Boss taking me to a play - hidden agenda?

Hi, TSRrians, sorry had to create a new profile, really needed this to be anon.

My boss, at my part-time job offered to take me to the theatre, in another city from where we live. This came about by him asking many months ago that what have cities have I visited, sights that I've seen in england etc. So when I replied that I haven't had time to see almost anything yet, he started listing all kinds of places of interest, offering to take me when I'm not busy at uni.

Well, I just thanked him and said hopefully I'll have time soon to do all the things. Tbh, I was a bit shocked. He wasn't flirty in any way, and always acts very appropriately with me, and I think he's a really nice guy (very fit, may I add :biggrin:

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Anyway, it came up again now that I've been on my reading hols, obviosly not that tied up with uni work. So now we're going to see a play. I'm also quitting my job in a months time, moving to another country for a year.

I guess, what I'm asking here is that do you think this is a date in his opinion (he's given me a lift home from work many times)? Could he just be a really nice guy, just sincerely offering to take me?
We get on well, don't see him more than once a week for a couple of hours at work. I'm thinking our age gap is probably around 10 yrs..
Thanks for reading and any ideas!

Reply 1

sidi

Well even bosses need love! Does this involve an overnight stay or is it just the play? You have to go with your gut feeling about how genuine he is. It's so sad that we are immediately suspicious when someone offers something good.

Reply 2

Marianne

Go for it. I don't see what the problem is...

Even if he's "expecting" something at the end, if you don't feel it then say no... Who knows, you might even have fun :smile:

sidi

Does this involve an overnight stay or is it just the play?

Misread that- I missed out "the" lol... Sounded a bit dirty....

Reply 3

JG333

I don't know whether it's an overnight stay, the play finishes around 11 pm then an hour and a half back home.. We'll discuss the details further in the week.. Do you think he might want to stay the night there?
If so, what should I do? Can't say, I don't fancy him A LOT, but in the end of the day he's my boss.. If something were to happen, would it be appropriate? and I'm not saying that I necessarily want anything to happen!!! a bit confused... :rolleyes:

Reply 4

Louise88

It's possible that he likes you, of course it is but even if that is the case, it doesn't mean that anything has to happen. You've said that he hasn't flirted with you and he has never treated you inappropriately. I think he was probably just being a nice guy when he first asked you to do something, so that you could see some of the sites. I don't know, nobody knows how he feels so we can't tell you what to do but if you feel uncomfortable with it, politely refuse. I don't see what harm it can do, like someone has already said, bosses are people too and they are entitled to friends and partners. If you want to go, go and see what happens. If at any point you are uncomfortable, tell him.

Reply 5

billyboymccoy

Maybe hes got no one else to go with? None of his friends like goign to Plays or whatever.

Reply 6

Darren Marc

Why not go? You yourself said he doesn't seem to be coming onto you, people can be friends with other people and not have an hidden agenda. If you haven't been to a play, then go, its not everyday you get offered tickets to a play.

If he does make a move then just tell him what you're feeling's are. At the end of the day, if he does try anything too dodgy, which he most probably won't, then you know exactly where to find him the next day to sort it out.

And, you fancy him anyway, so why not go to the theatre with a man you thinks fit, better than him taking you to a Liquid Club (mainstream generic club in most cities) to get pissed.

Reply 7

Angelil

Go for it. It may well be that he's just thinking of the play and nothing else, which is fine.
It may well be that he's thinking of more than that. If you're both single and you're happy to run with it, then do. You're both entitled to happiness, even in the context of the work situation (especially if you're going abroad for a year - it doesn't sound like you'll be at the job for long enough to worry about it!).
Personally I've never understood all the kerfuffle about age-gap relationships. Have fun :smile:

Reply 8

sssh

Go, it sounds like fun, although I wouldn't stay the night if he mentions that, that sounds a bit weird.

Hi, TSRrians, sorry had to create a new profile, really needed this to be anon.

mods...what did we tell you...not that I'm criticising the decision to remove anon posting, it does need some kind of regulation, but there will be loads of new users now doing the same as the OP.

Reply 9

sssh

I'm not sure if I like "TSRians", it makes us sound like some kind of Nazi master-race of the internet.

Reply 10

Darren Marc

sssh

I'm not sure if I like "TSRians", it makes us sound like some kind of Nazi master-race of the internet.

your saying we're not, damm i'm on the wrong forum

Reply 11

silverbolt

sssh

I'm not sure if I like "TSRians", it makes us sound like some kind of Nazi master-race of the internet.

oh dont be so sensitve, its not like that at all *grins guiltily

*whispers to secret polices to have sssh nuetralised :biggrin:

OP im kinda failing to grasp the problem here, this guy by your own admission is a nice bloke and fit and has never been anyway leechy toward you at work. Hes been perfectly nice. So whats the problem exactly?

It could be a date or it might not either way just go and see where it leads

Reply 12

The Little Mermaid

Right now it sounds friendly unless the word "date" or "shag" came up somewhere in the conversation that you forgot to mention :wink:

He could be testing the waters to see how things go between you two, or he could just be a really nice boss! They do exist I've heard. Never saw one personally but you could have gotten lucky. Go, have a good time, and see where you stand afterwards. Just take it as an easy thing and don't have any expectations until he explicitly gives you a reason to. At least now you get to see some of the sights!