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Brother is on the verge of failing A-level's - What do I do?
Hi guys, please can you help.
My brother is in Year 13 at the final stages of his A-levels. However, he done badly in his AS and A-level modules and really needs to work his socks off if he wants good overall grades.
Despite this fact, nothing seems to urge him on to work. He really can't be brother to put in much effort. He's been getting frequent phone calls and letters from his teachers and the Head of Year telling him of his lack of progess but yet he's still not bothered.An example of this can be seen in the fact that he's got Coursework to submit next week Friday (4th May). It is an extremely difficult piece of Coursework that needs a lot of time and effort. We advised him to spend all of this weekend completing it. However, he is a fabsolute football FANATIC. He's a huge Charlton fan and has a season ticket to see all the games. Instead of staying at home and doing the Courseworkwhich will be the make or break of his A-level's, he wants to go all the way to Blackburn, (we live in London) to watch them play (no, I'm not joking). This is only the tip of the iceburg there are many more examples but it's too much for me to write. EVery memebr of the family has tried to advise him about how important it is to work hard and study but he doesn't listen and responds by swearing or even being physically agressive!! The only people he listens to are his chavvy, so called ''mates'' that he has now associated himself with. They are the sort of people who think it's cool not to learn. What makes it frustarting is that he's VERY intelligent and has got offers to go to top redbrick universities to do a very good subject but he's just simply throwing it away by not studying.
I know most of you on TSR are serious about studying and are good at offering advice. I intend to show him this thread so please could you tell him how important it is to study/work hard etc. as he does not listen to me or anyone else.
Thank you.
My brother is in Year 13 at the final stages of his A-levels. However, he done badly in his AS and A-level modules and really needs to work his socks off if he wants good overall grades.
Despite this fact, nothing seems to urge him on to work. He really can't be brother to put in much effort. He's been getting frequent phone calls and letters from his teachers and the Head of Year telling him of his lack of progess but yet he's still not bothered.An example of this can be seen in the fact that he's got Coursework to submit next week Friday (4th May). It is an extremely difficult piece of Coursework that needs a lot of time and effort. We advised him to spend all of this weekend completing it. However, he is a fabsolute football FANATIC. He's a huge Charlton fan and has a season ticket to see all the games. Instead of staying at home and doing the Courseworkwhich will be the make or break of his A-level's, he wants to go all the way to Blackburn, (we live in London) to watch them play (no, I'm not joking). This is only the tip of the iceburg there are many more examples but it's too much for me to write. EVery memebr of the family has tried to advise him about how important it is to work hard and study but he doesn't listen and responds by swearing or even being physically agressive!! The only people he listens to are his chavvy, so called ''mates'' that he has now associated himself with. They are the sort of people who think it's cool not to learn. What makes it frustarting is that he's VERY intelligent and has got offers to go to top redbrick universities to do a very good subject but he's just simply throwing it away by not studying.
I know most of you on TSR are serious about studying and are good at offering advice. I intend to show him this thread so please could you tell him how important it is to study/work hard etc. as he does not listen to me or anyone else.
Thank you.
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Wow... talk about pressure... 
A levels are a stressful enough time without having the whole family and whole school on you back. To be honest I don't blame him wanting to go watch the football instead.
Let him do what he wants. If he wants to revise he can, if he wants to watch the football he can, if he wants to go to a red brick uni can... Its his life, no need to make it harder
A levels are a stressful enough time without having the whole family and whole school on you back. To be honest I don't blame him wanting to go watch the football instead.
Let him do what he wants. If he wants to revise he can, if he wants to watch the football he can, if he wants to go to a red brick uni can... Its his life, no need to make it harder
pinkpinkuk
Wow... talk about pressure...
A levels are a stressful enough time without having the whole family and whole school on you back. To be honest I don't blame him wanting to go watch the football instead.
Let him do what he wants. If he wants to revise he can, if he wants to watch the football he can, if he wants to go to a red brick uni can... Its his life, no need to make it harder
A levels are a stressful enough time without having the whole family and whole school on you back. To be honest I don't blame him wanting to go watch the football instead.
Let him do what he wants. If he wants to revise he can, if he wants to watch the football he can, if he wants to go to a red brick uni can... Its his life, no need to make it harder
But I just feel it such a waste, he's very intelligent but instead of putting the intelligence to good use he'd rather hang out with his chav mates.
It doesn't matter if he's intelligent or not. Intelligence alone doesn't cut it in A Levels and degrees, you have to be willing to put the work in, otherwise you're just the same as any old bum. They don't just hand out qualifications you know...
coldplasma
They don't just hand out qualifications you know...
Try telling him that sweetheart.
He simply won't listen.Rock 'n' Roll
Try telling him that sweetheart. He simply won't listen.
He simply won't listen.I know this sounds harsh, but let him find out the hard way, you have done all you can.
It's my life
I know this sounds harsh, but let him find out the hard way, you have done all you can.
Fully agree. If he wants to piss it away, let him. He'll regret it. I too am a football fan (not as fanatic mind you) but still know that I have to work to get ahead in life.
You have done what you could, more even by continuing your concern. Let him work it out. Maybe he'll just have to repeat them.
Read the title and thought my sister was on TSR. Phew. I agree with letting him get on with his own thing, its his life and he'll realise sooner or later than he needs to work to get somewhere.
you wait...itll kick in and itll be horrible for him like during his study leave, and i bet you he wont leave the house during it..
there will be one pivotal moment where he will realise what exactly he needs to do to go to these unis, realise he hasnt done enough, and will work his arse off!
so for now u may just as well back off and wait for that moment, as any pressure will make it less likely for him to realise and he will just keep on rebelling.
there will be one pivotal moment where he will realise what exactly he needs to do to go to these unis, realise he hasnt done enough, and will work his arse off!
so for now u may just as well back off and wait for that moment, as any pressure will make it less likely for him to realise and he will just keep on rebelling.
At some point in his life your brother has to make his own choices - and this might be the time.
He might not want to do the uni thing - but the family might expect it of him so he's just going along wiht it.
Let him find his own level - if he passes on very little work thna good for him. If he doesn't then he needs to sort it out for himslef.
My advice is to tell him you're there to help him if he needs you and then stand back.
He's nearly 18 - he can make his own mess and then sort it out. Just make sure you don't baby him if he fails. Make him do all the phone calls to unis himself etc - don't fall into the trap of sorting his life out for him.
He might not want to do the uni thing - but the family might expect it of him so he's just going along wiht it.
Let him find his own level - if he passes on very little work thna good for him. If he doesn't then he needs to sort it out for himslef.
My advice is to tell him you're there to help him if he needs you and then stand back.
He's nearly 18 - he can make his own mess and then sort it out. Just make sure you don't baby him if he fails. Make him do all the phone calls to unis himself etc - don't fall into the trap of sorting his life out for him.
If he cant cope with his A levels, how will he cope with university ?
University is not for everyone. Perhaps watching the football and hanging around with chavs is what he should be doing with his life.
University is not for everyone. Perhaps watching the football and hanging around with chavs is what he should be doing with his life.
If you and your family can all agree to stop nagging him, you may find that this is the kick up the bum that he needs. He'll realise, 'oh, it is my responsibility after all'.
There's only so much you can do. After all, say he does go to uni he won't have you around to make him work anymore so he'd only flunk out anyway. If he decides he does want to do well after all he can always retake the ALevels.
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