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    I haven't seen any others personally, but I will take your word for it. They probably lack confidence in that sector. I understand what you're saying though, it is not the most conducive thing to do and doesn't resolve the issues at hand. I am under the impression that it's something they feel the need to rant about, as it is not exactly something they feel comfortable enough to discuss freely with others in real life. I would imagine guys are less open about talking about insecurities than girls. On the whole, Asian guys seem to be more insecure than guys from other races, but that's just the way it is. I could go into the reasons why to explain it, but that is besides the point and I don't want to make certain generalisations as they are not PC. Also, I think you know what I am alluding to.

    I'm a bit confused by your statement. Do you mean that you wouldn't know that I was Asian if I didn't state it?

    Again, I didn't understand the context of your comment as I have not seen any other similar threads previously. I never knew it was such a common occurence, but it is still an interesting observation even though it isn't exactly surprising to me.
    Definetly a common occurrence in here sometimes it's about their lust for the white partner usually white female.

    I mean I would not know OP is Asian if OP did not mention it, so they should not get annoyed when I mention we have heard this many times. No one even has to necasserily mention their race when posting.
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    I hate the way I am and just really feel unhappy with life, I just don't know what to do.

    TLR - My issues (1) my body, (2) low self esteem, quiet voice and awkwardness, (3) unable to talk to girls.

    (1) - I'm skinny fat, and I've tried working out but I just struggle to go to the gym regularly enough, two weeks I'll stick to it, one month off or I can only go twice a week. I can't drive so rely on my parents to drop me off, but some days they refuse to. I got progain extreme, but I'm considering steroids, hopefully that can make me muscular. No girl wants a skinny dude like me, I look disgusting.

    (2) - I have such low self esteem due to being bullied since primary school, I was mocked for being Asian, mocked for being skinny, and mocked for being quiet (ironically I was quiet because I wanted no attention or to be bullied).

    Now I just act awkward in public, I'm so aware of how I'm standing and it probably shows by my body language, I just probably look weird. I hunch a lot now because of a belly I have now and I just feel so ugly and disgusting that I just want to hide. I no longer like leaving the house.

    (3) - I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend or even kissed. I was always ugly, and now I've had the person on occasion say I'm good looking, I mostly get called cute, because I've not got a very masculine face. But even though I guess I'm average looking now, girls pay me no attention, they still look at me like I'm trash or really ugly. When I talk to a girl, I'm too scared to appear creepy or pervy, I don't flirt or be naughty. I'm just really "nice" and friendly, and they no longer see me as a potential partner. Sometimes I see a pretty girl in public and want to at least smile, but I'm too scared as she'll think I'm a creep as I'm an ugly guy tbh.




    So yeah, I'm just fed up, these some things and I just don't know what to do. I've just feel like giving up on life, I don't see what there is to live for if I'm so miserable, like anybody would care if I just disappeared anyway.
    1) Continue at the gym, lift the weights, I highly recommend the 5*5 workout which incorporates compound lifts. Have a protein shake right after your workout and a meal within 30 minutes, consume a lot of protein and carbs and on your none workout days do some cardio work. Get sufficient rest.

    2) Sorry to hear about that, remember if people are mean to you ,that is who they are, mean people, they have no integrity. It can also be a reflection of happy they are in life, I mean, if I was happy, would I feel the need to pick on someone? No!

    Develop your self esteem, you are a human being just like everybody else and are entitled to love, warm friendships, treated with respect, all the good things in life. Note down your good qualities and nobody is perfect. Develop gratitude for the air you breath, water you drink, for the warm bed, for the education, for the opportunities, go to the gym, feel better, take care of yourself and your own needs.

    3) Go to the gym, look at my point one, wear good clothes, have good grooming, what is your ambition? What do you do for fun? Develop a fit body and this will make you feel better, meet your goals, know you treat people well, socialise with people, join clubs, talk to people, take risks, be positive, know you can improve a lot, believe in yourself.

    Just go out there and approach women, remember your are a £20 note, if people reject you, it has nothing to do with your value, because you will always have value! Just keep improving, Develop confidence, smile, be interested in them, do the things you are scared of, take risks.

    Develop your confidence and improve yourself, you are still very, very young with ample amounts of time to meet the right women.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I haven't seen any others personally, but I will take your word for it. They probably lack confidence in that sector. I understand what you're saying though, it is not the most conducive thing to do and doesn't resolve the issues at hand. I am under the impression that it's something they feel the need to rant about, as it is not exactly something they feel comfortable enough to discuss freely with others in real life. I would imagine guys are less open about talking about insecurities than girls. On the whole, Asian guys seem to be more insecure than guys from other races, but that's just the way it is. I could go into the reasons why to explain it, but that is besides the point and I don't want to make certain generalisations as they are not PC. Also, I think you know what I am alluding to.

    I'm a bit confused by your statement. Do you mean that you wouldn't know that I was Asian if I didn't state it?

    Again, I didn't understand the context of your comment as I have not seen any other similar threads previously. I never knew it was such a common occurence, but it is still an interesting observation even though it isn't exactly surprising to me.
    (Original post by Mancini)
    Definetly a common occurrence in here sometimes it's about their lust for the white partner usually white female.

    I mean I would not know OP is Asian if OP did not mention it, so they should not get annoyed when I mention we have heard this many times. No one even has to necasserily mention their race when posting.
    I mentioned I'm Asian because I was bullied for it loads as a child, that's it.

    I see what you mean that this isn't necessarily the most productive thing to do, but who else can I vent to? Plus it's nice to get some opinions by other people, and perhaps change my mindset if possible.

    Idk, all Asian guys I know are really confident and cocky, I thought I was an odd one.

    I don't lust after white women, race is irrelevant for me, and I'm not even attracted to white women anyway.



    Are you taking about the small **** thing? My penis is something I'm not insecure about, I'm average size going by white stats, so I have doubts about the stats of Asians having smaller penises.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I mentioned I'm Asian because I was bullied for it loads as a child, that's it.

    I see what you mean that this isn't necessarily the most productive thing to do, but who else can I vent to? Plus it's nice to get some opinions by other people, and perhaps change my mindset if possible.

    Idk, all Asian guys I know are really confident and cocky, I thought I was an odd one.

    I don't lust after white women, race is irrelevant for me, and I'm not even attracted to white women anyway.



    Are you taking about the small **** thing? My penis is something I'm not insecure about, I'm average size going by white stats, so I have doubts about the stats of Asians having smaller penises
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    Who even mentioned the word penis? Talk about insecure.
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    Who even mentioned the word penis? Talk about insecure.
    The part I highlighted, in my post. I asked too if that's what he meant. What do you think he meant?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The part I highlighted, in my post. I asked too if that's what he meant. What do you think he meant?
    I'm not a guy, and that was not I was referring to why you might be insecure. LMAO. I was alluding to the fact that it might be that black guys are more confident in approaching women because of their supposed larger member size and swag. In no way did I imply that you or any other person of another race had a small one. I am under the impression that most White and Asian guys are of average size. Then, there is the whole White (male) privilege thing that might make them feel more entitled, worthy and confident on an innate level. Us, Asians, are stereotypically known for being intelligent, but that possibly means we're in our heads more and find it more difficult to have that natural confidence. That's all I meant.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not a guy, and that was not I was referring to why you might be insecure. LMAO. I was alluding to the fact that it might be that black guys are more confident in approaching women because of their supposed larger member size and swag. In no way did I imply that you or any other person of another race had a small one. I am under the impression that most White and Asian guys are of average size. Then, there is the whole White (male) privilege thing that might make them feel more entitled, worthy and confident on an innate level. Us, Asians, are stereotypically known for being intelligent, but that possibly means we're in our heads more and find it more difficult to have that natural confidence. That's all I meant.
    Ridicolous racist comment , not going to even bother reporting this ignorance just highlighting it.

    Doing it on anonymous as well.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I mentioned I'm Asian because I was bullied for it loads as a child, that's it.

    I see what you mean that this isn't necessarily the most productive thing to do, but who else can I vent to? Plus it's nice to get some opinions by other people, and perhaps change my mindset if possible.

    Idk, all Asian guys I know are really confident and cocky, I thought I was an odd one.

    I don't lust after white women, race is irrelevant for me, and I'm not even attracted to white women anyway.



    Are you taking about the small **** thing? My penis is something I'm not insecure about, I'm average size going by white stats, so I have doubts about the stats of Asians having smaller penises.
    I get it, I don't have a problem with you venting and wanting to hear other people's opinions and trying to alter your perception. However, you obviously have to put the work in yourself to achieve the positive results.

    It might be a front for some guys, but yeah there are Asian guys like that as well. You're not strange either way, just on the different end of the spectrum.

    I clarified the point about the "small **** thing" in a previous post. By the way, I never thought was why you were insecure, especially considering you already mentioned why you felt that way. I don't believe in that stat myself, and it's not something that can be confirmed anyway. Besides, it would be shallow for anyone to judge someone on their endowment. I know I wouldn't like it if a guy did that to me, because I'm small but I'm happy that way because it's practical. I also don't like drawing attention to myself in anyway, and especially don't want it for the wrong reasons.
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    (Original post by Mancini)
    Ridicolous racist comment , not going to even bother reporting this ignorance just highlighting it.

    Doing it on anonymous as well.
    I am not saying that I believe this to be true, just a possibility that it might be applicable to certain people. There is no way to confirm or deny these stereotypes in a definitive way unless a lot of time and money was invested in conducting good quality research to investigate these matters in detail. This is all speculative talk until then. I knew the PC brigade would attack, which is why I didn't want to outrightly discuss this but OP was getting paranoid.

    I know I'm not racist or ignorant, so don't try to spin it that way.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am not saying that I believe this to be true, just a possibility that it might be applicable to certain people. There is no way to confirm or deny these stereotypes in a definitive way unless a lot of time and money was invested in conducting good quality research to investigate these matters in detail. This is all speculative talk until then. I knew the PC brigade would attack, which is why I didn't want to outrightly discuss this but OP was getting paranoid.

    I know I'm not racist or ignorant, so don't try to spin it that way.
    You sound incredibly stupid, It's not PC to point out a racists stupidity.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I hate the way I am and just really feel unhappy with life, I just don't know what to do.

    TLR - My issues (1) my body, (2) low self esteem, quiet voice and awkwardness, (3) unable to talk to girls.

    (1) - I'm skinny fat, and I've tried working out but I just struggle to go to the gym regularly enough, two weeks I'll stick to it, one month off or I can only go twice a week. I can't drive so rely on my parents to drop me off, but some days they refuse to. I got progain extreme, but I'm considering steroids, hopefully that can make me muscular. No girl wants a skinny dude like me, I look disgusting.

    (2) - I have such low self esteem due to being bullied since primary school, I was mocked for being Asian, mocked for being skinny, and mocked for being quiet (ironically I was quiet because I wanted no attention or to be bullied).

    Now I just act awkward in public, I'm so aware of how I'm standing and it probably shows by my body language, I just probably look weird. I hunch a lot now because of a belly I have now and I just feel so ugly and disgusting that I just want to hide. I no longer like leaving the house.

    (3) - I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend or even kissed. I was always ugly, and now I've had the person on occasion say I'm good looking, I mostly get called cute, because I've not got a very masculine face. But even though I guess I'm average looking now, girls pay me no attention, they still look at me like I'm trash or really ugly. When I talk to a girl, I'm too scared to appear creepy or pervy, I don't flirt or be naughty. I'm just really "nice" and friendly, and they no longer see me as a potential partner. Sometimes I see a pretty girl in public and want to at least smile, but I'm too scared as she'll think I'm a creep as I'm an ugly guy tbh.




    So yeah, I'm just fed up, these some things and I just don't know what to do. I've just feel like giving up on life, I don't see what there is to live for if I'm so miserable, like anybody would care if I just disappeared anyway.
    bruv
    you need to find your passion and chase it. The day will come. Don't chu worry fam.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I hate the way I am and just really feel unhappy with life, I just don't know what to do.

    TLR - My issues (1) my body, (2) low self esteem, quiet voice and awkwardness, (3) unable to talk to girls.

    (1) - I'm skinny fat, and I've tried working out but I just struggle to go to the gym regularly enough, two weeks I'll stick to it, one month off or I can only go twice a week. I can't drive so rely on my parents to drop me off, but some days they refuse to. I got progain extreme, but I'm considering steroids, hopefully that can make me muscular. No girl wants a skinny dude like me, I look disgusting.

    (2) - I have such low self esteem due to being bullied since primary school, I was mocked for being Asian, mocked for being skinny, and mocked for being quiet (ironically I was quiet because I wanted no attention or to be bullied).

    Now I just act awkward in public, I'm so aware of how I'm standing and it probably shows by my body language, I just probably look weird. I hunch a lot now because of a belly I have now and I just feel so ugly and disgusting that I just want to hide. I no longer like leaving the house.

    (3) - I'm 21 and never had a girlfriend or even kissed. I was always ugly, and now I've had the person on occasion say I'm good looking, I mostly get called cute, because I've not got a very masculine face. But even though I guess I'm average looking now, girls pay me no attention, they still look at me like I'm trash or really ugly. When I talk to a girl, I'm too scared to appear creepy or pervy, I don't flirt or be naughty. I'm just really "nice" and friendly, and they no longer see me as a potential partner. Sometimes I see a pretty girl in public and want to at least smile, but I'm too scared as she'll think I'm a creep as I'm an ugly guy tbh.




    So yeah, I'm just fed up, these some things and I just don't know what to do. I've just feel like giving up on life, I don't see what there is to live for if I'm so miserable, like anybody would care if I just disappeared anyway.
    1) What is skinny fat? I assume skinny with fat? You're not disgusting. Being skinny fat doesn't make you disgusting. Most of my (girl) friends prefer what you call skinny fat as opposed to some bulky, alien body looking dude. Also, why don't you invest in gym equipment for home and cancel your gym membership?

    2) I understand how you feel. But honestly, presenting yourself as someone with low self-esteem isn't going to make you feel any better. If this is about girls, girls like confidence. Stand up straight and work on your posture and you'll automatically feel better. I don't know what you look like, but no one is truly ugly - unless you make yourself that way. Have you honestly ever seen a normal and perfectly functioning person as being 'ugly'?

    Don't give up on life. You're a human just like everyone else, and as harsh as it may seem, it's YOU who can make the change. Only you make yourself feel that way. I know how you feel and I'm sure everyone does, but once you learn the importance of self-love, not only will you feel better, but also everyone around you.
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    First thing is you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's incredibly unattractive. I used to feel sorry for myself all the time, now I look back on that and wonder how any friends even stuck around because I was a boring, miserable and **** depressing friend to be around. The thing I at the moment find unattractive about you isn't how you describe your aesthetics it's completely down to your woe is me attitude.

    Secondly, don't take steroids to gain muscle mass. That is an incredibly stupid thing to do. You can gain muscle mass normally, stop making excuses.

    Thirdly, in general stop making excuses for yourself. If you don't like something about yourself then damn well change it, don't mope about it.

    Lastly, if you haven't already seek mental health help because it sounds like you may suffer from depression and possibly anxiety. Though I'm not a doctor so don't take my word for it. Either way you need some serious help in coping with your terribly negative thought patterns.
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    (Original post by Drax101)
    1) Continue at the gym, lift the weights, I highly recommend the 5*5 workout which incorporates compound lifts. Have a protein shake right after your workout and a meal within 30 minutes, consume a lot of protein and carbs and on your none workout days do some cardio work. Get sufficient rest.

    2) Sorry to hear about that, remember if people are mean to you ,that is who they are, mean people, they have no integrity. It can also be a reflection of happy they are in life, I mean, if I was happy, would I feel the need to pick on someone? No!

    Develop your self esteem, you are a human being just like everybody else and are entitled to love, warm friendships, treated with respect, all the good things in life. Note down your good qualities and nobody is perfect. Develop gratitude for the air you breath, water you drink, for the warm bed, for the education, for the opportunities, go to the gym, feel better, take care of yourself and your own needs.

    3) Go to the gym, look at my point one, wear good clothes, have good grooming, what is your ambition? What do you do for fun? Develop a fit body and this will make you feel better, meet your goals, know you treat people well, socialise with people, join clubs, talk to people, take risks, be positive, know you can improve a lot, believe in yourself.

    Just go out there and approach women, remember your are a £20 note, if people reject you, it has nothing to do with your value, because you will always have value! Just keep improving, Develop confidence, smile, be interested in them, do the things you are scared of, take risks.

    Develop your confidence and improve yourself, you are still very, very young with ample amounts of time to meet the right women.
    I don't know anymore, I don't enjoy anything anymore. I'm not the same guy I was a year or two ago, confident, passionate and optimistic. I think dealing with this issues would allow to become my old self.

    Thanks for your advice, I will keep it in mind
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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    First thing is you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself, it's incredibly unattractive. I used to feel sorry for myself all the time, now I look back on that and wonder how any friends even stuck around because I was a boring, miserable and **** depressing friend to be around. The thing I at the moment find unattractive about you isn't how you describe your aesthetics it's completely down to your woe is me attitude.

    Secondly, don't take steroids to gain muscle mass. That is an incredibly stupid thing to do. You can gain muscle mass normally, stop making excuses.

    Thirdly, in general stop making excuses for yourself. If you don't like something about yourself then damn well change it, don't mope about it.

    Lastly, if you haven't already seek mental health help because it sounds like you may suffer from depression and possibly anxiety. Though I'm not a doctor so don't take my word for it. Either way you need some serious help in coping with your terribly negative thought patterns.
    On the outside I try not to show, most would describe me as very laid back and calm. But inside I'm a very anxious person who overthinks everything. I understand this isn't attractive, but I struggle gaining confidence in general, I think it might be my anxiety and depression affecting it. I guess I should look to overcome them, perhaps I will stop being so negative.
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    OP you can train just twice a week and make good gains
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    (Original post by Zargabaath)
    Goddamn, that smiley appearing there is some dark-ass irony
    lmao yeah I was so confused X'D
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    and isn't it meant to be a semi colon?
    like TL;DR
    not TL : DR ?
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    (Original post by fire_and_ice)
    1) What is skinny fat? I assume skinny with fat? You're not disgusting. Being skinny fat doesn't make you disgusting. Most of my (girl) friends prefer what you call skinny fat as opposed to some bulky, alien body looking dude. Also, why don't you invest in gym equipment for home and cancel your gym membership?

    2) I understand how you feel. But honestly, presenting yourself as someone with low self-esteem isn't going to make you feel any better. If this is about girls, girls like confidence. Stand up straight and work on your posture and you'll automatically feel better. I don't know what you look like, but no one is truly ugly - unless you make yourself that way. Have you honestly ever seen a normal and perfectly functioning person as being 'ugly'?

    Don't give up on life. You're a human just like everyone else, and as harsh as it may seem, it's YOU who can make the change. Only you make yourself feel that way. I know how you feel and I'm sure everyone does, but once you learn the importance of self-love, not only will you feel better, but also everyone around you.
    Skinny fat is low muscle mass and high fat, I look skinny in clothes (not super skinny, but just a bit slim), but I have like a belly too. My main issue is that I wish my arms and shoulders were bigger, I've starting doing extra work on them. The gym has better equipment to make the changes I want.

    People tell me I'm not ugly, I've been complimented on this site too, but idk irl I feel unattractive to all the other guys. Perhaps being a ugly teen had an effect on me. I try to carry myself with confidence, but I just overthink everything and then probably end up looking insecure again. :indiff:
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    (Original post by z33)
    lmao yeah I was so confused X'D
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    like TL;DR
    not TL : DR ?
    haha yeah it is lol
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    (Original post by trapking)
    OP you can train just twice a week and make good gains
    Can you? How?

    I used to do 5*5 but it wasn't too effective. I've started a new workout my brother in law does, I'm hope this works better for me.

    It's basically, day 1: chest & biceps
    Day 2: triceps & back
    Day 3: shoulders (forearms and neck)
    Day 4: legs
    Days: core (like sit ups, planks, deadlift etc)

    That's not the exact order but yeah. I do three a week.

    (Original post by z33)
    lmao yeah I was so confused X'D
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    and isn't it meant to be a semi colon?
    like TL;DR
    not TL : DR ?
    No idea, I never used it before and assumed it was TL R :lol:
 
 
 
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