Too much flirting

Went away with my boyfriend (Neil), his mate Dave and girlfriend Natasha. I noticed Natasha and Neil (my boyfriend) would flirt with each other a lot :mad:

yet they both moan about cheats and flirting. There was lots of innuendos being said and facial flirting! This annoyed me as they contradicted their opinions.

Natasha and Neil then mentioned a guy we know called Sam and said I should stay away from him as he has tried it on with me - this isn't the case Sam has never done that and they think having a conversation means he has bad intentions. They don't like it as Sam gets on well with me out of them all.

I think Dave is a nice good looking guy but wouldn't cross the line and I remain polite to him vice versa. There is awkwardness there but its not worth going down that road.

Also when I went to the shower today Neil was slagging me off to the others as I was killing flies last night saying there was no need. I didn't want to swallow them in the night, I think he was jealous as he friends were in stiches by my antics. I found out he slagged me off from Natasha. Natasha annoys me cos I didn't need to know that and she keeps mentioning Neil's ex who I didn't like. I don't know if she is being devious as she tends to make comments like 'Neil is being funny with you etc' when he is probably tired but says things in a funny way.

Is Natasha trying to split us up and is Neil looking elsewhere? Sorry of this sounds a childish problem but I don't know if I am overreacting or their behaviour is a bit out of line.

Reply 1

Ginger_Rogers

No, it isn't overreacting. If you deem it important, then it is :smile:

Personally I think they are a little out of line, he is your boyfriend and she is your friend and they should have your best interests at heart.

However, have you told them how you feel? You might find they haven't a clue that they are upsetting you.

(My first post, thought I would get stuck right in :wink:

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Reply 2

Dragon24

If he has upset you this is an issue that will not go away. That sort of thing shows a lack of respect, I'm sure his friend would not appreciate them flirting.

Reply 3

hixey101

it sounds like ur paranoid if you ask me. try not to worry so much, its all in the name of banter! flirting is ok...i think its healthy. you would know if there was anything going on.

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

You're overreacting and not only that, but by overreacting you're more likely to create the problem you believe to be there; if you become distrustful, your bf is more likely to feel alienated and look elsewhere.

Friends are often quite flirtatious with one another - especially in that two-couples situation. You said there is awkwardness between you and Dave, well it certainly doesn't sound like there is awkwardness between Natasha and your bf - and that's because they can flirt and mess about a bit I expect. They sound like they get on well and that's about it.

Ginger_Rogers

No, it isn't overreacting. If you deem it important, then it is :smile:

(My first post, thought I would get stuck right in :wink:

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Might be your first post, but you're still wrong! :p:

Just because someone deems something to be important, doesn't actually mean it is. And sometimes when people are overreacting to trivial little matters it's better to tell them so rather than say it's important if they think so. I might think I am the world's finest sword swallower - that doesn't make it true and it doesn't make people telling me to try and eat a Samurai sword full of good advice.

Reply 5

Salmon

People respond to these situations differently. Maybe your boyfriend is unhappy and is seeking attention elsewhere through flirting. Don't worry too much, just flirt back with his friend! I'm sure they would both stop then!