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    And I ****ing hate religion and the bible makes me want to pour bleach my eyes. I love him more than anything we've been in love for like 3 years but I can just feel him drifting away from me. I swear all the time which he hates, I ignore him when he says bible stuff, I smoke and drink while his mum and dad don't even let him leave the house most weekends. I don't know what to do... I can't lose him. Someone help me
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    I m sorry but it doesn't sound like you re a good fit, tell him how you feel and go from there I guess.
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    We all have to make sacrifices in relationships...
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    (Original post by claireestelle)
    I m sorry but it doesn't sound like you re a good fit, tell him how you feel and go from there I guess.
    They sound like a great fit. Three years and she hasn't ran off already? Can't imagine biblical boy being disloyal either
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    (Original post by Das Ich Man)
    They sound like a great fit. Three years and she hasn't ran off already? Can't imagine biblical boy being disloyal either
    He's amazing and would never be disloyal but it's been about 6 months I've felt like this and him wanting to be a bloody minister has changed things. I notice we agree with less and less, he almost looks down on me in a way. I never thought his religion would get in the way of our love but I guess I was wrong
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    Why don't you try reading the Bible? Perhaps you might find the truth in it.
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    (Original post by gwagon)
    Why don't you try reading the Bible? Perhaps you might find the truth in it.
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    (Original post by gwagon)
    Why don't you try reading the Bible? Perhaps you might find the truth in it.
    Or not
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    (Original post by Wolfegirl98)
    And I ****ing hate religion and the bible makes me want to pour bleach my eyes. I love him more than anything we've been in love for like 3 years but I can just feel him drifting away from me. I swear all the time which he hates, I ignore him when he says bible stuff, I smoke and drink while his mum and dad don't even let him leave the house most weekends. I don't know what to do... I can't lose him. Someone help me
    I assume you two arent having sex, because if you were he would def not want to join the church!

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    Lead him to temptation
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    There's nothing you can do.

    If he wants to become a minister then obviously he's past the point of someone being able to pull him out of his chosen faith.
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    Is he a Freemason and into small boys?
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    So pour bleach in your eyes
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    (Original post by Das Ich Man)
    They sound like a great fit. Three years and she hasn't ran off already? Can't imagine biblical boy being disloyal either
    Seems like an atheist being in a relationship with someone who has decided to do a religious job could cause way too much conflict
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    (Original post by Wolfegirl98)
    He's amazing and would never be disloyal but it's been about 6 months I've felt like this and him wanting to be a bloody minister has changed things. I notice we agree with less and less, he almost looks down on me in a way. I never thought his religion would get in the way of our love but I guess I was wrong
    Sounds like you're just a terribly selfish girl. You can do two things:

    1. Be more open minded and actually listen to your boyfriend when he talks about things he's passionate about.

    2. Leave, continue the path you're on without thinking further than "am I secure?"
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    It sounds like a relationship that is about to end.
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    You sound awful for him to be honest. If it's something he cares about you should be happy for him instead of acting like this. I hope he breaks up with you OP.
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    (Original post by Xelfrost)
    You sound awful for him to be honest. If it's something he cares about you should be happy for him instead of acting like this. I hope he breaks up with you OP.
    This. The way you boast "I drink, I smoke, I ignore him when he talks about things he is passionate about" . ....Clearly he's lucky to have you. I hope he follows what he believes he is called to do, and leaves you.
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    Has he been religious from the beginning or is this a recent development? If he always has been this way and you felt this stronger about it, maybe you shouldn't have got into a relationship with him.

    If this wasn't through case then fair enough, you are here now and you clearly have no respect for his beliefs. For a relationship to work both parties need to be supportive of each others endeavours. Let him go.
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    Christians are not meant to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers.
 
 
 
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