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does being in a good relationship make life much easier

relationships require effort. my question is do they make the lives of young people (18 - 25) much easier of they are in a good relationship?? i am thinking in terms of work and education.

Reply 1

FyreFight

14

From my experience, I don't think so, no. Much easier and faar less hassle to just have a close group of friends.

That's definately not to say that being in a relationship is a bad thing. I just don't think they make life any easier.

Reply 2

Barny

17

I'd say so, having regular sex and spending time with somebody who's company you enjoy can only be a good thing, in my books.

Reply 3

romario

OP

NSiky

From my experience, I don't think so, no. Much easier and faar less hassle to just have a close group of friends.

That's definitely not to say that being in a relationship is a bad thing. I just don't think they make life any easier.

hassle but good hassle?

it sis like asking is having a job better than being unployed? i reckon the company of friends can only take you so far.

Reply 4

BellaNotte

3

Depends what situation your both in, if you have enough time to spend with eachother etc, for me it makes life harder because i have to make time to see him without parents finding out, and for it not to interfere with my uni work cos im finding it pretty hard.

It is nice though having someone there for you, but then again if you have a good group of friends you have people there to make life easiar and more enjoyable for you i guess..

Reply 5

BellaNotte

3

Hmm also i have to see my bf seperatly and my friends seperatly cos they just dont mix unfortunatly, so instead of being able to see them all at once, i have to make twice the time out to see them, again taking more time out from work hehe. so, its always good to have a partner that gets along with your friends.

Reply 6

scribble_girl

14

I don't think so. I think part of being young is being head over heels for one guy one week, and the next dumping him because he's too tall (not joking - my 15 year old sister once did that :s-smilie:

!) or getting dumped and sobbing your heart out because you really thought you loved him after 3 weeks.

I think having a good and solid relationship through your teens is a bit silly. Which is kind of hypocritical, because I was in two long relationships before I turned 17. But I think that in adulthood you've plenty of time for developing relationships with others, when you're young, you should be just that, and develop your sense of self before you commit a large part of yourself to another person. Just finding your feet as the person you are, hanging around with your friends, making the odd mistake, having the odd regret - it's all what being young is about and if you're tied to someone I think you'd always look back and feel you missed out. Also, no realationship is without it's heartache, and that amount of pressure when you're young can be detrimental, in my opinion :smile:

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Having said that, I'd apply that to under 18s - and I just read your above spec. of it being 18-25s. On this I'd say longer and more solid relationships are a good idea; not many of them will last forever, but I think by this age you're more secure in yourself.

Reply 7

Talya

16

It made my life a lot easier! Someone to talk to when I was stressed.. hugs = stress relieving!

Reply 8

Vegemite

Depends on what kind of person you are. If you're pretty independant and you need heaps of space to function, relationships make stuff harder. If you need other people around you to function, it could help.

Reply 9

Angelharpist

13

I'm in a fairly long term relationship, and I'm having a completely mad time at uni. Just way too much going on, not enough time, feeling a bit :frown:

but having my boyfriend on the end of the phone, or at the end of a quick train ride back to London keeps me sane...

Reply 10

TheConfuddledOne

10

My girlfriend was there for me when my nan died 2 months ago. It made life a lot easier and I coped a lot better with her by my side to talk to and cuddle.

Reply 11

lukeitfc

Not your academic life. I've been seeing this girl, and I've had to call it a day because of my exams. In my opinion a teenage relationship is not grounds to sacrifice and jeopardise my futur, and if she can't understand that, then feck her.

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romario

relationships require effort. my question is do they make the lives of young people (18 - 25) much easier of they are in a good relationship?? i am thinking in terms of work and education.

A strong, positive relationship with someone you love is an incredable thing. I does make life so much easier. When it is a good relationship, you can support eachother through tough periods like exams and hassle at work. You can also feel able to give eachother space when things get to much, but still be there to talk to. When things get you down, there is someone who understands and can make you laugh. It is invaluable.

But just because a good relationship (and I mean, really good) is wonderful, don't fall into the trap of actively looking for a partner because you feel you need some support. The best relationships occur naturaly

Reply 14

TheLameMonkey

Being in a good relationship makes everything better.

Being in one which has lost that which made it special makes everything very difficult.

Reply 15

Schmokie Dragon

17

Amen.

My last relationship - once the shine had worn off, it became a very difficult, stressful time. He is part of the reason I didn't do as well as I could have at school and became very depressed. The tosser nearly made me kill myself. Take it from me, if it isn't a life affirming experience, get out.

Reply 16

messynessie

1

romario

relationships require effort. my question is do they make the lives of young people (18 - 25) much easier of they are in a good relationship?? i am thinking in terms of work and education.

Kind of. I have kinda, anxiety issues, have had for a long long time and having him around has just improved me so much, just to know there's someone I can feel totally safe with... but then again, yes it's stressful, cause it's not all sun and rainbows, and takes up time I *should* be spending on work... so sometimes I feel a bi user-y as he just kinda 'fills in the time'... being 4 years older than me.

Reply 17

D-503

1

romario

relationships require effort. my question is do they make the lives of young people (18 - 25) much easier of they are in a good relationship?? i am thinking in terms of work and education.

I think, in terms of academic work, it depends on how much you have in common with the other person. For example my girlfriend is equally committed to getting good grades as I am, and in a similar position to me, so it does make life easier to have someone to talk to if you get stressed and to be able to end a conversation quickly with no bitterness by saying that you need to get back to work. Sometimes it is tough and more hassle, but it is a price worth paying for the mutual support and affection relationships offer. My girlfriend is class, last year she stayed up on the fone to me til 5 dictating her english lit notes on the night before the exam cus i hadnt made any. Also, judging by my single friends, the gnawing insecurity that many people feel when they are alone is far more a distraction.

Reply 18

girl89

1

If it's a good stable relationship, then definately. Well it makes my life a little easier. When I'm in a relationship I'm generally less stressed and don't get down too much. People are different, I like having someone pay me attention, someone to talk to, someone to chill out with other than your friends.

Reply 19

shona

10

Definitely.

He's busy with his work right now, and I'm busy with mine (just taking a quick TSR break! :wink:

), but I feel calm just thinking about how much he loves me. It's doing wonders for my stress management. :biggrin:

does being in a good relationship make life much easier

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