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    I've basically started to have a crush on a real 'lad' at work; the type that would pump and dump you. I asked him out for a relationship, obviously he said no, now I can't kick the urge to pursue him. How do I beat it?
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    Maybe find out what he is into and then try to do the things he likes, play hard to get? Hold back a little because he might think your being too full on and that's why he might have said no to you in a way he might have got bigheaded...?


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    Maybe find out what he is into and then try to do the things he likes, play hard to get? Hold back a little because he might think your being too full on and that's why he might have said no to you in a way he might have got bigheaded...?


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    I don't want the attraction anymore though? My intention isn't to get him into a relationship anymore because he's the sort that would hurt a girl; my question is how to get rid of the attraction?
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    In my opinion there are 3 ways to move on from a crush, from my personal experience:
    - Stop seeing that person (best solution but I understand it's almost impossible if you work with him...)
    - Find someone else, like another crush and hope that this time things will work out
    - Learn to know the crush and see how that person is just not right for you
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    In my opinion there are 3 ways to move on from a crush, from my personal experience:
    - Stop seeing that person (best solution but I understand it's almost impossible if you work with him...)
    - Find someone else, like another crush and hope that this time things will work out
    - Learn to know the crush and see how that person is just not right for you
    Thank you; it's such a pain in the neck

    I hope it will fade with time because he is really not a nice person but my ego wants me to chase him rofl
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    Thank you; it's such a pain in the neck

    I hope it will fade with time because he is really not a nice person but my ego wants me to chase him rofl
    You're welcome. I know, I'm in the same situation but it's slowly starting to get better. I couldn't cut her out of my life so I decided to concentrate on other girls. It also turned out that, once I was rejected, I acted more like a friend and I saw how she really was. I still really like her as a friend but even if she hadn't rejected me I don't think it would have lasted long. She can be quite unbearable.

    Good luck!
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    I've basically started to have a crush on a real 'lad' at work; the type that would pump and dump you. I asked him out for a relationship, obviously he said no, now I can't kick the urge to pursue him. How do I beat it?
    Is pump and dump a saying on here? heard it about ... four/three times now? lol
 
 
 
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