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guy asked me to prom, don't want to go with

my guy friend asked me to go to prom with him today, and i said yes even though i don't really want to go with him, i just didn't want to hurt his feelnigs. it's not that i don't like him but i don't see the point of going with someone just to i won't be on my own, and plus i'd rather spend the evening with my group of friends than just with one person. will it be rude if i say to him i'd actually rather go on my own? any tactful ways of doing this? thankyou, jess xx
well surely if hes a friend then he wont mind being with your group of friends anyway? or is he one of those "friend" friends :wink:

just because hes taking you there doesnt mean you have to spend the evening alone with him.
Reply 2
At prom you never spend much (if any) time with your 'date', so its not really a big deal.
Reply 3
high priestess fnord
well surely if hes a friend then he wont mind being with your group of friends anyway? or is he one of those "friend" friends :wink:

just because hes taking you there doesnt mean you have to spend the evening alone with him.


oh no he's not a 'friend' friend lol tbh i don't spend much time with him + don't really know why he asked me......and he doesn't like my lot of friends really so can't see us all hanging out!
Pull a sickie.
You need to learn to say no, otherwise next time it might be a far worse situation.
Reply 6
It's my life
You need to learn to say no, otherwise next time it might be a far worse situation.

Hardly the same thing!
Talya
Hardly the same thing!


Maybe but i'm just saying what if someone asks her out and she says yes to that just so she doesn't hurt his feelings.
It's my life
Maybe but i'm just saying what if someone asks her out and she says yes to that just so she doesn't hurt his feelings.


Slightly OT, but I said yes when someone asked me out because I didn't know how to say no and he turned out to be the love of my life!
Reply 9
~*JESS*~
my guy friend asked me to go to prom with him today, and i said yes even though i don't really want to go with him, i just didn't want to hurt his feelnigs.

You hurt people's feeling by being dishonest with them instead of just behaving naturally, pleasantly and honestly.

It's got nothing to do with him or his feelings in reality, it's just that you didn't have enough of a spine to say no.
It's my life
Maybe but i'm just saying what if someone asks her out and she says yes to that just so she doesn't hurt his feelings.


melodrama
I think it'd be better going with him than being alone. I'm sure he wouldn't care if you went and hung with your friends anyway, or he could join you. If you reject him now he'll be crushed, I'm sure he doesn't think he's going to sleep with you anyway.
Reply 12
Soul Rebel
melodrama


That's what this forum is here for.
Lib North
That's what this forum is here for.


haha yep i couldnt agree more.

yo OP, you wont spend much time with him there, im sure if you turned up together and then branched off with each of your friends it would all be cool ya know.
tell him you just broke out of a huge relationship and you dont think your ready to go with anyone yet.
~*JESS*~
my guy friend asked me to go to prom with him today, and i said yes even though i don't really want to go with him, i just didn't want to hurt his feelnigs. it's not that i don't like him but i don't see the point of going with someone just to i won't be on my own, and plus i'd rather spend the evening with my group of friends than just with one person. will it be rude if i say to him i'd actually rather go on my own? any tactful ways of doing this? thankyou, jess xx


I think he will probs be hurt, but you didn't really have anyway of saying no without hurting his feelings unfortunately.

ooooooo i dont feel well. :frown:
Reply 16
Just because you're telling the truth, doesn't mean you have to hurt his feelings with it. "No, I was going with my group of friends" is different to "No, you suck, as if you have a chance with me".
Reply 17
Seriously, you'll spend the majority of the evening with your friends anyway - I'm sure he'll want to be with his friends as well?