question...

would you settle for someone who is not very attractive, relatively fat (no offence) and quite embarrasing (i.e. walks funny, speaks loud on the phone, etc) if he/she loved u a lot and cared about a lot and you could trust them and u loved their personality?

Reply 1

hannah_dru

2

If I cared about the person a lot and they care about me then yeah. Personality kicks looks butt.

Reply 2

LauraJayne

You don't really seem too keen lol...

If you really like their personality... then that's the most important thing :]

Reply 3

sufiankane

2

marshall123

would you settle for someone who is not very attractive, relatively fat (no offence) and quite embarrasing (i.e. walks funny, speaks loud on the phone, etc) if he/she loved u a lot and cared about a lot and you could trust them and u loved their personality?

this person sounds like me. if you like them for who thye are then yeah. if you dont like them foir that then no. U said you loved their personality. but do you love him/her? if yes then its your choice and not a problem. if you dont then why are you in the relationship?

Reply 4

prettyblueeyes

13

Personally...If the person was overweight because they were lazy, inactive, and loved eating nothing but junk food, made no effort with their appearance or hygiene, and was deliberately speaking much louder than they needed to despite knowing it was embarassing, then I very much doubt I'd get close enough to fall in love with them. However, if you're in love with someone's personality and then realise these things, then no, they don't matter and of course you can still love them in spite of them.

P.S I'd never "settle" for anybody. I'd rather be single than have to 'settle' for someone.

Reply 5

sparklin

I think to settle you are already implying that it is second best. To be intimate with someone that you have no feelings towards could be strange if not awkward. So i think you have answered you own question. Personally I would need to at least fancy the person. So ask yourself beyond how nice they are do you fancy them in the slightest?

Reply 6

Louise88

marshall123

would you settle for someone who is not very attractive, relatively fat (no offence) and quite embarrasing (i.e. walks funny, speaks loud on the phone, etc) if he/she loved u a lot and cared about a lot and you could trust them and u loved their personality?

If you really liked someone, you should be able to see past all that. So what if a person is overweight? So what if someone talks loud on the phone? So what if they walk differently? Nobody is perfect. If you really like someone, you should be able to brush those things aside and be happy. I don't think, from what you've said, you could be.

The word "settle" is a horrible word. You don't just settle for someone, that makes them sound like they are second best, that they will do until someone better comes along. I'm not saying thats the case, i'm just telling you that's how it sounds. If you feel like you have to "settle" for someone, then something isn't right so stay clear.

If you do really like the person, and could see yourself in a relationship with them, then why not go for it? See past all of what you said and love them for the person that they are, learn to love all those petty little things that you have mentioned. If you are attracted to them, it's worth a shot. Only you know how you feel, don't feel as if you should just settle for someone, do something because it's what you want, not because it's what you think you should want.

I hope that makes sense, i'm so tired.

in a word. no.

I think the fact you're asking shows that you're not too keen on him...

question...

Related discussions

Articles for you