The Student Room Group

Me Again...

Posted twice before ("Want To Get Out Of This..." & "Posted Earlier...Help!")
regarding my living situation.

Basically, I'm not getting on with my flatmates, and for many reasons, I absolutely do not want to live with them next year.

I have one other option; which lies with moving into another house. At present, there is another girl who has looked round the house with the intention of moving in. Basically, they are waiting for her to get back to them. I am good friends with one of the girls, but do not know the others particularly well.

However, I have received everal messages from the two girls (my friend isnt really involved with it; its a house of 15) telling me that the place is mine if the other girl does not want it.

They have said that she is "really taking her time" and that they'd "like to meet me to discuss it all" etc etc.

However, they were supposed to be calling the girl this evening. They want to sign the forms "asap" so need an answer from her. So therefore its all resting on this girl deciding that she doesnt want to live there. I chased it up with my friend at 7pm asking if she'd heard anything, and she said:

"Hey, no x and x (the ones in charge of documents etc with landlord and who have been messaging me about it) arent home yet. X said she's gonna speak to the girl tonight and I will make sure that she does. I'll let you know as soon as I do"

Im yet to receive any information...

What should I do? Surely no news is good news, as they've been messaging me for most of the day, but what would you do in this situation?

Thanks in advance for any replies x
Reply 1
Help, I am at the end of my tether!
Reply 2
Phone them up and totally try to get that place, forget about the other girl
Sell yourself - say you're ready to make a decision straight away and to move in etc lol
Reply 3
Yeah but Ive already asked this evening and she said she'd get back to me as soon as she knew. We live in Oxford and May Day's a pretty big deal, so I guess they're busy. When should I next make contact? I know I sound pathetic, but Ive never been so miserable in all my life
Well I suppose no news is good news and she did say she'd contact you when she finds out.

I'd chase it up a litt;e more. Let us know how it goes x
Reply 5
Just wait till morning if that screws up then move in with a bunch of strangers :biggrin: i love doing that
Reply 6
That isnt really an option, we only have two weeks left of term. I just dont see how this is taking so long?? Surely if she really wanted the room she would have taken it by now? Im positive she would have said if it had been taken this evening. Im so anxious; I swear Uni isnt all it's cracked up to be, Ive majorly screwed it up...
Reply 7
im confused as to why its not an option?
Reply 8
Because I dont know of any other vacancies and not sure if i'd be comfortable with that either. I really want this house as I know the girl and a few others briefly. I just know Id be happier here. I appreciate that Im coming across a little melodramatic but Im just so unhappy and am dreading returning in September if I have to move back in with my current housemates.
Reply 9
:s-smilie: well finding other vacancies is easy. Just look on notice boards, student mags, estate agents etc. You cant pin all your hopes onto this one house. If you are finding Uni this tough perhaps you should think of either changing unis or finding something else to do. Its ridiculous that you have got yourself into this situation but i can empathise
Reply 10
Thank you for your help, but I probably wont. I suppose the longer it goes on, the less likely she is to accept the place. Or thats my theory anyway. Im only saying this because the girl who is sorting out all the contract etc told me that she was "going to have a serious conversation with her today" and that she was "really taking her time" so surely she cant want it that much if shes messing around like that. Also, the other girl (who is also in charge of the situation) said that it would "be good to meet me to talk". I really dont know. Im clutching at straws.
Reply 11
Mate, I'm struggling to see what you want us to say. It's pretty clear that in your own mind you've said, it's either this house, or I'm moving back in with my old flatmates who have made me miserable this year... If you've given yourself this ultimatum, then, Yes, of course you're going to be clutching at straws... I'm not going to talk about whether or not I think you're going to get this room, because I'm not a mind reader nor a mystic.

what I can do though is assure you that these aren't your only options.
I can guarantee that there will be other people trying to fill places in their houses. I know you've already dismissed this as an option, because you "wouldn't feel comfortable" doing that, but please ask yourself this question:

If you don't get the room in this house, are you going to be "comfortable" going back to live with your old flatmates?

From everything you've said so far, the answer is no. From everything you've said so far, pretty much anything would make your life a little bit happier if you didn't have to live with them. Do yourself a favour and don't limit your options because you're unsure of what else is out there. The probabilities lie in your favour of finding somewhere else where you will be happier....

Answer ads, and meet up with all of the people you would be considering moving in with. you never know, you might find a whole new bunch of people that you really get along with.

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but it looks to me like you've found "the perfect solution" (if it weren't for this other girl) and aren't willing to consider anything else if that doesn't work out.

Hun, I know how difficult it is to live with people who get you down. I've been in a position where it got so bad I had to sneak in and out of the house so no one knew if I was in or not. It got so bad once, I booked into a B&B for a week... But, when I was in that position, I knew the absolute worst thing for me to do would be to move back in with them. Eventually after some looking, somewhere worked out. It wasn't the most ideal solution, but I landed with my feet on my ground and I've been happier with my living situation this year than I was last year.

Please do a bit more searching around - it'll be to your benefit. And, do it as soon as possible to open your mind to the options to help you stress about it a little less.

Take care,
Cxx