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    ok, its a problem ive noted for a while but is really irritating. I am an Asian guy who spends most of his time alone, yet when I'm in public situations, I tend to be quite loud (what's weird is that whenever I talk to someone, everyone else seems to stop talking yet everytime I try talking with purpose peoplequietly ignore and chat over). Yesterday, a relative of mine passed away and I kept having people tell me to shut up coz I was a bit loud chatting about cricket upstairs ( in fairness I could hear people from different floors and rooms chatting similar stuff- but still it is an annoying Asian problem) Is there a way I can reduce my volume without being unheard?(if I talk quietly nobody can understand a single thing- really bad when I'm at work as communication is vital)
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    (Original post by ranchovirus)
    ok, its a problem ive noted for a while but is really irritating. I am an Asian guy who spends most of his time alone, yet when I'm in public situations, I tend to be quite loud (what's weird is that whenever I talk to someone, everyone else seems to stop talking yet everytime I try talking with purpose peoplequietly ignore and chat over). Yesterday, a relative of mine passed away and I kept having people tell me to shut up coz I was a bit loud chatting about cricket upstairs ( in fairness I could hear people from different floors and rooms chatting similar stuff- but still it is an annoying Asian problem) Is there a way I can reduce my volume without being unheard?(if I talk quietly nobody can understand a single thing- really bad when I'm at work as communication is vital)
    Why can't they hear you if you speak quieter? Are you speaking too quietly in which case you need to work on an intermediate volume. Or are you not annunciating enough so that people don't understand unless you shout?

    Figure out the problem and go from there!
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    maybe stand further away from people you are talking to/shouting at ?
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    (Original post by Neostigmine)
    Why can't they hear you if you speak quieter? Are you speaking too quietly in which case you need to work on an intermediate volume. Or are you not annunciating enough so that people don't understand unless you shout?

    Figure out the problem and go from there!
    cheers, I have actually improved a lot prettymuch, my intermediate voice is too quiet for most people as I have noted that a lot of people who have difficulties listening to me do so because a) too much ambient noise (asian and african people are really loud lol, i am no acception (3/4 indian, 1/4 zanzibaari)and b) a lot of people who listen to music on headphones constantly are the ones with difficulties listening, whereas those who listen to music/tv at a lower volume are able to hear me perfectly. I have noted in quiet rooms, i cn talk normally but in ambient environments with asian/black people I am loud because I am trying to outspeak them lol.


    p.s. do you/someone u know suffer from a form of dementia (your name is a drug commonly used for alzheimers patients, as well as other dementia conditions and neuro conditions)?
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    maybe stand further away from people you are talking to/shouting at ?
    Lol
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    (Original post by the bear)
    maybe stand further away from people you are talking to/shouting at ?
    nah, its more a matter of being heard in a crowd without the crowd hearing you lol. one on 1 is ok, but in ambient noise im too loud (namely trying to speak above others)
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    I wish i was loud tbh.ppl cant hear me.thats why im on tsr typing...
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    beats mild-to-moderate social anxiety disorder (Y)
 
 
 
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