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In september I am going to a different uni to my boyfriend, and EVERYONE is telling me that it isnt going to last, we will fall out of love etc. we have been together for 2 years and he means so much to me. just out of inerest, has anyone been able to keep up a long distance relationship at uni? and how often did you get to see each other?
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I did... for the first term or so. I came to England, he stayed in Germany. You change so much in the first few months of Uni that it is very likely you'll grow apart. It happens.
oh thats so sad 
Well, not really. We stayed good friends. I have a new boyfriend and he has a new girlfriend... we double-dated over Easter. Keep cool, stay friends, enjoy the ride.
A friend of mine who I use to dance with was with her bf for 3years n they both went off to different unis!
2years into their degrees, they are still together!
So it is possible to keep a long distance relationship going!
GD
2years into their degrees, they are still together!
So it is possible to keep a long distance relationship going!
GD
a bit different, but my best friend met her bf when she was in her first year of uni in london and he was in his last; so after that year, he moved back to Derby and she's still in london, now a few months away from graduating and they're still happily together, so long distance relationships can definitely work - it's just whether or not the dynamics of the relationship change and whether you can go back to being close ALL the time after being used to spending weeks/months apart
(that happened to me in a bad way - went from long distance to being round the corner and went SO wrong - but that's a different story so hey
)
(that happened to me in a bad way - went from long distance to being round the corner and went SO wrong - but that's a different story so hey
)
HLouise
In september I am going to a different uni to my boyfriend, and EVERYONE is telling me that it isnt going to last, we will fall out of love etc. we have been together for 2 years and he means so much to me. just out of inerest, has anyone been able to keep up a long distance relationship at uni? and how often did you get to see each other?
My roomate's girlfriend lives 100 miles away from him, but they still find time to see each other every week.
At the end of the day, if you both truely care and love each other that much, then this shouldn't be an issue at all. Throughout life our partners are gonna work at different jobs, have different friends, have different interests, but in the long run, you can't watch over them 24/7 or be with them for that amount of time.
It all comes down to trust. I've held a long distance relationship down for a couple of years, my girlfriend went to uni for 4 of those years and i didn't, she go's out with her girly friends clubbing and has good close bloke friends, yet throughout I knew i could trust her and the fact that she wasn't with me every day, made our relationship stronger in a strange way, coz you end up cherishing the time together more. Also, giving you your own space and time to focus on things which you would like to do, and in your case, allowing you to focus on the uni work or drinking depending on what is more important to you.
Sorry I'll stop now, but to sum up on my opinion, there's no reason why the distance should be a factor at all, even if you were in London and he was in Blackpool, if you both love each other enough, you'll stay together for as long as you both want to stay together. Even when it means driving for 5 hours in traffic on a friday night 200miles when you're not feeling too good, just to see their smile and spend one day with them (god i sound like a girl). Only the two of you can make it work and i hope it does work out for you both.
It all comes down to trust. I've held a long distance relationship down for a couple of years, my girlfriend went to uni for 4 of those years and i didn't, she go's out with her girly friends clubbing and has good close bloke friends, yet throughout I knew i could trust her and the fact that she wasn't with me every day, made our relationship stronger in a strange way, coz you end up cherishing the time together more. Also, giving you your own space and time to focus on things which you would like to do, and in your case, allowing you to focus on the uni work or drinking depending on what is more important to you.
Sorry I'll stop now, but to sum up on my opinion, there's no reason why the distance should be a factor at all, even if you were in London and he was in Blackpool, if you both love each other enough, you'll stay together for as long as you both want to stay together. Even when it means driving for 5 hours in traffic on a friday night 200miles when you're not feeling too good, just to see their smile and spend one day with them (god i sound like a girl). Only the two of you can make it work and i hope it does work out for you both.
Stagra
If you truly love eachother then, well, you wouldn't be having a long distance r/ship.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
This suggestion is a bit ridiculous IMHO... at 18 the most important thing is your personal future, especially if you're amibitous and career-orientated (and I imagine at least 90% of people going to uni have -some- ambition). Love will find a way to keep going if it's strong enough.
My boyfriend was in year 13 and I was in year 12 when we met & started going out. This was about 2 and a half years ago now - he went to the uni he wanted to go to, and although I found it really hard when he was in his 1st year, we did the best we could seeing each other as often as possible. Now I'm in my 1st year at the uni I chose for career prospects (ironically we're closer in terms of train rides than when I was still at college), and still going strong - I've found it easier to cope with this year because I've had a LOT of things on my mind to dwell on instead of missing him!
We just see each other as much as possible in the holidays, and accept that we'll see each other less because of all the work we have to do. We still talk quite a lot... and we're looking forward to summer!
It seems a mixed bag with my friends. One of the guys I knew went to the same uni as his girlfriend, they're still together. Another has the Brighton-Exeter gap to bridge, and they're going strong. Another has a Canterbury-Bristol gap... and, well, that fell apart because she got a mad crush on someone else... but she always was a bit flaky in that way anyway.
In short, I think it depends a lot on the people!
Stagra
If you truly love eachother then, well, you wouldn't be having a long distance r/ship.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
That's just idiotic. Jepordising your future because of a boyfriend.
If you truly love each other then it will last. All my room mates have left their boyfriends because they've gone to different Uni's. A couple see them every weekend but one only sees him once a month. So it can work
My girlfriend and I are going to different university's in september also. We're being realistic about it, we don't know what will happen. I love her so much, but i accept the fact that we're both going to change. If you're meant to be together, you will be- just try not to worry about it too much. x
Stagra
If you truly love eachother then, well, you wouldn't be having a long distance r/ship.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
You'd do everything to keep close and see eachother often, such as looking for other uni's.
yep that is utterly ridiculous, we are both doing very different courses.
thanks very much for your replies! i guess it does depend on the people in the relationship, not distance or anything like that. thanks for giving me some hope!
Not that many do last, I think I was one of the few to survive through University. But you can do it, if you truely love each other and work at it then it is possible.
My ex boyfriend was English, i'm Scottish, so there was a fair bit of distance between us. I was in full time education during our whole relationship and he worked full time. We barely got to see each other, but we managed to make it last for three years. I fell out of love with him, the last year of our relationship was pretty crap. The lack of contact go to me and eventually, I just didn't love him anymore. I'm now with someone else and i'm very happy. Not the same situation, but long distance all the same.
Long distance relationships are hard, believe me. The lack of contact is difficult and sometimes, people do fall out of love. Long distance relationships work for some couples, they don't work for others. Some couples are meant to last, some aren't and if you don't try, you never know what will happen. Your friends might be right, maybe you two will fall out of love but what if you don't? It's a risk worth taking in my opinion, no matter how difficult it is. I know that if my current boyfriend decided to leave here and go to uni, I would stick by him, or at least give it my best shot.
At the end of the day, nobody really knows what will happen. Some people make it, some don't. You just need to decide if you want to carry on with the relationship and give it a shot.
Long distance relationships are hard, believe me. The lack of contact is difficult and sometimes, people do fall out of love. Long distance relationships work for some couples, they don't work for others. Some couples are meant to last, some aren't and if you don't try, you never know what will happen. Your friends might be right, maybe you two will fall out of love but what if you don't? It's a risk worth taking in my opinion, no matter how difficult it is. I know that if my current boyfriend decided to leave here and go to uni, I would stick by him, or at least give it my best shot.
At the end of the day, nobody really knows what will happen. Some people make it, some don't. You just need to decide if you want to carry on with the relationship and give it a shot.
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