Should I pay for the girl?

Why should he have to?

It's not the 1800s.

I don't want to be paid for just because I'm a girl. It's sexist to women and unfair to men.

You either split or you take it in turns to pay for stuff.

Smh You really think it's sexist to open a door for a woman. It doesn't mean she uncapable of taking care of herself. it's just a sweet gesture.

You should hold the door open for someone who is going through behind you because they are a human being. (Or open doors for people who are physically unable or would have to use a considerable amount more effort than you to open it. e.g. elderly people, young children, people with certain physical disablities). Do good gestures because someone's a person, not because they're a woman.

The other issue is that some on here say "I'll only let them pay if I want to carry on seeing them". There's 2 problems with that; firstly, lots of women don't think like that and see it as a free meal, the guy has no way of telling if the woman is genuinely interested, or conning them for a free meal. And secondly, lots of guys are turned off by girls accepting an offer to be paid for, unless the girl says specifically that they want to meet again and will pay (and even then they can be d one over by the girl in the last sentence).
It's a clear signalling problem, that many women signal that they want to see a guy again by not paying, whilst many men take a women not paying half as a potential problem in the relationship straight from the start, as it sets the potential relationship off on the wrong foot.

I disagree. I would only open a door for the elderly, young child or physically unable. I would never and I say never open a door for a woman. That is sexism on the highest scale. I have been verbally attacked for doing it before. I will never do it again. I understand women are just as physicsly strong as men, and therefore able. I will never open a door for them as I believe in an equal society.

Maybe you should re-read what I wrote. Because you seem to have not quite understood that I said people should hold the door open for someone coming though behind them. Or do you just close doors in people's faces because you're an ********?

What if a guy went out of his way to open the door for a girl, is that sexism ?

If he only held open doors for women (or worse, only women he considered attractive): yes.

the guy has no way of telling if the woman is genuinely interested, or conning them for a free meal.

i don't want to be paid for for being a woman...but i do want to be paid for bc i'm cheap lmao

i wouldn't expect a man to pay for me on a date but if they do I'm not complaining ...

but as you invited her then you should probably pay its not like she arranged the whole thing. she's kind of a 'guest' (not literally but hopefully u get what i mean)

More triggering then an American high school in here

I don't think it is a date though, and I think he is asking the question for that very reason, because although it isn't a date, he does want to date.