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    So my best friend and I started dating about two weeks ago, and by that I mean I asked her out to a date and she said yes twice. We both had been developing a mutual interest in each other romantically. We've been friends since we were 13 (we're both 19 now) and I mean best friends in ever sense of the word. There was never anything romantic until recently.

    We've gone on two dates now, both of which went very well. We have a lot of fun together and really are at ease with spending time together. We definitely have romantic feelings for each other but I can tell we're both struggling to make the transition from friendship to romantic. It's a little awkward sometimes because neither of us really know how to take the next step and start to introduce intimacy/romantic behaviour into the mix. We're so used to being best friends and behaving in a certain way with each other so its all new!

    We havent kissed yet, the most we've done is spend much more time hugging than before and we hold hands. I obviously want to kiss her but get very nervous at the thought (Worried she wont like it, i wont be good enough etc) and we're both also trying to make the transition from friendship to romantic in terms of our conversations, the kind of stuff we talk about. Obviously we still talk about the same things but I guess we're trying to introduce more intimate conversations (about our feelings for each other etc)

    Anyone in a similar situation/who has experience with this that can give me some advice/tips on how to get past this transition and move forward?

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my best friend and I started dating about two weeks ago, and by that I mean I asked her out to a date and she said yes twice. We both had been developing a mutual interest in each other romantically. We've been friends since we were 13 (we're both 19 now) and I mean best friends in ever sense of the word. There was never anything romantic until recently.

    We've gone on two dates now, both of which went very well. We have a lot of fun together and really are at ease with spending time together. We definitely have romantic feelings for each other but I can tell we're both struggling to make the transition from friendship to romantic. It's a little awkward sometimes because neither of us really know how to take the next step and start to introduce intimacy/romantic behaviour into the mix. We're so used to being best friends and behaving in a certain way with each other so its all new!

    We havent kissed yet, the most we've done is spend much more time hugging than before and we hold hands. I obviously want to kiss her but get very nervous at the thought (Worried she wont like it, i wont be good enough etc) and we're both also trying to make the transition from friendship to romantic in terms of our conversations, the kind of stuff we talk about. Obviously we still talk about the same things but I guess we're trying to introduce more intimate conversations (about our feelings for each other etc)

    Anyone in a similar situation/who has experience with this that can give me some advice/tips on how to get past this transition and move forward?
    what changed?
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    I don't know why but I find this so sweet


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    Talking about feelings LOL no wonder you girls were friends for so long. If you want it to be more romantic and less like a friendship speed up the physical intimacy.
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    (Original post by Mihael_Keehl)
    what changed?
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    "lol'd hard"? why?

    I guess what changed is that we're just so compatible and at ease with each other, we've always been, we pretty did everything close couples did but without the romantic stff. we care a lot about one another and i guess at some point in the past few months started to wonder 'what if this person is the right one for me?'. we just developed romantic interest and both wanted to explore our feelings and see where it goes in the hope that we will make the transition to a romantic relationship nicely, but we've also been open with each other that if it doesnt work out/turns out that we're better as friends that there wont be any hard feelings and we'll go back to being best friends
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    (Original post by Das Ich Man)
    Talking about feelings LOL no wonder you girls were friends for so long. If you want it to be more romantic and less like a friendship speed up the physical intimacy.
    lol fair enough haha. Thanks for the advice, i think you're right I guess.
    I would definitely like to take our physical intimacy further but just trying to take things slow without rushing anything.
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    (Original post by Das Ich Man)
    Just kiss her u pansy
    Haha I guess I'll have to get it over with
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    Awh, this is kinda adorable... ye, just snuggle up together on the sofa and it'll happen naturally
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    How about watching a film together, cuddling up while watching it, and then when you're sitting upright look her in the eyes and hold her hands and say 'oh gosh, your eyes are so beautiful' and lean in ever so slightly and boom?
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    (Original post by SeanFM)
    How about watching a film together, cuddling up while watching it, and then when you're sitting upright look her in the eyes and hold her hands and say 'oh gosh, your eyes are so beautiful' and lean in ever so slightly and boom?
    Thats a nice idea Thanks!
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    Awh, this is kinda adorable... ye, just snuggle up together on the sofa and it'll happen naturally
    Aw shucks, thanks
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    (Original post by SeanFM)
    How about watching a film together, cuddling up while watching it, and then when you're sitting upright look her in the eyes and hold her hands and say 'oh gosh, your eyes are so beautiful' and lean in ever so slightly and boom?
    Damn, you're making me sad here :cry2: damned happy memories...
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    increase the physical contact, but it has to be romantic in nature so things like brushing the hair out of her face, or slapping dat ass and you need to include sexual compliments, if its awkward after that there's no hope for you guys
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    Damn, you're making me sad here :cry2: damned happy memories...
    I'm sorry. Break ups suck. The worst thing to do is to just look back on good memories and get lost in them, even if they bring you temporary comfort.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my best friend and I started dating about two weeks ago, and by that I mean I asked her out to a date and she said yes twice. We both had been developing a mutual interest in each other romantically. We've been friends since we were 13 (we're both 19 now) and I mean best friends in ever sense of the word. There was never anything romantic until recently.

    We've gone on two dates now, both of which went very well. We have a lot of fun together and really are at ease with spending time together. We definitely have romantic feelings for each other but I can tell we're both struggling to make the transition from friendship to romantic. It's a little awkward sometimes because neither of us really know how to take the next step and start to introduce intimacy/romantic behaviour into the mix. We're so used to being best friends and behaving in a certain way with each other so its all new!

    We havent kissed yet, the most we've done is spend much more time hugging than before and we hold hands. I obviously want to kiss her but get very nervous at the thought (Worried she wont like it, i wont be good enough etc) and we're both also trying to make the transition from friendship to romantic in terms of our conversations, the kind of stuff we talk about. Obviously we still talk about the same things but I guess we're trying to introduce more intimate conversations (about our feelings for each other etc)

    Anyone in a similar situation/who has experience with this that can give me some advice/tips on how to get past this transition and move forward?
    Just man up, and initiate it. Tell her how sexy she's looking and then just go for it.
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    (Original post by SeanFM)
    I'm sorry. Break ups suck. The worst thing to do is to just look back on good memories and get lost in them, even if they bring you temporary comfort.
    Ye I've been trying to avoid it but reading stuff like this brings it all back :cry:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my best friend and I started dating about two weeks ago, and by that I mean I asked her out to a date and she said yes twice. We both had been developing a mutual interest in each other romantically. We've been friends since we were 13 (we're both 19 now) and I mean best friends in ever sense of the word. There was never anything romantic until recently.

    We've gone on two dates now, both of which went very well. We have a lot of fun together and really are at ease with spending time together. We definitely have romantic feelings for each other but I can tell we're both struggling to make the transition from friendship to romantic. It's a little awkward sometimes because neither of us really know how to take the next step and start to introduce intimacy/romantic behaviour into the mix. We're so used to being best friends and behaving in a certain way with each other so its all new!

    We havent kissed yet, the most we've done is spend much more time hugging than before and we hold hands. I obviously want to kiss her but get very nervous at the thought (Worried she wont like it, i wont be good enough etc) and we're both also trying to make the transition from friendship to romantic in terms of our conversations, the kind of stuff we talk about. Obviously we still talk about the same things but I guess we're trying to introduce more intimate conversations (about our feelings for each other etc)

    Anyone in a similar situation/who has experience with this that can give me some advice/tips on how to get past this transition and move forward?
    Is she quite a taciturn and reserved person?
    Has she ever joked about sexual stuff?
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    Kiss her, man. Enjoy
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    (Original post by Alexion)
    Ye I've been trying to avoid it but reading stuff like this brings it all back :cry:
    :console: I can see how it would.

    These are the early stages, but believe me when I say that there'll come a day that you get tired of it and even if you think about them you just think 'oh, what a good experience that was' and nothing more. It hurts right now and it bites. :shakecane:
 
 
 
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