I'm 18 year old girl addicted to porn.

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Reading the title makes me cringe but it is true, I am. I am doing my A-levels and failing because of it, it takes up 3 or 4 hours of my day (when I could be revising). I use it after school and fall asleep after, I do it at night and am up for like an hour when I could be sleeping. I feel like it is ruining me.

I also am starting to watch "rougher porn" because the soft erotica isn't doing it for me anymore.

The way I view myself is changing, I almost want to be called a "slut" or a "*****". I really need to kick this addiction, is there anything I can do?

I have decided I'm going cold turkey and not watching anymore but what can I do about the urges.


Also when I was younger I was molested by my cousin, that may have something to do with my addiction, also a couple of years ago I was in a deep depression and started using it and the pleasure was addictive, I felt happier after...now I'm not depressed but it satisfies me for a little while before I need to do it again.

I'm still a virgin and want to stay one for a very long time, I feel like when I get to uni I will end up sleeping with multiple guys. I really want to sort it out now

any help?
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It may take a while to get used too, but the temptation should subside.
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I would say you need to ween yourself off of it, do not start watching the harder-core porn and back off slowly to nothing..

I would advise you seek counselling also
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I would say you need to ween yourself off of it, do not start watching the harder-core porn and back off slowly to nothing..

I would advise you seek counselling also
Slowly as in watch a little? It's an awful addiction and it really does corrupt your brain

When guys have it they view women as objects, but I'm starting to view myself as an object, "a vice for someones pleasure" and it makes me feel disgusting

I wouldn't know where to go for counselling, nor do I want to tell anyone these things.
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Why do you want to remain a virgin? It's fine but your reasoning might help us explain. Perhaps the sexual tension is building and releasing it on someone else might help.


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Slowly as in watch a little? It's an awful addiction and it really does corrupt your brain

When guys have it they view women as objects, but I'm starting to view myself as an object, "a vice for someones pleasure" and it makes me feel disgusting

I wouldn't know where to go for counselling, nor do I want to tell anyone these things.
So what ur watching now is x each week do x-1 video or hour etc until 0
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Change your internet settings so you can't view porn.

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Why do you want to remain a virgin? It's fine but your reasoning might help us explain. Perhaps the sexual tension is building and releasing it on someone else might help.


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I just want to be seen as classy woman, be with one man sort of thing. I don't want to have multiple sexual partners, I don't think a good guy would take me seriously if I did (even though men say they don't judge, they do).

Ideally I want to lose my virginity to the man I will marry (not wait till marriage, but I want to be in a serious relationship with a guy before we have sex), I just feel like with the things I feel I will regret my decisions if I do have sex.

But it's not the future that really bothers me, it's the "right now". I really don't want to be addicted to this stuff anymore, I feel like I'm doing something wrong.
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Anyone else?
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As a guy who suffered from porn addiction I can try to understand what you are going through. What killed my addiction though, was my girlfriend leaving me. After that I wanted to change and didn't see porn the same way anymore, and realised how it tainted my view of reality and girls. I picked up other hobbies, like a bit of running, and reading. I have gotten the urge to just go on pornhub thinking "just once won't hurt" many times, but I just keep thinking I don't want to be the person I was before, the person I hated, and resist by occupying myself with other things or waiting for it to go away.

Though I don't watch porn anymore, I do pleasure myself with this girl I know, it is a much better alternative and doesn't make you feel like a **** person, though that's entirely up to you. I think right now try your utmost best to not go back there again, keep holding on to your most pure reason and motivation not to, that's something only you can help yourself with. I wish you good luck.
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As a guy who suffered from porn addiction I can try to understand what you are going through. What killed my addiction though, was my girlfriend leaving me. After that I wanted to change and didn't see porn the same way anymore, and realised how it tainted my view of reality and girls. I picked up other hobbies, like a bit of running, and reading. I have gotten the urge to just go on pornhub thinking "just once won't hurt" many times, but I just keep thinking I don't want to be the person I was before, the person I hated, and resist by occupying myself with other things or waiting for it to go away.

Though I don't watch porn anymore, I do pleasure myself with this girl I know, it is a much better alternative and doesn't make you feel like a **** person, though that's entirely up to you. I think right now try your utmost best to not go back there again, keep holding on to your most pure reason and motivation not to, that's something only you can help yourself with. I wish you good luck.

Thank you, I wish we could talk but I don't want un-anon myself. It's really tough, I remember days when I'd watch porn and the guy would choke the girl and I'd be disgusted and disturbed. Now it turns me on so much; slapping, choking, spitting and all the degrading names. I feel like if I carry on I will end up with a disgusting man who would be more than happy to hurt me like that.

The thing is I do understand the difference with porn and reality, but I worry because in a way I do still desire this stuff and that makes me feel disgusting in a way.

I'm going to go cold turkey, and you're right, I might start working out more instead. Sometimes I find if I make myself really tired I don't want to do it, but it's hard.

I honestly wish I'd never found porn in the first place.
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Reading the title makes me cringe but it is true, I am. I am doing my A-levels and failing because of it, it takes up 3 or 4 hours of my day (when I could be revising).
Fantasies / viewing preferences often differ from what someone would like to actually do. The ability to imaging / see something like that can be part of what makes it hot.

Three or four hours a night is a problem if it's affecting your work, so yes, you could do with doing something.

What would happen if you only saw some when you're already horny and want to get off quickly? Or before going to sleep?

For stopping one type of porn, analysing it while watching can take the erotic aspect out. 'He's barely hard, she's thinking of something else, that's faked, there was big gap between those two shots...'
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Fantasies / viewing preferences often differ from what someone would like to actually do. The ability to imaging / see something like that can be part of what makes it hot.

Three or four hours a night is a problem if it's affecting your work, so yes, you could do with doing something.

What would happen if you only saw some when you're already horny and want to get off quickly? Or before going to sleep?

For stopping one type of porn, analysing it while watching can take the erotic aspect out. 'He's barely hard, she's thinking of something else, that's faked, there was big gap between those two shots...'
It's 3-4 hours split up, not all at once, but it wastes my time.

Analysing sounds like a very good idea actually, that is really clever.

I have explained my problems in the other post really. I think I just want to get rid off it completely, it's like a drug. I use it SO much. Every time I want to get off I use it, my imagination doesn't do it for me anymore.

Plus all my feelings related to it now are negative. I just want it out of my life :'(

It's not "fun" anymore, it doesn't feel good anymore, I feel dirty.
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Me and my ex had pretty rough, as you describe 'degrading' sex, slapping and choking and whatever, yet we were in love and happy just as any other couple. Your bedroom preferences don't reflect your emotional preferences all the time. Just because you like rough sex (or the concept of it) that doesn't mean you're going to have a violent partner.
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Me and my ex had pretty rough, as you describe 'degrading' sex, slapping and choking and whatever, yet we were in love and happy just as any other couple. Your bedroom preferences don't reflect your emotional preferences all the time. Just because you like rough sex (or the concept of it) that doesn't mean you're going to have a violent partner.
I hope not, sometimes I feel like I will (it is my motivation to stop watching porn tbh), I just feel like a good guy that loves me wouldn't do that, he would be afraid of hurting me.

Tbh I associate rough sex with emotionless sex, if someone I loved did it to me it would blur my view on how much they care for me.
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Its a difficult topic. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it, more than happy to chat. You will remain anonymous of course, im no troll


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Its a difficult topic. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it, more than happy to chat. You will remain anonymous of course, im no troll


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Thanks, but I don't want you to think I'm crazy or damaged or something.
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i heard it is better to try and remember what you watched and play it over in your head than watch it live on a screen,
so try do that and make up your own fantasies.
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I think there are two issues here: your attitude to the material itself - it's entirely possible to have loving rough sex via establishing trust, boundaries, doing it only when both are in the mood for it etc etc - and the rest.

Do you have something like a vibrator that will deliver intense physical sensations and enable you to get off by itself?
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