess fnord

can you get somone else to walk you back? i know my work mates allways offered : /

i would not be amused if i asked my bf to walk me home and he refused. tbh if he moaned about the chance of him being attacked on the way there i would point out the far higher chance of him being attacked when i got home.

Reply 12

Yoda

Sure you're in the right, but its not something to make a big argument about. From his point of view, its a bit ****ty that he has to run about walking you everywhere, when he wants to get on with his own life. Has he been pretty busy doing something recently?

Anyway, just phone a guy mate to walk you around instead. I'm fairly sure you'll have a few numbers of guys who like you, they'd be happy to do it. Sure its a little suggesting, but **** it.

Reply 13

minimo

That doesn't sound right Grace and you should feel annoyed, but from what you say on here, your bf is a nice guy, so maybe he's just having an irritable day? Make sure you tell him how you feel tho.

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

Yoda

Anyway, just phone a guy mate to walk you around instead. I'm fairly sure you'll have a few numbers of guys who like you, they'd be happy to do it. Sure its a little suggesting, but **** it.

for once yoda i actually agree with you. not to mention that with this plan you can then majorly guilt trip your bf afterwards. yes i really am that mean.

Reply 15

Runaground

There are two sides to this:

On the one side there is you - I agree it is dangerous for you to walk home alone at that time of night in that kind of area and your boyfriend should be trying to help you out in some way, but it seems he isn't and is being stubborn.

HOWEVER

It *is* still dangerous for him to walk about, even if he is big and massive and muscley, simply because a lot of the time those are the kind of people that get randomly attacked, I mean, anyone can hit a girl, but it takes a man and a half to knock a rugby player down, right? :rolleyes:

Anyway - Is there any way your boyfriend can get money to you in some way so that you are able to get a taxi? If not then I think your only option is to ask everyone you see if they can lend you the money. Whatever you do DON'T walk home that late at night alone and DON'T expect your boyfriend to come and fetch you alone and by foot.

Good luck finding some way of getting home - beg everyone for money! Someone will lend you some! :smile:

Reply 16

Runaground

high priestess fnord

for once yoda i actually agree with you. not to mention that with this plan you can then either majorly guilt trip your bf afterwards. yes i really am that mean.

I personally think that is a very very immature way of looking at this whole situation. It's a childish solution. I pity anyone who gets into a relstionship with you when you're at this level of emotional maturity.