Not enjoying university life...
I started university in September 2015 studying Business Studies. At first, university was a very exciting atmosphere as I had my first taste for independence. I loved the idea of living in my own accommodation and making decisions without anyone breathing over my shoulder constantly.
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Hi,
It sounds like you really enjoy what your studying but not the student life, I am feeling like that a bit at the moment but luckily my university isn't too social if you don't want to be. Have you considered the open university? As you get to study for a degree at home and you could always get a part time job/ work experience that links to what you want to do in the future.
Here's the link- http://www.open.ac.uk/courses/atoz?
Hope it helps
It sounds like you really enjoy what your studying but not the student life, I am feeling like that a bit at the moment but luckily my university isn't too social if you don't want to be. Have you considered the open university? As you get to study for a degree at home and you could always get a part time job/ work experience that links to what you want to do in the future.
Here's the link- http://www.open.ac.uk/courses/atoz?
Hope it helps
Original post by willzone128
I started university in September 2015 studying Business Studies. At first, university was a very exciting atmosphere as I had my first taste for independence. I loved the idea of living in my own accommodation and making decisions without anyone breathing over my shoulder constantly.
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Wow, I feel the exact same way as you. Uni is just not what I was expecting at all. I love the freedom and stuff but I'm not a big on clubbing every week. Don't feel like you have to go out and waste your money, you can save if that's what you want.
I love my course which is why I'm still here. I also retook a year in 6th form (well kind of like a gap year but I resat exams) so I'm 20 as well.
Nevertheless, I think we should both stick it out. We've only just stated so things can always get better. Not only that, but we clearly really wanted to go to uni which is why we resat our exams. We can do it, just gotta hang in there
I would say that if you're still feeling this way during your 2nd year then perhaps think about other options.
(edited 8 years ago)
Do you think living at home would make a difference?
Do you really enjoy your course?
Do you really enjoy your course?
Now, I see this and being someone whose life is about clubbing every week it's difficult to understand. However I can see why a lot of people aren't about that. Cause to be honest it isn't weird to not want to go to clubs all the time.
Out of interest, where do you go and have you joined any societies/sports?
Out of interest, where do you go and have you joined any societies/sports?
I feel the same mate and retook exams privately so am also 20 and have been there and done that in regards to this whole 18 year old first time freedom clubbing culture etc. I would much rather go to the pub and play pool eat drink watch football. However from second term I am going to start locking my door more so when I get back from the library I have a bit of downtime to jump on the Xbox or pc with it getting distracted. Think long term and the main reason you are there is to study so keep doing that and you will reap the rewards
Original post by willzone128
I started university in September 2015 studying Business Studies. At first, university was a very exciting atmosphere as I had my first taste for independence. I loved the idea of living in my own accommodation and making decisions without anyone breathing over my shoulder constantly.
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Due to re-taking 6th form, I naturally developed a hard working attitude and therefore focused on study immediately. This had led me to achieve considerable high grades since being here however I do not enjoy the 'student life'.
Before starting university, many people said to me that 'it will be the best 4 years of your life' or 'uni is all about the experience' but unfortunately I have found that it is not for me. I enjoy my subject very much as I find the business very stimulating, however I feel that other peers do not share the same passion as I do, as I have considerably high ambitions. As silly as it sounds for a 20 year old man, the part that I do not enjoy is the partying/clubbing. It does not stimulate me and frustrates me wasting my money on trivial rubbish. I would much rather use the money to investment into something and receive a return - that is what really stimulates me.
I am now in a situation where I am unsure on what to do. I do not want to be part of the university life and am on the fence on whether to drop out or not. What is stopping me from dropping out is the fear of not finding a job thus leading to the regret of dropping out in the first place.
I am unsure what jobs or apprenticeships could possibly be out there for me, particularly with having little work experience and only A-levels (A2) as my highest qualifications (A*, C, C, D).
Does anyone suggest what I should do or have been in a similar situation themselves?
Oh lord. You are at university to get an education and so that you can get a job paying job afterwards. That's what university is for and as you said that's what you've been doing and you're doing well so what's the problem? You don't have to go out clubbing and come home at 4AM everyday if you don't want to, university is first and foremost about education and not about 'living the student life', you cannot just throw away your education because you don't like doing activities that other students enjoy outside uni. There are plenty of people who don't go clubbing, go join some socities and find them or find friends outside of university. Nobody is holding a gun to your head forcing you to spend your money on clubbing. And you can move out in your second year, you can even live with non-students in your second year if you want so people won't even bother you by waking you up at 5AM with their drunkenness etc...
Don't drop out of university for a silly reason like this, it really is no reason to throw away your education. Unless you have connections or some incredible back up plan as to what you are going to do if you quit uni (which doesn't involve retail) then you shouldn't even think about quitting.
You are doing well in your course! So PLEASE don't quit Uni just because you don't like clubbing! (I am 35 and have the wisdom of experience and age to back me up!)
Not everybody likes clubbing of course! You have the choice in your 2nd year to live with people who don't wish to wake up in the gutter at 3am every morning! (Maybe you are a 'lark' and 11pm after pub closing time is late enough, you would not be alone!)
And the 'student life' you dislike soon changes for many in 2nd year! Although many 1st years go out most nights, financial reasons can limit that significantly in the 2nd year (the wilder students will swap many a night out on the town for house parties) and by the third year, many students are working that hard and are that skint going out once in a week is a bonus!
Without playing the 'race' or culture card too heavily, remember Muslims, Sikhs etc largely disown the whole club culture!
Not everybody likes clubbing of course! You have the choice in your 2nd year to live with people who don't wish to wake up in the gutter at 3am every morning! (Maybe you are a 'lark' and 11pm after pub closing time is late enough, you would not be alone!)
And the 'student life' you dislike soon changes for many in 2nd year! Although many 1st years go out most nights, financial reasons can limit that significantly in the 2nd year (the wilder students will swap many a night out on the town for house parties) and by the third year, many students are working that hard and are that skint going out once in a week is a bonus!
Without playing the 'race' or culture card too heavily, remember Muslims, Sikhs etc largely disown the whole club culture!
PS re-reading your post, you refer to wanting to invest your money rather than wasting it on 'trivial rubbish.'
I would perhaps consider that the partying/clubbing is actually investment into socialising and an 'experience' which is largely unattainable when you are 35! Please don't regret not going clubbing in 2031 and then trying to relive your youth and finding you are (easily) the oldest person in the club!
But then, if you don't like clubbing anyway, fair enough and ignore the above paragraph!
I would perhaps consider that the partying/clubbing is actually investment into socialising and an 'experience' which is largely unattainable when you are 35! Please don't regret not going clubbing in 2031 and then trying to relive your youth and finding you are (easily) the oldest person in the club!
But then, if you don't like clubbing anyway, fair enough and ignore the above paragraph!
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