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Should I go away with him?

I've been with my boyfriend just over 3months and things are going great; we're really close, he's met my family and friends back home vias verca. And now he's asked me to go on holiday with him.

I'm really thrilled that he's asked me to go, but the problem is...we'd be going with 7 of his friends from back home. I've met them all once and got on well with them etc. Its just that I feel like I'm intruding on my boyfriend's holiday. Its mostly lads going (of my knowledge anyway). I told my boyfriend this but he said how much they all like me and would love to have me there.

I'm jsut not sure though. I don't have any plans for a holiday except for this, and it is only a week so shouldn't be too bad. I just don't know whether or not to go :s-smilie:

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

I wouldn't go. Let him have a boys trip.

Reply 2

foxiroxi

I went on holiday with my boyfriend to meet his parents, meet his friends and because he wanted me to see where he used to live etc.

Now when it came to meeting his friends it was fine however general day to day stuff was boring. I was doing lads things, what lads wanted to do and because I hardly knew any of them it really spoilt my holiday and I hated that part of it. So much so I don't acctually want to go back to phuket again with my boyfriend. Could prove intresting a suppose...

Reply 3

tigerladie

if he's asked you it means he wants you to go. im sure itll be fun!!

Reply 4

Darren Marc

Why not go? You'll be with him, granted he'll also be with his friends, but take a book, mp3 player, spend some time chatting to his mates (as a bloke we men do actually like this and appreciate it), some nice underwear and I'm sure you'll have a great time!

Reply 5

*starry_eyed_*

but surely it'll be weird with him and his 7 male mates..and then there being just me. I might not intend to but I'm sure I'll restrict what they do :s-smilie:

Reply 6

Darren Marc

Maybe, but if you're not gonna have a another holiday all year, why not? You can do your own thing, go look around the town, go on a trip, ask him to spend two nights with you so you can go for a nice romantic dinner out. If he really wants you to go, then whats the harm, allow him some space with his mates providing he gives you dinner out and maybe a trip on your own somewhere, thats not too unreasonable in a relationship, surely?

Reply 7

Shockley

My view is that he obviously thinks you're great to be with, not just as a girlfriend but as a general mate to go out with. His friends obviously think you're a laugh too, so I say go on holiday with them, get pissed and have fun. If you stay you'll only wonder what he's getting up to, so, in the words of Peter Kay, book it, pack it, **** off!

Im sure you'll have a fantastic time away :smile:

Reply 8

Louise88

Sounds to me that he is really into you, as are his friends. It's a good thing, of course, but going on holiday may be a little bit awkward for you. If it's just you with eight men, it might be a little strange. Seems like he really wants you to go, and his friends must be alright with it if they are letting him invite you. At the end of the day, it's up to you what you do.

If you go, try and spend time with them as a group aswell as having time alone with your boyfriend. This will be a good chance for you to spend some time getting to know his friends more, and getting to know your boyfriend more.

If you don't want to go, see if you two could have a little break somewhere else. It could be for a week, two days, whatever. There is no harm in asking if you two could have some quality time together rather than going on this holiday.

I don't know what I would do, and i'm sure this post is useless but nobody can make the decision for you. Only you know if you want to go, and only you can make the decision. It has some good points, it has some bad but maybe the good points overrule the bad ones, it's all down to you.

Reply 9

Mrs_F

Why don't you take a friend too? Then it won't be awkward just you and all these men.

Reply 10

shona

Personally, I wouldn't go.

Eight men and one girl? I'd be flattered that my boyfriend asked, but always conscious that at least a few of the other seven wouldn't want me there, but hadn't said anything for fear of upsetting my other half.

If any of the other seven were bringing their girlfriends, I'd go for it. But to be the only girl? Sounds like you'd be stepping on their toes. Let him go on his blokey holiday and make him bring you back something nice. :smile:

I wouldn't mind going on holiday with only my male friends, but that's because they're MY friends, and I would know they genuinely wanted me there. If you're still at the stage with your boyfriend's mates, where you consider them to be HIS friends, and not friends of BOTH of you, I'd suggest it might get a little awkward during the holiday.