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    ok, people keep telling me I am smart, intelligent, intellectual etc etc (got a masters in pharmacy from a uni that is ranked in the top 24 overall per the times (but isnt a russel group uni) when I was 21 despite missing most of my last year due to personal illness and ended walking away with 67% overall, including first for disso; had pre-reg interviews at guys&sts, royal free, cambridge hospitals, leeds hospitals, and some othets; I passed my pre-reg exam with only 5 days revision during the 3 months before the exam (5 hours a day, the rest was watching random crap on tv lol); i have good enough grades from uni to pursue a career in a different field to the one I am in).

    thing is however, I have noted I have lame social skills. I dunno if it is because I have social anxiety (Im ok when giving lectures/seminars but I act weird in small group and I am very loud-although it could be an asian thing), I act like a complete idiot / small child when im in public with a group of people, i always spout out stupid things, I am rather loud, and I always end up loathing myself when I am back home for whatever I do in public (the way my processes are is I act liek a primary school kid in the way I self loath). I still watch anime (namely durarara, lupin III, iron blooded orphans, dragon ball super) and suprisingly still listen to songs I listended to in year 8. I checked dsm-v criteria for intellectual disability and I match the criteria suprisingly.

    personally, I reckon I may be this way because I am technically a lonely individual whose friends have more or less abandoned him from uni/highschool (depression isnt nice and suprisingly nobody notices it in others), I havent been in a relationship since 2008 (still a virgin at 24 years old but more for religious/spiritual reasons rather than being unable to be in a relationship), I have no sibling, I was effectively a latchkey kid when growing up (mum was at work all the time and she was stressed everytime I saw her(she suffers from GAD, which is exacerbated about 2 weeks before period); dad is diabled and was always sleeping so the only thing I used to do at home was watch tv all the time as a kid),Currently, I have been unemployed for the last 7 months so I have just been stuck at home watching tv/computer, playing games/going gym. I personally wish I could have counselling but it is too expensive/waiting list is too long. add to that my idiotic mum has also been unemployed for the last couple of months and my dad is losing his job by august and we arent financially stable,and it just adds to my condition I think

    anyone have any helpful tips for how to act like a normal person.?
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    There is no way to act like a 'normal person'- it just doesn't exist.

    But anyway it sounds like you're intelligent and you just need to believe in your abilities. What types of jobs would you apply for with your current experience/qualifications?

    What about antidepressants? I mean you must know a lot about them....
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    no you're not stupid, a sizeable proportion of this community would describe themselves the same way Are you making an effort to look for employment btw? Continue to do that, and in the meantime, join group workouts/classes in your gym as that appears to be your best opportunity to socialise. You don't have to start every conversation, just be ready to respond when people talk to you.
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    Most animes where originally written for adults, so you are fine. It does sound more like you lack practise in socialising. Hence practise!

    The diagnosis of an intellectual disability involves usually an IQ test, because the cause for the behaviour is related to the low IQ. You would really struggle with taks, on a level like someone, who struggles to bath without someone guiding him. Of course there are extreme and less extreme cases, but just to have an example, what is meant with difficulties.
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    i don't know how you meet the dsm-v criteria for intellectual disability. it says you need both a clinical assessment and an IQ test with a score of 70 or below; i doubt someone whose completed a pharmacy degree has a below-average IQ. i think you should contact a psychologist to discuss this further.
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    maybe you're sheldon cooper
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    (Original post by Raees_Sharif)
    i don't know how you meet the dsm-v criteria for intellectual disability. it says you need both a clinical assessment and an IQ test with a score of 70 or below; i doubt someone whose completed a pharmacy degree has a below-average IQ. i think you should contact a psychologist to discuss this further.
    iq wise, I have no idea what I am lol, but it is mainly social communication based things which i struggle. like I said, it could be due to lack of communication I have had since suffering ptsd during a levels. otherwise I am ok, but the way I act in social situations is just plain embarrassing
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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    no you're not stupid, a sizeable proportion of this community would describe themselves the same way Are you making an effort to look for employment btw? Continue to do that, and in the meantime, join group workouts/classes in your gym as that appears to be your best opportunity to socialise. You don't have to start every conversation, just be ready to respond when people talk to you.
    I am actually kinda employed (locumming once a week for a salary which is the lower end of a GP locum scale). the things I want to pursue however( which i will not say in public to personal reasons) do however require additional funding. like most pharmacy students, I didnt want to pharmacy (Im a med school reject but in fairness, I did suffer from ptsd (according to counsellor at sixth form but not by gp as he couldnt care less)). based on my grades at uni + my extracurricular stuff, if i still wanted to pursue medicine I can but I need money (something which is hard to find due to mine and my parents employment situation).
    there are locum jobs available but they are on a prn basis and mostly involve travelling long distances (last tuesday , i travelled a total of 209miles for 5 hours work-lets just say, people can make money on travel expenses) but community pharmacy is irritating with how mind numbing it is; I spent a month of my pre-reg in a hospital where I kept getting positive feedback from band7 and band8 pharmacists I worked with, when the pre-reg coordinator (now head of medicines information at that large hospital trust) met with me, she called me an idiot for not applying there as I was a better person that a lot of their pre-reges at the time. unfortunately, i didnt want to say to them that I didnt want to relocate as I wouldnt have been able to afford moving there (and because they are associated with a top10 med school and a top 10 pharmacy school, I was afraid they would have selector bias towards their affiliated pharm school). now the only way u can work in a hospital pharmacy is if u did ur pre-reg in hospital. Industrial I want to apply for but am worried about some odd modules from uni + my crap A level scores.
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    (Original post by EtherealNymph22)
    There is no way to act like a 'normal person'- it just doesn't exist.

    But anyway it sounds like you're intelligent and you just need to believe in your abilities. What types of jobs would you apply for with your current experience/qualifications?

    What about antidepressants? I mean you must know a lot about them....
    with me, I do suffer from seasonal affective disorder so sunshine is needed. but if anything, I just need to communicate with people face to face. whilst its nice chatting to people on whatsapp, messenger and texting, I would just prefer chatting to people face to face. only problem is, whilst im ok one-on-one and giving seminars, in small groups more than 3 people, I regress to a small child mentally, I have no idea why but it is just lame and need to figure out how to avoid it.

    I dont need drugs lol (except for a chronic condition which needed for me to receive 10 weeks UV therapy during my final year and messed up my exam revision)
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    just to clarify what I meant by intellectually disabled in my context, I have an annoying tendency to mentally regress to a child-like (think 7-8 year old) mentality when I am in a group of people exceeding 3 people and when I am embarrassed.

    does anyone have any ideas how to prevent my mental regression
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    maybe you're sheldon cooper
    im 5ft 7, weigh 95kg, a senpai in karate who has competed at national levels, and have previously done a quarter ironman triathlon (albeit, in the case of bike, a machine was used as I dont know how to ride a bike) in 4 hours 24 minutes in 2014 when I had 10 months of regular exercise before my pre-reg (since then, I am 6kg heavier, albeit 8kg lighter than october last year)
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    iq wise, I have no idea what I am lol, but it is mainly social communication based things which i struggle. like I said, it could be due to lack of communication I have had since suffering ptsd during a levels. otherwise I am ok, but the way I act in social situations is just plain embarrassing
    i recommend you talk to someone who knows what they're talking about when it comes to stuff like this; i.e. a psychologist.
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    Have you ever looked at the criteria for Autism, OP?
 
 
 
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