I fall in love too easily with guys who show me a bit of kindness or affection

Women with Daddy issues seem a no-no to me, less mature, and secure, and invariably some of them end up sluts because they need male validation a lot and lack self-respect.

Wow... It's like you just dipped into my soul before you wrote that because you seem to really understand how it is a blessing and yet a curse to give out and be drawn so heavily to rawness and openness. I guess it's a blessing that you need to bestow on yourself sometimes to stay protected. Thanks that really helped I actually copied the text onto my phone

Update:

I'm trying to work on the relationship I have with my dad, although I accept we will probably never be close and that a lot of the damage is done. I just text my dad to ask him how his martial arts stuff that he has recently taken up is going. We don't really initiate contact with each other I usually just say hi to him when I skype my mum. I know it's only a small thing but hopefully it's a step in the right direction. I can't expect him to take an interest in me if I don't mutually take one in him

I'm the same for girls

There was a long time where I would do anything for my friends as well but it only led to me becoming their favourite doormat. I've since wised up in that area and now I need to wise up in the relationship realm but I have very little experience with it.

I suppose with girls some of them may just lure you in for the attention? I have to say that's pretty pathetic of them, but I would hope that such women becoming easier for you to spot initially with time?

Really? You are so lacking in self worth that you want a girl who is so emotionally troubled she latches onto anything with nothing more than a kind word.

So many guys in this thread being pathetic.

OP, you need to find your own well being, as it stands are leaving yourself open to any emotionally stunted dipshidiot that comes along

Try not to rely on others to complete yourself or you'll never stop looking or get trodden in the dirt

Pfft, that's not love. You just get a crush and over think it.
Don't make love something so cheap like all the people seem to do nowadays.

That's a good step in the right direction. You're very brave to do so; I know that couldn't have been easy.

she didn't mention that she detaches easily too. :P

Anyways, in a girl like her, most people would see "Easy girl, Free Test Drive, Limited Time Offer". That was my point :P Really perverted but.....welcome to the internets.

Seems like a lot of gooey, semi-religious, emotional mumbo-jumbo.

But I agree with some of it, OP, you may need to learn to respect & appreciate yourself more.


I realise that, but sometimes issues like these are deeper rooted in the subconscious.


Loneliness makes even a flicker of affection, seem so much brighter.

But yeah, it seems like she is obsessing over simple infatuation.

Ahh that happens to me too
Do you get sexually attracted to them btw?

Women with Daddy issues seem a no-no to me, less mature, and secure, and invariably some of them end up sluts because they need male validation a lot and lack self-respect.

So many pathetic answers. Grow up.

Yep you have 'daddy issues'.

The effect on women who did not receive enough love and affirmation from their fathers is actually very serious. A lifetime of self-esteem and attachment issues as well as an unhealthy desire for male attention of any kind. If you also grew up without brothers you may find it very difficult to relate to men and struggle to get 'close' to them.

Have professional counselling. Get help now so that these issues don't affect you for the rest of your life.

true... to an extent. Girls who are too proud and independent are a big fat nono imo

That's not of relevance here either as I am not proud or independent. I'm very dependant but I would like to strike a balance.

Also, what no one wants to talk about is Mommy issues exist too, as superbly demonstrated by many fine specimens here on TSR who lack respect because their mother's didn't love them enough so now they are filled with resentment.

There is, but you're right it's not the answer. You're gonna have to force yourself to just stay out of relationships until you're confident that you aren't going to get attached to guys easily. You'll need to consciously push out any feelings you start to develop.

I've never been in a relationship... Well I had a boyfriend once who dumped me within a week of asking me out as he said he wasn't ready for a relationship I'm nearly and old maid now

I suppose I need to work on me but it's hard I don't really like myself I'm a failure.

I don't really know how to put it but you're my type tbh. I get attached to girls who give the slightest attention to me. Its the reason why i am so depressed irl. I wish i could somehow settle down, too. I guess life just goes on.