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Is this cheating?

luke88

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(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 1

ISH

9

First of all, you have no obligation to this other guy, as yet. And you say you're not ready for a relationship. I do not recommend starting one because "it's the thing to do." It will only end badly.

But as for your question specifically, no you shouldn't worry about the other guy, and who says he needs to know what you do? Yall are dating... (yet)

Reply 2

Zerforax

21

You mean is it cheating on the lad you met if you go Canal street and kiss another guy...?
Considering your not involved with the guy, not even kissed him or anything.. you dont owe him anything so strictly not cheating.
On the other hand, if the situation was reverse, ie you find out he's gone out and kissed a girl, would you feel hurt? if so, dont do it? if you dont care and think he can do w/e, then same applies to you?

Reply 3

Joric

luke88

I recently met a lad in a club around two weeks ago. I've been meeting up with him a few times and I'm growing fond of him. I've started to develop feelings, such as thinking about him a lot and just wanting to hold him, nothing more though. We get on well and have some good chats although we have different interests and different morals. I mean, he said he would go on a webcam to an old man for money. He has done drugs in the past too, hard drugs. I find all this very distastful. He said he wouldn't do drugs again though. All this puts me off from going into a relationship, plus I'm really not ready for it because I'm too senstive and really scared of getting hurt.

I want to go canal street this weekend, but not 100% sure if I'm going yet. If I do go, I'm bound to go with someone (just kiss!).

Would you say this is cheating? I'm not in a relationsip but it could develop into one? How would you feel if you were the other guy.

Thanks

This is not cheating.

Reply 4

Profesh

20

Where's the obligation?

Reply 5

foxiroxi

10

Your not even going out with him so how can it be cheating???

Btw I wouldn't worry about the drugs thing. I myself have never touched them however my boyfriend has done alot in the past but has said he will not do them again. It shoudln't put you off a relationship if you wanted one.

Reply 6

WokSz

17

Like everyone else, I don't think you have an obligation to this person. If you want to kiss someone else, go for it! :smile:

Reply 7

pumpkin7

13

it'll make him jealous! hehe.

no, i agree with everyone else.. you aren't tied to the one guy, so go for it with whomever you want. it's only when you are in a relationship that it's considered cheating.

Reply 8

Yellowmarshmellow

If you're not going out with the guy then it''s not cheating :smile:

Reply 9

coloursonthetv

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sarforaz

On the other hand, if the situation was reverse, ie you find out he's gone out and kissed a girl, would you feel hurt? if so, dont do it?

Well the OP is a boy :rolleyes:

so it depends on what the other lad in question feels really.

OP if you get along well with the guy then why not just go for it? Unless you really can't agree with his morals. I wouldn't avoid relationships just because you don't want to get hurt because you can't live your life in bubble wrap. Though I wouldn't go for it, or another relationship if you truely don't feel ready.

And it wouldn't be cheating as you are not commited to the lad you're talking about.

If you don't like this lad because of his 'morals' though is it really fair that you yourself go on nights out expecting to pull etc? When actually you do have feeling for someone else.... yet don't want a relationship because you'll get hurt? I think it's a bit pointless pulling for the sake of it.

But anyhow :smile:

Reply 10

Runaground

Kissing someone in my eyes is cheating.

To me, cheating is anything that you wouldn't do if your partner was watching you.

Hope this helps.

[EDIT] Just realised your situation is different as you are not currently "with" this person. Well, would you feel comfortable if the person was there watching you kiss someone?? Would they?? It might not be cheating but it could be disloyal and it might hurt him if he finds out. I mean if the worst comes to the worst it could ruin your chances with him so think before you act :smile:

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