I started a new job today and the way i come over is shy and vulnerable.
I asked a man around 40 years old if he knew how to fix the photocopier, he says "i havent got a clue" Then later some other guy says "do you know who took the papers" i say erm maybe him i dont know *hesitantly. Now that earlier man laughs in a sniggering way at me. Why would someone want to make me feel small for not knowing something?
Now picture this scene, if i was bold and brave and showed all confidence. this guy would come over nice wouldnt he? Now my bigger question is that in this 2nd situation how can i spot the bullies, it really frustrates me because i really dont want to be confident if it means that i can't spot the fakes or the bullies and it is upsetting me a little bit.