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    Im a 20 year old male who was and still are interested in females. Im also going out with a girl now 6 months and i really enjoy sexual intercourse with her even though i had sex with her once and it was only 2 weeks ago, shes only 17 so the only reason we waited was because i wanted her to be ready, it was my first proper time as well, anyways, I have been watching porn since i was 13 and got addicted pretty easily, i have masturbated at least once a day since then and experimented with pornography by watching gay,shemale and bi porn, mostly gay, i know its normal to experiment with porn. The last few weeks i have had gay thoughts and believed that i had a thing for men, but its on and off, i have been reading a lot about "how do you know your gay" and i was making myself believe i was and i couldnt except it but then i did but was still unsure so i thought i was bi but still unsure. I have read that straight men csn think there gay "H.O.C.D" and i can relate to it. I have had a difficult child hood with divorced parents which i was use to from a young age so that was normal but still a lot of arguing and conflict between parents. I dont have a great relatiinship with my father even i love him, i am a very empathetic person also. I have been smoking weed since 13 and started taking cocaine the last year but i am currently off all drugs and stopped masturbating which im sure will help me figure out whats going on.
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    Rather than jumping straight to the conclusion that you're gay (which is an absurd conclusion, considering your heterosexual(ish) sexlife), have you consideredthe possibility that you're heteroflexible, or bisexual, or even just plain 'curious'. Having a slight attraction to males wouldn't nullify the attraction you have for le vagina, son.

    )By 'gay thoughts' do you just mean some form of exclusive attraction to guys? I'm going to assume not.)
    In my opinion though, what you're describing seems normal enough. Having the odd sexual thought about a sex/gender you don't normally have feelings for is normal, and so is the experimentation with porn.

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    I have had a difficult child hood with divorced parents which i was use to from a young age so that was normal but still a lot of arguing and conflict between parents. I dont have a great relatiinship with my father even i love him, i am a very empathetic person also.
    I don't really see how this information is related to being gay. Unless it has something to do with 'HODC', in which case my knowledge is lacking.

    With regards to not masturbating, honestly, I think you're just making the situation worse. You're 'building up the horniness' (eloquent, I know), which is probably making it more likely to have these 'gay thoughts'.
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    I probably am just curious and it just takes time to accept, i find women gorgeous, beautiful, i can feel the want, thrive towards them also im into a certain type of female. Which i always thought was strange but not anymore, like id be very "picky" i just need to stop overthinking and relax haha
 
 
 
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