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    Hi guys,

    I am a 17 year old guy and I have planned to have sex with a girl soon. But to be honest, I am freaking out because I have never properly ejaculated before apart from in wet dreams like 3 times a week (it's a bit weird).

    But every time I watch porn, it never seems to do it for me. I get an erection but it doesn't lead to anything. I have however heavily made out before and have got an erection. I'm worried that I won't ejaculate when I have sex with this girl soon. Does it matter? Am I just a late developer? What should I do? Help!!!!

    PS. I am definitely straight. I have tried to watch gay porn to see, but I found it really hard to watch and I really didn't enjoy it.
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    Hi guys,

    I am a 17 year old guy and I have planned to have sex with a girl soon. But to be honest, I am freaking out because I have never properly ejaculated before apart from in wet dreams like 3 times a week (it's a bit weird).

    But every time I watch porn, it never seems to do it for me. I get an erection but it doesn't lead to anything. I have however heavily made out before and have got an erection. I'm worried that I won't ejaculate when I have sex with this girl soon. Does it matter? Am I just a late developer? What should I do? Help!!!!

    PS. I am definitely straight. I have tried to watch gay porn to see, but I found it really hard to watch and I really didn't enjoy it.
    Thats rather ironic.

    Anyway so long as you can maintain a hard nob then it does not matter if you blow your load or not. Your woman will get pleasure from your shaft moving about inside her and she probably wont even be able to tell if you did fire off. Most likely will end up eating the veg from her lady garden anyway.
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    (Original post by Laomedeia)
    Thats rather ironic.

    Anyway so long as you can maintain a hard nob then it does not matter if you blow your load or not. Your woman will get pleasure from your shaft moving about inside her and she probably wont even be able to tell if you did fire off. Most likely will end up eating the veg from her lady garden anyway.
    Haha thanks for the reassurance but every guy my age ejaculates every time they have sex though right?
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    Haha thanks for the reassurance but every guy my age ejaculates every time they have sex though right?
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    Maybe you're overthinking it, or you're putting too much pressure on yourself?

    If it makes you feel any better, the first time my boyfriend and I had sex (both virgins), he couldn't finish - the next time we had sex he did though.
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    Hi guys,

    I am a 17 year old guy and I have planned to have sex with a girl soon. But to be honest, I am freaking out because I have never properly ejaculated before apart from in wet dreams like 3 times a week (it's a bit weird).

    But every time I watch porn, it never seems to do it for me. I get an erection but it doesn't lead to anything. I have however heavily made out before and have got an erection. I'm worried that I won't ejaculate when I have sex with this girl soon. Does it matter? Am I just a late developer? What should I do? Help!!!!

    PS. I am definitely straight. I have tried to watch gay porn to see, but I found it really hard to watch and I really didn't enjoy it.


    So you orgasm but don't ejaculate?

    This is definitely not normal for a guy your age. There could be both physical and psychological issues here.

    See a doctor. Not for her sake but for yours.

    https://www.urologicalcare.com/ejacu...anejaculation/
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    Practice makes perfect.

    Stupid question: But you are applying friction when watching porn? You are masturbating? As in, you're not just going to just spontaneously ejaculate?
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    So... you can get an erection and physically have sex, but will never ejaculate/be finished? She'll genuinely ****ing love you, you have absolutely nothing to worry about
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    (Original post by stefano865)
    So you orgasm but don't ejaculate?

    This is definitely not normal for a guy your age. There could be both physical and psychological issues here.

    See a doctor. Not for her sake but for yours.

    https://www.urologicalcare.com/ejacu...anejaculation/
    No I don't orgasm at all. But as I said I have wet dreams pretty frequently so it can't be a physiological thing lol
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    (Original post by WoodyMKC)
    So... you can get an erection and physically have sex, but will never ejaculate/be finished? She'll genuinely ****ing love you, you have absolutely nothing to worry about
    Why would she love me? :/
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    Why would she love me? :/
    Most guys ejaculate far too early, before a woman has orgasmed.
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    Just don't get drunk lol then it'll be even harder (not literally)
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    No I don't orgasm at all. But as I said I have wet dreams pretty frequently so it can't be a physiological thing lol

    So when you masturbate you eventually realise it's not gonna happen and give up?

    My guess is you just take an unusually long time to reach the point. Wet dreams can have hours of 'build up'.

    Really surprised you haven't seen a doctor yet bro.
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    (Original post by stefano865)
    So when you masturbate you eventually realise it's not gonna happen and give up?

    My guess is you just take an unusually long time to reach the point. Wet dreams can have hours of 'build up'.

    Really surprised you haven't seen a doctor yet bro.
    Yeah, pretty much. To be honest, all this time, I just put it down to me only being able to be fully turned on by actually physically making out and having sex, not by watching it through porn. I didn't think it was serious enough for a doctor lol
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    (Original post by MysticFire)
    Yeah, pretty much. To be honest, all this time, I just put it down to me only being able to be fully turned on by actually physically making out and having sex, not by watching it through porn. I didn't think it was serious enough for a doctor lol


    Promise me you will see a doctor bro.



    Your penis next week :banana:
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    (Original post by stefano865)
    Promise me you will see a doctor bro.



    Your penis next week :banana:
    See a doctor for what? Stop giving him wrong advice. He is perfectly ok. There are lots of teenage boys out there whose only orgasms happened when they were sleeping and dreaming (wet dreams) cos their 'River Thames' have over flooded it's bank. He is worried cos he hasn't experienced that physically with a girl.

    op should not worry, enjoy it, it might be awkward initially but you,ll get there. just make sure not to knock on the wrong door.

    When I was 16-17, I used to have up to four wet dreams in a week. I never slept outside as I was worried that I might have to wake up in the middle of the night to tidy up and change pyjamas. I was full of mad juice then that any nice booties in burqas could trigger some wicked dreams. I was worried just like the op till I met this crazy chick that looked like Ayana Angel.
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    Some guys don't get turned on as much as others by porn. There's no denying that, at any rate, porn pales in comparison to the real thing.

    Are you currently on any form of medication? Sometimes certain meds can interfere with, ahem, bodily functions.

    Also over-thinking about things can delay/avert orgasm. "Not being in the mood" happens to guys as well as girls!

    But yeah as others have said, being able to go for a prolonged period of time will only make her enjoy herself (and you!) so much more.
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    (Original post by bardnnyc)
    See a doctor for what? Stop giving him wrong advice. He is perfectly ok. There are lots of teenage boys out there whose only orgasms happened when they were sleeping and dreaming (wet dreams) cos their 'River Thames' have over flooded it's bank. He is worried cos he hasn't experienced that physically with a girl.

    op should not worry, enjoy it, it might be awkward initially but you,ll get there. just make sure not to knock on the wrong door.

    When I was 16-17, I used to have up to four wet dreams in a week. I never slept outside as I was worried that I might have to wake up in the middle of the night to tidy up and change pyjamas. I was full of mad juice then that any nice booties in burqas could trigger some wicked dreams. I was worried just like the op till I met this crazy chick that looked like Ayana Angel.

    Bro.

    This guy is 17.

    Never had an orgasm and only ever ejaculated in wet dreams. I wouldn't call this normal.
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    (Original post by stefano865)
    Bro.

    This guy is 17.

    Never had an orgasm and only ever ejaculated in wet dreams. I wouldn't call this normal.

    He is absolutely ok. Nothing is wrong with him except his confidence. He will have wicked orgasm once he has bumped fuzzies. It's not strange even at 17 not to have had orgasm. He has been boinking dem ladies in his dreams every night with happy endings, he only need some courage to tap an ar** .
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    (Original post by bardnnyc)
    He is absolutely ok. Nothing is wrong with him except his confidence. He will have wicked orgasm once he has bumped fuzzies. It's not strange even at 17 not to have had orgasm. He has been boinking dem ladies in his dreams every night with happy endings, he only need some courage to tap an ar** .

    It's his decision. Makes no difference to me.
 
 
 
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